Relationship Issues for PLs

Well I actually do have sufficient judgement to refrain from asswiping and bidet jokes and "brilliant!" is my version of "lol" -- appropriate for discussion boards but not a mantra!

I am a happy guy though! And I do have a cute dachshund puppy! Though 4got2usethepapers is on his nickname! He's not AKC registered as 4got2usethepapers! ;)

That said I haven't had a SO since I broke up with my ex in early Feb! But yes, I can indeed function with women I don't pay! :)

I'd guesstimate that 99% of women would not like their man going to SCs – I've even heard over on SW about dancers saying they don't want their man going to SCs.

Actually – this thread IMO pretty much answers PoleDancer's question in the other thread – i.e. that most people, male or female; do not want to date or be in a relationship w/ someone whom either visits SCs nor works in them.

Relationship? What the hell is that?

I think most "normal" women don't stand a chance for frequent SC patrons. Dancers are the fantasy women who mostly have great tits and their job is to make a man feel like a stud who gets their attention. It can be very intimidating to women who are not confident in their sexuality.

^ not only that but SCs offer instant gratification w/ no strings attached – why buy the cow ...

Strippers are everything I want in women.

Amen!

Really jackslash? Part of what you want in a woman is someone who wants you to pay for EVERYTHING! ? Even sitting on her lap?

*her sitting on your lap

With many women you pay and don't get what you want – at least w/ strippers you often have a much better chance.

I would never tell my g/f's through the years that I enjoyed the hobby. But then with my current g/f I thought I'd try an experiment: I'd tell her the truth about everything. The acid test came last fall when I was hanging with my ATF and her S/O (female and my #2) one evening at her apartment, and the next day it came out in conversation that I was hanging with 2 strippers the night before. She thought it was really funny for some reason....because she thinks I'm just slumming I suppose I it was just about sex. I don't see it that way at all; I have strong feelings for these women, but she liked i was honest and I liked she didn't throw stones. She's a keeper I think.

IME, women almost always fall into two categories. Those who feel threatened by strippers and those who think it is funny and/or intriguing. Most of the very good looking ones are in the latter camp, and have at least contemplated it themselves?

I don't like it when everyone knows you visit strip clubs. The last place I worked at someone must have been talking. One girl at work suddenly approached me and said how about a one nighter at a hotel?
Aniother girl at work I never talked to came up to me and said she was thinking about stripping then asked, do you think I would make a good stripper?
given , my response now probably would be different than back then.
It was probably the guy. I showed some pics of naked porn stars sitting on my lap. He probably thought I fucked them. They were just feature entertainers. He had a big mouth.

"Dancers are the fantasy women who mostly have great tits" - ROFLOL... what clubs are you going to that have "fantasy women", MrsSeaboard??? The quality I'm finding these days is f-ing depressing.

I partly agree with Che. A lot of women will tolerate a lot... but IMO the caveat is this toleration only exists if the guy has some quality that makes the girl wet.

" The quality I'm finding these days is f-ing depressing "

Being a newbie in the SC world I still see some great tits and beautiful women. But being a woman myself I also can look past the small flaws that they may have. It takes a helluva lot of balls for these women to get naked in front of so many men. Which reinforces my point of that Everyday women dating a SC regular have a lot to live up to. If y'all are stating that dancer quality has been depressing - what do you think when civvies drop their panties?

But my many chapters will be full of true sex stories and techniques. I may devote two full chapters to my conquest to discover and unlock the potential of the G spot. At least three chapters on how to best pleasure multi orgasmic young women. Several chapters on vaginal consumption, and I've got to cover effective use of vibrators, just say no to anal sex, my obsession with eating her pussy, why she lets me fuck bareback, holy shit the list is endless. I might need more chapters. And whatever you do don't let SHG out of the basement.

i agree with my wife. Dancers are supposed to be the fantasy that the majority of men (and women) don't think they could ever achieve. I would think that if a civvie found out her SO was frequenting SC's the majority of them would be utterly pissed and hurt. Probably the main point of contention would be her thinking her man didn't think she was sexy enough for him and he felt the need to fulfill a desire elsewhere. It's no different than if she wanted to do a girls night out to go see the Chippendales. I'd bet most men would say hell no but it's no diff.

If you're trying to start dating someone and they find out you go to SC's they might wonder if there's something wrong with you. Maybe you can't handle a relationship or maybe you're a pervert. I guess that's why most people hide their SC activities.

I also have to agree that the quality of strippers can be fucking depressing. I guess in high end clubs in big cities they get plenty of hot women to choose from but in all the other regular cities around the country the pool of women who want to strip is a lot smaller so they have to take most anyone who walks in the door just to make money. Most of the strippers we see are average and we wouldn't look at them twice in the real world. They may be cute but nothing special and are of no interest. I'll say 60% of them. I'll say 30% of the ones we see we have to look away. It's just awful. All we can figure is they must have amazing self esteem. That leaves 10% that we'd actually consider hot and sexy stripper material. So if 10% of the strippers we see are ones we'd consider hot then yeah the quality if pretty depressing. But the main point is we're out together having fun so that makes it all worthwhile.

JS, I think mrs sea could give you a run for your money on your sex chapters. And......never say never ;)

Ah JS I think you're not a bad guy but I wholeheartedly disagree with you. Being a dancer and going to clubs are two entirely different things. You could stop if you met a lady you really cared for. I still have to pay bills no matter how much I might want to impress a new man. I still think you're brilliant though;)

I didn't set foot in a strip club for this past year when I was in a relationship and had no desire to. Now that it's over, It's back on again and I'll go when I get the urge. But that's me. Others will go regardless of the relationship and that's their prerogative. Generally not my style.

I had a gf once that found out about my club life and tuscl she went on to create a account and troll me on tuscl she even revealed my true identity

Lol...shit happen s lol that was 5 gf ago

Just say no to anal sex? JS really? Im surprised

Mrs S, I will let you write the chapter on anal sex. Sorry to disappoint but I don't put my dick up the poop shoot.

Many of the good looking civvies have contemplated stripping? Huh? Where did you hear that?

Whenever I'm in a relationship, I hide my clubbing from her.

@Nukey: by "just asking" them.

Have her call me PM me I can help her. I've had meaningful relationships with as many as 3 dancers at one time. I have only one meaningful relationship going with a dancer now so I have 2 spots open. I just broke up with two others because the broke the rules. So any dancers out there looking for a meaningful relationship. Apply here. Must have at least a 7 in looks plus 36 DD's and good oral skills. Let me know if you want to set up an interview.

I think stripping is a common civvy fantasy. The fantasy being more of a Girls Gone Wild, guys throwing hundreds of dollars at her for just taking her top off. Not being groped for s20.

^ +1