How long does it take for a dancer to remember you?
footballguy
NC
So about a week and a half after that I came back hoping to see her again. After I was there for a while she showed up for her shift. She approached me but she acted like she didn't remember me at all. I could understand her not knowing my name but I would have thought I would have at least seemed familiar to her.
I got a few more LD's from her and went back to the VIP room again. I thought for sure once we got back to the VIP room she would kind of remember me but she didn't.
I finally figured out why I like this dancer so much too. She doesn't look like she should be a stripper. No tattoos or any of the other cliches. She looks like the type of girl that you'd be proud to take home to meet your parents.
I'm not complaining, I just wondered is it normal that she didn't remember me at all? Does it take a few visits before a dancer will remember you? I guess in a way it's good she didn't remember me, at least I know there wasn't anything bad about me that stood out. Or was she testing me to see if I remembered her? Before I got any LD's on the second visit she asked me if I had ever been in The VIP room.
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She likely either sees enough people that you blend in or was drunk, high or otherwise altered enough to *actually* not remember you. Don't sweat it. If you spend money on her and she *still* doesn't remember you, spend your money elsewhere and see what happens.
6 months? You know what they say about those Asian girls - an hour later...
Nah, it's gotta be your breakdancing moves
We're assuming you're a normal looking guy, not someone with, say huge sausage like fingers that would really stand out
I was the only one that went up to tip her when she was on stage so I figured she would come up to me when she was done so I didn't ask her to come see me when she was done. Unfortunately someone got her as soon as she got off stage.
Possibilities...
1. I don't remember because my eyesight and memory are failing.
2. The girls at the clubs that I frequent are all MENSA members. Well, probably not.
3. Ohhhh! This might be it! They all remember my 10-inch member! Oh, no. That's definitely not it.
4. Maybe it's the percentage of my $350K that I leave as a tip. Oops. Not that either.
5. Maybe it's my awesome sense of humor! Most likely so far ;)
6. Maybe it's because --- aww, heck. I have no idea.
If you want to be remembered, usually you need to do something to be memorable. For example, I am currently chasing a cute young thing with hopes of convincing her to do 0TC. At the least, I want to make sure that she continues to be increasingly permissive ITC. The problem is that I make it to her club only once a month at most. So I got her phone number, and I text with her for a day or two before a club visit. That way i'm not just a forgotten walking wallet. I may be only a wallet, but at least I'm not forgotten.
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A lo of guys like the non-stripper, girl-next-door look (no idea why) so she may be really popular and have so many custies that she wouldn't remember you after just one visit, especially if you were "shy" and didn't talk with her much.
Next time try to fraternize, er, I mean chat her up more. If you're shy, stick to topics that you're comfortable with, yet would be memorable and make you stand out in her mind, the the Russo-Finnish War for instance.
But as much as I like that type there's definitely other times when I want a dance from typical stripper.
If you spend at least the average amount of cash on her the first visit, if she's a pro, you just got filed into the potential regular list. If she's not a pro, very unlikely that she'll remember you after one regular visit.
About a nano second.
This is what I've experienced. Dancers, for the most part, tend to be very good at remembering people. And you would never expect that (unless the customer is a regular) because they obviously see many different guys each and every week.
I go to North Carolina a few times per year. When I'm there, I always go to a club called Harper's in Winston Salem and I've had a few dancers remember me even though it had been 4-5 months since I last saw them. Now I did spend money on these dancers, but not so much that it would make me very memorable. Yet, they still remembered me.
I've also had cases when I hadn't been to a particular local club in a few months--and yet a dancer I hadn't seen in all that time remembered me--although I only bought 2 dancers from her on my last visit.
All kidding aside, most dancers in busy clubs meet dozens if not hundreds of guys in a week and can't be expected to remember all of them. I am more impressed by the dancers I've never met who remember me!
SlickSpic, just gotta say "lol!"
Footballguy, don't feel bad about this. Like the other guys have said, these ladies can meet a lot of guys even in just a day. And not everyone has a memory for names and/or faces.
Back in the Twin Cities years ago, I had an ATF at one club; had been seeing her for years. Then one night, she called me "Steve." Um, yeah... I'm not Steve.
Another time, I saw an ad in Minnesota Connection for a massage. The woman in the picture looked damn pretty, so I gave her a call. I was really surprised when she said she recognized my voice. I had met her a year earlier at that same club -- and that was the one and only time we had met before that phone call.
And then on the flip side of the coin, back in February, a dancer at another Twin Cities club asked me if I could give her a ride home. (For some reason, her regular driver had to bow out, and apparently I didn't give her a "creepy old perv" vibe, so she felt safe asking me. And, yeah, I gave her a ride home and, no, nothing happened, doggone it all anyway.) I stopped by the club last month and the only dancer who approached me was this really pretty brunette. When she said her name, I had to ask her if she was the same one from February. That was her, and I felt like an idiot for not recognizing her right off. She hadn't really changed, but for some reason, it just didn't click right off.
Strip clubs are what they are – the best you can hope for is to get good/fair value/treatment for your $$$ - anything else is just the cherry on top – so as long as she treats you well and you enjoy your time w/ her; that is what it’s all about – a PL should not expect to be “special’ in the eyes of a strippers – that is not what they (dancers) are there for and a PL should not have those expectations (if he is smart).
That's was actually an awesome compliment!
Following Miller's Law, she probably met 7 other customers after you.
One club I used to visit maybe once a year, if that. As soon as I would walk in there was this one girl that always remembered me and my name. She remembered me every time after our first meeting and I probably saw her 4 times over 5 years. This was a large club with 100+ patrons on a weekend night (the only time I would go). That's impressive, bad part was, she gave the worst lapdances EVER and she was hot...what a dud.
I've had several others remember me from a year+ span but almost all of them couldn't remember my name. I was never offended because I often forgot their names 5 seconds after they told me.
I got to the club a little bit before she arrived. I was sitting at the bar talking with another dancer. After she changed she was sitting and talking with a guy but she kept making eye contact with me and giving me this incredibly sexy look.
She came up to me a while later and remembered me. I was gonna get a couple LD's from her and I had no intention of going to the VIP with her since I had already spent a good chunk of money before she arrived.
Well I had forgotten how great her LD's are. I knew they were really good but they were even better on this visit. She was a little more comfortable with me so I think that also made a difference.
Well after a couple dances she had me ready to go VIP with her. I know I got suckered in but she's worth it. Had a great time in VIP, and like the LD's, the VIP was even better than the other times I went to VIP with her.
On a side note, one thing that I think is funny cute about this girl: she almost always forgets to collect her money. When we were done in the LD booth she was getting dressed and and didn't mention anything about how much I owed. I just took out my wallet on my own and paid her. She laughed about it and thanked me and said she forgets to ask for the money sometimes until she gets to the bouncer area. And she's even almost forgotten to ask for the money after we are done in VIP too.