I need my space
SuperDude
Detroit, Michigan
How does an old school guy like me find a polite way to tell a cockblocking dancer to get lost? She gloms on to me as soon as I hit the door and parks herself next to me the entire time I'm in the club. I give her a $50.00 tip and encourge her to circulate and earn a living, but she stays. I'm watching hotties go by while this leech just hangs on.
Sometimes she leads the "gang bang," rounding up her friends to try to hit me for drinks. Last night I just bolted for the door telling all of them to fuck off. Not my style. It's getting hard to relax in my regular club with this clinging going on. I know, go to another club. Detroit's got plenty of good choices, but I've got my eye on this spinner that seems ready to go--if I can get free.
Sometimes she leads the "gang bang," rounding up her friends to try to hit me for drinks. Last night I just bolted for the door telling all of them to fuck off. Not my style. It's getting hard to relax in my regular club with this clinging going on. I know, go to another club. Detroit's got plenty of good choices, but I've got my eye on this spinner that seems ready to go--if I can get free.
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Man the fuck up
If falsely accusing her of chicken farts doesn't work, just say "Since you're so into fried chicken how 'bout I get a drumstick and shove it up your asshole? I call it the Colonel's XXXtra KRIS-pay treatment?"
If that doesn't scare her off I'm not sure what I'd do. Maybe then I'd try the crazy shit that sclvr5005 recommended.
Gee...I wonder why she's hanging around...
Come on dude, as others have suggested, be a man and tell her to get lost. You're waiting for someone. Or ask her "who's that hot girl over there, can you tell her to come over?"
Damn, you guys are so worried about politeness and etiquette.
Yes Steve dude...I too am amazed.
However, my chicken fart strategy is quite manly. That's the strategy that ol' SuperDude dude should use!
But have no fear, I think this board can help you. Here are a couple of suggestions:
1. Read some of jerikson40's posts to her. She will quickly be convinced you're such an arrogant jackass that she can't stand to be with you.
2. Read just one of San Jose Guy's posts to her. She'll fall into a deep sleep, and you can drag her out the back door.
Did you really go from polite to "fuck off"?
If you're really a non-confrontational type, you can still do a few things.
Sit at the bar. If she sits down, move. Repeat as necessary.
Sit with somebody else as soon as you walk in.
Say something to the manager, politely.
Many folks have trouble saying “no” – I think you need to go from agreeing via a “yes” or inaction to just saying “no”.
These dancers are salespeople – would you let a car salesman sale you a car you don’t want?
Just say no – no to her sitting down uninvited – no to her asking you for drinks – no to her little gang of friends that also want to suck you dry (in a bad way).
Those dancers are overstepping your boundaries and one should not allow anyone to overstep one’s boundaries.
But in the end; all they care about is your money and they will move on to the next custy once they can’t get yours even by trying to guilt you.
Lately I myself have had to tell a few dancers “no” that I usually get dances from – they try every trick in the book but eventually move on and I end up def having a better visit by interacting and spending $$$ *only* on the dances I want.
It’s not about you – it’s about your money and only you get to decide how you spend *your* $$$.
I've had that work.
"...if she tells the other dancers your an asshole ...". I detest that point of ignorance.
The polite way is basically ask her about the dancer you want to see.
Like: "What do you think about the dancer over there? " Then don't stop talking about her.
Dressy classy and presentable and loosey goosey, act you're ready for some fun and action.
Dancers will see that like a big sign.
And I still had some more lap dances after that from other dancers.
This last trip to Indianapolis, I had a couple of lap dances from one young dancer, along with a half hour in the VIP. Not bad, but she also wasn't impressing me a whole lot either. After the VIP, first she followed me back to my table, then she took off for the back. The second she was gone, I went stage-side and tipped a dancer who really caught my eye. We wound up going straight for the VIP. I spied the first dancer out on the floor; she pouted and she scowled at me a little, but I just continued to hang out with that second dancer.
And last year at another club in Indy, I hit it off with a dancer one night. She asked me to come back so we could hang out and she could get a feel for if OTC was okay (and safe). I went back but another dancer intercepted me (okay, call me weak-willed <g>). That other dancer and I went to the lap dance area for a bit and hung out for a little while. When she stepped out for a moment, that first dancer came up real quick and said she wanted to hang out but couldn't with that other dancer there. When she got back, I said, "I hope you don't mind, but I was really hoping on hanging out with Bella tonight." She accepted and left, and Bella was at my side a couple minutes later.
If there's someone you don't want to see, there are different ways to avoid her or try to get her to leave. You just need to try something -- anything -- other than rewarding her with money to go away.
I don't suffer from that affliction and I have a loud, forceful voice. 'Go Away!' uttered in my own fashion seems to work for me when I'm confronted with this situation.