Turning down dancers looking for dances
I have seen discussions about this kind of thing but its on my mind after the last visit to the club. Went in on Wednesday between appointments mostly for a beer and to watch the World Cup game. Went to the bar to order a beer, girl I dont know immdiately starts chating. She is ugly and I dont like her body at all. I chat w her and a couple of other girls a little bit. There are like 10 dancers and 8 customers, its midafternoon. I know that soon she'll ask about dances. Three minutes in she asks for dances. I say "I'm all set right now, I'm gona watch the game" and go back to should watching the game. She approaches ad asks again like five minutes later. "I'm all set right now" I say again. She excuses herself to the ladies room, then a girl I was eying appoaches. I go off and have a drink,then get dances. After that I need to leave soon, but the girl I said no to twice approaches and starts talking to me again. I'm sure she is gonna ask again about dances. I finish my beer then tell her I need to go.I dont know, should I be more straighforward. Most dancers I've ever encountered get it if I decline dances and go away. But every now and then a girl doesnt get the hint. How do you guys handle it?
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I had no intentions of getting dances last night in one club but let a dancer sit on my lap. I usually don't let a dancer stay long without telling her I'm not interested in dances because they often want something, drinks, tips, etc. I wasn't sure what happened, 40minutes or so later, I was getting 2 for $30 dances from her. I could have gotten it cheaper if I agreed to more dances but I don't like doing that with someone who has never danced for me before.
In another case, I just wasn't sure. I was wondering if the dancer was new. She ended up after arguing with me getting or feeling rejected and sat by the bar never approaching me again. I never saw her again. I didn't even see her approach anyone else. After 3 no's, most dancers won't approach you the rest of the night if they remember you.
As for the original question, I rarely have this problem, but when I do I excuse myself to the bathroom or get up and tip another dancer or just tell her to leave me the hell alone. :)
I love ladies sitting in my lap, bummer my local club has outlawed that. I'm a leg man, my regulars still put their legs across my lap for...easy access :).
LMAO
I'll have to remember that, if I'm ever in need of it. But, I haven't had the need for a snappy line like that in several years.
So true, but the reason is obvious. If Miss Asian Hottie of 2012 comes up and asks me, she's got many dances and more. But if Miss Sow of 2012 comes up, not a chance no matter how much she pesters me.
I think I'll try to remember Oscar's line as well. :)
"If you have any self-esteem issues, I suggest you refrain from reflecting too closely on the potential reasons for that state of affairs."
Merak at Kahoots in Columbus is currently the only one I consistently have to turn down every visit, and usually her at least twice every visit, and yet she still hasn't gotten the hint I'll never get a dance from her.
I have only gotten rude three times, and with two of the dancers it was when they brought up the race card, i.e, "What you don't like ____ dancers?"
I don't count the dancer who a dancer flat out asked me, "it's because I'm fat right?" since obviously she knew she was way overweight, and I truthfully told her, "that and other things," and she ran off in tither.
If a girl is hustling for dances, she's hustling for money. If I'm not interested in giving it to her, I want to at least be courteous enough for her to know that she's better off spending her time trying to get that money from some other guy. It's one thing to not give her what she wants. It's another thing to keep her from getting what she wants.
Strange how we have to follow ANY comment these days about a black person with, "Not to be racist or anything." Idiots, jerks, aholes, etc can come in any color, sex, shape, size, etc...
So here it is:
When they keep asking and asking why I don't want a dance, I reply:
"This place is about fantasies, and you're not mine..."
I've only had two dancers refuse to take no, etc, etc, for an answer and keep arguing with me like a little kid that won't quit as if arguing with me for 15 mnutes is going to make me suddenly want to buy dances. Actually make that one dancer. The other dancer escalated her offers of free stuff she would do with me until I refused to go home with her. If I say no to free dances with her, why would I want to go home with her? Of course did I believe the dances would be free? No, one complaint from her to a bouncer that I did not pay and who do you think would pay?