When you discover someone you know from the non-stripper world is now stripping

An excellent reason to club away from home.

Are you sure she didn't see you?

During her last 2 years of stripping my ATF lived and worked 65 miles away from the club that she only worked at part time. I was with her early one evening when a group of guys came in for a bachelor party. Turns out the guest of honor works with her at her real other job. He said to her "I didn't see you here and you didn't see me and I'm not going to ask you for a lap dance". So I asked her if she trusted him to keep his mouth shut and she said "Yes. I know his fiancée".

How far away is safe?

sc,

65 miles. :)

There is no safe distance. I have heard stories of married guys being half way across the country, walk into some club alone in Las Vegas. Some group of guys is having a bachelor party, which is the only way most married guys get away with being in a strip club, and it's their wife's cousin or something like that.

too bad the weather is too bad out for a road trip up to Detroit!

People can pop up anywhere. After my ATF became my ATF it turned out she lived in my neighborhood and we shopped at the same stores. She since moved closer to the club, unfortunately!

After a night's sleep, I think I'm past it. I think it put a jolt into me, but in the end, a big part of this realm is kind of "what goes on behind the scenes stays there."

Not real worried about myself. A little worried about her and what's going on with her, but she's an adult, makes her own choices with her life and can handle herself. I will continue to say this: In any situation, "run" is never a bad instinct.

It did make me look at this whole thing very differently, though, and I'm not sure how that will impact any activity going forward.

I'd get a dance from her, but I guess there's a good chance it could blow up on you, ie she expects you to get dances from just her, expects loans, and favours, perhaps it was best that you jammed out.

I agree with sofaking. She's a stripper so she'll be pulling strippershit on you big time. I would stay away.

That's probably another good reason to to do your clubbing as an unrestricted free agent. Get in under the radar, scope things out, keep a low profile, and keep your eyes open for stuff like this. Try to be in a position to see them before they see you.

I ran into a guy one time who was a peer of my boss. I had met the guy a few times before at business meetings. We talked comfortably at the club, and I just assumed that we would both keep it under wraps. He probably had more to lose from it than I did. I thought we would leave it behind, like Vegas. Now I'm starting to wonder if he did a preemptive strike on me as a way to do plausible deniability for himself. He could have come to my boss and said that he had heard from people that I had been spotted at the SC. That way he looks clean and he has the leverage on me. Things soured and I was let go, but it would be nearly impossible to know if the SC spotting had anything to do with it.

I agree with Mal2

Wow are you acting silly. Treat her just like you would another guy. Find her during a time when she's not with a customer and let her know you intend to respect her privacy. You can also tell her you feel weird getting dances because of your prior relationship and not to take it personally. Providers who out clients have huge problems in life, so she'll respect your privacy.

@knightwish, I like how you would play it, she can't treat you like an ATM, and no one has to feel weird.

I think personally, I'd fuck it up somehow by asking her for FS, or something like that.

@sofaking87 --

Exactly. You are both on par and... You ask a girl you know in the outside world for FS and that starts becoming an affair with all the possibilities for entanglement that implies. That ain't fucking it up, but it's the exact opposite play.

If one has an SO that does not agree with you SCing; then I could certainly understand not wanting to be recognized in a SC.

I don’t have the SO issue.

Although I tend to be more on the shy/conservative side; after all the SCing I’ve done; I tend to look at things differently than when I first started SCing.

If I recognize a civi at the club that is now dancing; it would actually be a bit of a turn-on to get dances from her to see what it was like – after all; we are both adults and we are both in the SC for our own particular reasons – she’s there to do her thing – I’m there to do my thing – why not do for each other.

Several years ago, I ran into a girl I knew from the real world at my local club. We were both surprised to see each other there. At the time we were both cool with it. She even invited me to her birthday party not long after having crossed paths with her in the club.

I went to her party, but didn't stay long. My spidy senses were tingling that I didn't was to hang with some of the other guests or the party "fixings." (Although, her "goal" for the party was to get all the girls there naked by the end of the night.)

I don't have an SO issue to worry about, but my current work situation is one reason (in addition to the xATF BS) I do somewhat prefer to club away from home.

I ran into a stripper once that used to work at the same place I did. It was really awkward to say the least. She recognized me right away. We talked for awhile, eventually she asked me for a dance, I told her I just don't feel comfortable getting a dance from her, I think she understood. I have avoided that club since I saw her.

The first time I went to a local strip club I recognized a girl from my African Studies class, and at the time recognizing someone was the worst case scenario. She came over and sat with me but as hot as she was, I couldn't get dances from her, I just tipped her a few bucks and left. She was really a cool girl though, the next day I saw her in class she just smiled and waved. Another time I was over at a friend's house and he introduced me to a roommate of his that I had already met at a strip club, we both just acted like we didn't know each other. It actually wasn't awkward at all seeing her there in subsequent visits. When she talked to me it was just a normal conversation, and if she needed a ride home I was as a safe choice.

Assuming your SO is fine with your clubbing habits, you might as well go back if it's a club you like. You know the reality of the situation is that girls find themselves working in clubs because they need money. That doesn't mean she's going to try and get it from you, I think she's more likely to just appreciate having someone there that she recognizes as being a normal, decent guy.

One night I saw two or three ladies who work in the same office as me and one or two guys or SO's. I was hoping they didn't see me and ask questions. I'm thinking maybe they didn't see me. No one ever said anything. If someone were to say something, it would be one of my male coworkers who I spotted more than once. He wasn't there that night or I probably would have heard all about it.

I used to teach as an adjunct at a community college and one night found I was getting a lap dance from a former student . . . awkward . . . but hot too.

Never knew anyone who went on to be a stripper after not being a stripper. I do know this one barista at a coffee shop I sometimes goes to also strips, but I met her as a stripper first, so to see her being a barista was the shock. But she always plays it cool.

The assumption my SO knows I have been to a club at anytime since we've been together is false. Nor would she be pleased, as her jealous streak even with other women in our circle of friends is ... strong.

That is all.