Pariah of the club...
slick316
Iowa
Has anyone ever had this happen to them? Girls talking to other girls about you and eventually you are the loser of the club?
The other day I go to a new club that I haven't been to before. I sat in the middle of the place so I can observe all of the action. 10 minutes after sitting, a nice young lady joins me. We have a simple conversation and all seemed well. I take a drink from my beer, put the bottle down and she grabs my arm. She puts my arm close to her face, she's looking at my watch. She asks "Is it a Rolex?", I said "No, its an Omega." She lets go of my arm. A minute later she excused herself and left. I sat around for 45 minutes, watching dancers walk by me like I didn't exist. I went up on stage to tip, but received no acknowledgment from any of the ladies. Eventually, another young lady joins me. She immediately asks to see my watch. I was just going to get up and leave, this is getting dumb. But I show her my watch. She goes "That girl is so stupid, this is just as nice as a Rolex". I have no idea what she's talking about, so I ask her whats going on. She tells me how the first girl told all of the other girls that I have a fake Rolex on, and so I have no money and I'm just there to waste time. Seriously, what the hell? How is that a way to judge how much money someone has? And that's all it takes, one girl decides I'm a loser and the rest follow?
I'm convinced, no matter how much you pay a women, they're never going to act right.
The other day I go to a new club that I haven't been to before. I sat in the middle of the place so I can observe all of the action. 10 minutes after sitting, a nice young lady joins me. We have a simple conversation and all seemed well. I take a drink from my beer, put the bottle down and she grabs my arm. She puts my arm close to her face, she's looking at my watch. She asks "Is it a Rolex?", I said "No, its an Omega." She lets go of my arm. A minute later she excused herself and left. I sat around for 45 minutes, watching dancers walk by me like I didn't exist. I went up on stage to tip, but received no acknowledgment from any of the ladies. Eventually, another young lady joins me. She immediately asks to see my watch. I was just going to get up and leave, this is getting dumb. But I show her my watch. She goes "That girl is so stupid, this is just as nice as a Rolex". I have no idea what she's talking about, so I ask her whats going on. She tells me how the first girl told all of the other girls that I have a fake Rolex on, and so I have no money and I'm just there to waste time. Seriously, what the hell? How is that a way to judge how much money someone has? And that's all it takes, one girl decides I'm a loser and the rest follow?
I'm convinced, no matter how much you pay a women, they're never going to act right.
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The SC grapevine can just as easily spread the news of a new wad of cash in the club as it can spread the perception you are a brokeass bum.
Honestly, it shouldn't be that hard to get me to spend all the money I came with.
Reminds me of a show on tv about carnival workers in the 30's. If the guy at the entrance gate saw a wad of cash he would give the guy a friendly pat on the to let other carnies know about it,hence the term"Mark".
This was the only real exception. Most of the time when they ignore me, they seem to ignore everyone else.
I went in one time wearing relaxed athletic clothes and a dancer I had my eye on and made contact with stood right by me for about a minute just checking me out and then she walked on. I got up and left with all of my money a few minutes later. I returned after work about a week later dressed up and she tried to come over and chat with me. I had on my nice watch, shoes etc... I told her politely no thanks and waited for my regulars. Maybe I am a prick, but if you don't give me the time of day because I may not be dressed to your specifications even after I tip, make eye contact etc... then I will black-list you. Plenty of other girls that will be willing to earn my money.
You never know how the mind of someone works.
I try to show my cash also to a server.
But being rejected because of a supposedly fake watch. That's a new one for me to hear about.
Going back today, mid afternoon visit. We'll see how that goes.
See no stupid shit !
I will often sit quietly by the bar and have at times been told by dancers that I look mad.
I’m kind of a worrywart and if I am sitting by myself w/ little interaction; I may start thinking about things I gotta do or that are on my mind/worrying-me; and thus I may exhibit a serious face that may be taken by others as me being mad (when I’m really just thinking or worrying about something).
Thus sometimes dancers will not approach me b/c of this. This is usually remedied by:
1) a dancer finally approaching me and me getting multiple dances from them
2) I approach a dancer and ask her and get multiple dances from her
This usually has the effect that the other dancers notice I am there to play and spend – they especially notice if there are not too many patrons getting LDs.
Actions speak louder than words as the saying goes.
Once you get a couple of dances from a dancer; the others will notice you spending and will want their cut.
There is probably nothing that will piss of a dancer more than not making any $$$ or seeing another making $$$ while she is not. If dancers notice you getting dances and then subsequently sitting alone – you’d probably be approached more.
You may also have to be proactive and approach a dancer you are interested in order to let the hos know you are no chump and are there to play/spend (you may need to do this even if approaching the dancers is not your M.O.).
There are definitely differences b/w clubs in terms of vibe and dancer/staff treatment IME.
Some clubs just seemed to be poisoned from top to bottom (from ownership/management down to the dancers and even below).
It starts at the top IMO – if the owners/management treat the dancers very badly; this will definitely often filter down to the treatment one gets from the dancers and staff.
If this is the case; try to find another club.
There were 5 other people in there, 4 dancers, 1 bartender/waitress, and 4 other staff members not including the lady at the door.
The one girl with "talent" was being monopolized by one guy. Hopefully she got him to spend money on her after I left because the entire time I was there, they didn't leave the bar.
Another girl looked like an older, out of shape, Maggie Gyllenhaal to me (droopy face and everything else). The 3rd dancer reminded me of the 90s. I think it was the hair and her overall look. Then there was the annoying chick. I would have tried a dance from her since I was so bored, but she never came around to me again. A few of the other guys left before I did since no one came up to them either (we all tipped on stage at some point too).
It was definitely poorly ran. Left with $310 in my pocket.
There is another club that I like to go to in the evenings, but its been going down hill also. I might just give it a shot today also, if it sucks it will just be another club to add to my "Fuck that place" list.
I should also point out that it was $10 lap dance day at this club, once I found that out I knew if I did get dances, they'd probably suck.
The only times I’ve personally seen some descent dayshifts has been at the larger more upscale SCs (e.g. Baby Dolls Dallas).
If you can’t find a descent SC experience; might as well save your $$$ and perhaps take a weekend trip to a better area or better-known/well-reviewed clubs – my 2 cents.
Sadly, as you've found out....yes.
And on the opposite side of that is the one girl in the club that decides that you are "hers" and clam-jams you from getting any other dancer attention.
Ya can't win.
A couple of times I saw only new dancers in a club and after I said no to the first two, all others stayed away for over an hour or two. One asked me if I ever got dances in the club. I said a lot of times. She said she thought I never got dances. I wondered why she thought that. Maybe it was something she heard.
I do remember visiting a club at the beach and I don't know why but it seemed like every single girl in the club thought she had to ask me for a dance. There must have been over a hundred girls working. Maybe I said something that made them think I had money. I was sitting alone while most guys were sitting in groups. I noticed some guys didn't hardly ever get any dancers approaching their table. I was wondering what was up with that? I might like that on occasion but after 2 or 3 hours of it, I like to just watch the girls on stage. If you are a regular at a club, usually I do not get all that attention.
Dancers have the rule of thumb that older guys have more green.
My SC life is made much simpler by the fact that I'm only looking for good lap dances, not company. If you're not top money it helps to be fast money, especially when the dancer thinks there's other money waiting.
I find it helpful to politely approach and tell unoccupied dancers I'm interested in that I'd like a dance whenever they're ready to give me one.
Got some dances, they were good. Not the best I ever had, but the girl was definitely trying to make it a fun time for both of us. I think I just need to visit this place more often and become a regular. That might help me get better mileage with the ladies.