How long / how many dates would you wait for sex before giving up?
Me personally, just one or two dates. Death is the thing you want to put off till later, not sex. If I liked the chick, but the sex thing wasn't happening, I'd tell her I wanted to hang out as friends. If she were the type who needs some big emotional deal before she's ready to do the wild thing, she can let me know later on down the road if/when she's ready to be more than friends.
29 days 7 hours 5 minutes 20 seconds
Is that in dog years?
Depends on the woman.
A month
Gator you dumbass you missed getting with Duo by a few hours.
If you're talking about a date in the traditional American sense of attempting to find someone with whom to spend one's life, then as long as it takes to determine whether or not there's a chance this is someone who meets that criteria. In that search, sex is very important, but not the most important thing.
Only as long as it takes for her to stop bleeding? Or not.
A one month investment seems fair for both parties involved.
But if the girl was Duo, I’d be willing to stretch it out to 2 months :)
The "waiting for sex" thing to me is a perfect example of how human beings have so many beliefs that they accept without really thinking about them. For most of history, a woman had to wait to have sex until marriage to ensure her children would have a father supporting them. But that is no longer true. Yet we still make the (now irrational) connection between a woman waiting for sex and her being virtuous or superior.
ilbby: "The 'waiting for sex' thing to me is a perfect example of how human beings have so many beliefs that they accept without really thinking about them"
Dude, you are one stupid fuckin' windbag. You do realize that, don't you?
ilbby-windbag: " Yet we still make the (now irrational) connection between a woman waiting for sex and her being virtuous or superior."
Who has this attitude? People in the backward parts of the country? Geriatrics such as yourself?
7 months, 23 days, 16 hours, 39 minutes ...... And counting.......
"Who has this attitude? People in the backward parts of the country? Geriatrics such as yourself?"
I don't know maybe people who for some reason think you're supposed to wait 3 dates? Probably "think" is the wrong verb in this case.
and the not so serious answer for anyone who has seen of the Tao of Steve you will recognize it, if not check it out it's a pretty funny movie. Dex: Do you want to have sex with this woman? Dave: Definitely. Dex: Okay, then you're violating the first rule of being Steve. Dave: Who? Dex: You must learn to eliminate your desire. Rick: It's Buddhist. Dex: I think the Taoists said it first. Rick: Hey, are we gonna have a seminar or are we gonna play golf? Dex: Just a short seminar on the elimination of desire, okay? If you're out with this girl and even THINKING about getting laid, you're finished, cuz women can smell an agenda like shit on a shoe.
Either about 10 dates or 4 to 6 weeks. It depends on a great many factors. Could be more time & dates or less. I can't give a precise number.
Am I with her because I really enjoy her company and see future possibilities or because I just want to have sex with her?
In the former I'd give it a month or two. The latter, not long.
What's bizarre to me is when chicks say stuff like "I'm not ready yet" like they're a hot pocket in the microwave or something. If she said "I like hanging out, but I'm not horny for you" and later she said "now I'm horny" or grabbed you ass or something, yea I know women and maybe some men are like that. Their attraction is based on things they can only learn about someone over time. But mostly when women want to "wait", I think it's about making themselves seem "upscale". Or they have a low sex drive, and they just use sex to manipulate men. Or they are attracted to bad boys, but want to sting along some PL to pay the bills, and have their bad boys on the side.
Naw, I just wait a month because I feel like that's enough time to decide whether or not I'll regret having sex with someone. I have a pretty high sex drive, so if I slept with everyone that I've ever wanted to I'd probably have herpes.
“… I have a pretty high sex drive …â€
That is a very endearing quality Duo :)
Sorry for being such a dude – but that comment gave me a hard-on
it feels nice if a woman tells you that you're are handsome; or funny; or smart; etc.
But a woman that tells me “I have a pretty high sex drive†or “I wanna fuck your brains out†– will leave me speechless (in a good way)
I've just started in the online dating thing and I've noticed how many of the women answer that it will take 6+ dates before they will have sex with a guy. The best I can figure is that they do that so that when it happens after 3 or 4 dates the guy will think that they are special. Which is bizarre because ALL guys think that they are special. Women who think that the guy 'wont respect them' if they have sex after only a couple of dates because they are giving the impression that they will sleep with just anybody forget that no guy thinks of themselves as just anybody. Every guy thinks that if a girl has sex with them it was because their game was just completely irresistible.
Frankly if it really takes 6 dates you are destined for the friend zone. Women do not need 6 dates to make up their mind if you are good enough. If they haven't seen what they want in 3 or 4 dates the chances of their being some sudden revelation about you in date 5 or date 6 is tiny.
I don't like putting a timetable on things but if you are not seeing some escalation in physical contact (French kissing, grinding, ass caressing etc.) by the end of the second date it is likely going for the friend zone.
You guys wait? Usually after I deliver the pizza we head to straight to the bedroom.
Third date meant sex when I was a young person. At least this was true for the white, college educated girls I knew.
If you figure that you will spend at least $300 on 3 dates, you can see why I prefer giving $300 to a stripper and having sex right away.
If I have to wait several weeks/months, and then it is horrible sex. One and done. Don't play games and don't waste my time. Don't wait and then say, Oral sex is too gross or I only do missionary. Bitch please!!!! STFU.
“… If you figure that you will spend at least $300 on 3 dates, you can see why I prefer giving $300 to a stripper and having sex right away …â€
Hard to argue with that logic :)
@Duo why would you regret having sex with someone you're attracted to? Are there really a lot of guys who pull some kind of Jekyll/Hyde thing, act nice but turn into selfish jerks in bed? I don't know if waiting solves that problem, some women don't meet Mr. Hyde until after the wedding.
I'm an impatient man. I'm booting her after the first date ,if no sex. Shoot, i could get a escort for $150 without the worries.
Ilbbaicnl - Maybe it's different for guys, but I can think of about 10 different reasons off of the top of my head to regret having sex with someone. Like discovering that they have a debilitating heroin addiction, for instance. Or that they already have a girlfriend. I also live in a pretty small town with interconnected social circles, so if I'm going to sleep with someone that everyone I know is going to know about minutes after it happens I'd better make sure I picked a good one, haha.
@tittyfag: Yeah, what is with these 60 y/o fucks talking about how long they would wait? Can you even date at that age to begin with? And if you can I highly doubt you're going to be such a hot commodity on the market that'll it be like "the bitch didn't put out for me on the first night, so I'm moving on. I ain't getting any younger you know? Can't let 'em waste my time."
I'm celibate. Safe Sex=No Sex.
@Duo I think you can tell from one date if someone's a bad junkie. Does it really take a whole month to ask around about somebody? But anyway, I was talking about the pervasive but stupid "rules" that people typically judge each other by, without ever asking why those rules make sense. If you or anyone has their own personal rules for their own personal reasons, not anyone's business.
ilbby: "@Duo I think you can tell from one date if someone's a bad junkie"
You're a little naïve aren't you, ilbby? Most junkies are very good about hiding their problem, and it would probably take at least a month until anyone caught on. More likely several months. We've had numerous tales here of customers saying they knew their favorite stripper "well" and would be able to spot something like that. Then a few months later they come back and report, yes they really are junkies. Sorry, but it ain't that easy to spot, except in your naïve, theoretical, windbag world.
"Most junkies are very good about hiding their problem"-I can't agree with this statement. Ride public transportation and you end up playing a game I like to call, "Crackhead or Methhead?" Though sometimes a heroin addict ruins the game.
Who can spot Spic's latest logical fallacy?
There are a lot of "functioning" addicts that aren't on the lower rungs of society.
I may sound like the white knight here, but I don't go on dates to fuck. I go on dates because I'm interested in the girl. Sex is not the first thing on my mind (of course if she offers it, I'm not one to deny). Now if I just want some straight up sex, I'd hit the dance club and flirt with some hottie and get a one night stand going.
Since we're all talking about Duo, if the dates were for duo, I just wouldn't incline.
3 date rule.