hubby spent $600 @ the strip club

nyhoe, we need more details to do csi ny here....

Was the cousin crying because none of the $$ was spent towards him?
Was the money spent ITC or OTC, or both?
Did he come home with a smile on his face?
If so, was the smile plastered on more than 24 hours later?
Does he wake up in the middle of the night clamoring for Destiny?
Is there another makeup Bachelor party scheduled, so that this time everyone can make it?

Only $600, what a cheapskate.

You'd be surprised how fast the money can go in a club. 4-5 lap dances, a couple rounds of overpriced drinks and shots (for the dancers as well), tip a few dancers on stage, etc., and you're looking at a couple hundred bucks, easy---and fast. That amount may sound like a ton to you, but it doesn't necessarily mean he got extras.

Let's see. He's in his mid-20s (and good-looking, funny and all that shit) and you've been together for 11 years. So you must be a school teacher who seduced her 14-year old pupil but got away with it?

Ok, didn't want to give too much identifying info. But, this was FL, not southern FL. This was 2 years ago. Remember, I'm finding out the pricing from his wife recently. He was 27 @ the time, I was 26. We've been together since HS.

Depending on the strippers working, you can spend $600 on air dances and you can also spend $20 on a lap dance and have FS during the lap dance.

What happened was probably in between those two extremes. I've seen the second personally but the guy was young and really cute and the stripper probably would have gone home with him that night if he asked.

Once you start buying alcohol and couch dances $600 doesn't last long.

"What should I assume he got for $600?"

This depends on how good he is at negotiating. If he's a poor negotiator, he may have only gotten a blow job and a fuck from a dancer. If he's a good negotiator, he probably got 2 blow jobs and a 3-way.

I wish I could limit my spending to just $600/visit.

Who the hell cares if hes good looking. Who cares if he's a fucking Calvin Klein model, he's got $600.

I have no idea what he spent the money on. Why dont you ask him? Im sure you wouldnt be married to a liar, right? If you cant trust what he tells you, it sounds like there is bigger problems then strip clubs for you guys

"This was 2 years ago"

That's past the strip club statue of limitations. Case dismissed!

Thank u to the people that actually thought about my post and gave a reasonable straight-forward answer. Fuck all the other hater/idiots. Obviously the kiss w/ another woman is the issue in my marriage and I'm not privy to all this stripclub bullshit, so I was just trying to give info. that would help all u strip club connoisseurs give a good idea of wat could have gone down. I guess for all the old, ugly farts on this page, that was a sensitive comment.

You're name is "nyHOE". Game over.

I'm late to the game on this, but as one if the old, ugly farts on this board, let me give you on honest answer.

Believe me that $600 does not necessarily mean he had sex or a blow job. At some clubs $300 or more can just be a half hour in the VIP, which, in some cases, is nothing more than an extended lap dance. And the rest could easily have been drinks with the inflated strip club prices.

Having said that, sure he could have gotten more. In my Detroit area, any skanky hoe will give blow jobs for 50 bucks at the low end clubs. But I'm guessing the bachelor party was a higher end club.

Yeah, he probably felt up her tits and ass, and she rode his (clothed) dick, but that's what lap dancers are.

Sure $600 sounds like a lot of money, with limited savings, but I've spent double, triple that before and its not always what you think.

$600? Piker. :) Even my cheap as has spent that in one night in a club, and I go by *myself*.

I can easily see a bachelor party, even a two person one, wasting that much on nothing much at all.

But a little clarification, if you don't mind satisfying my curiosity. Your original post references "his now wife", which suggests that you are not currently married to this man, yet you refer to him as your husband.

Ms. Hoe - So after 11 years, all you've "got" on him is:

One Kiss - 5 years ago

One strip club trip - 2 years ago

Give him a break - the man's practically a saint!

The original post says I found out the strip club's pricing from hubby's cousin's wife (the then bachelor). He's still my husband. Just dealing w/ it 2 years later after talking w/ her recently. And my naive self thought I had to have a raunchy name to be on this site. NYhoe is wat came to mind...Now I see all the names on here and see different.

Asking about husbands/boyfriends in strip clubs is like asking about what's in sausage.

Yea, I saw nyHOE and thought "troller."

The guy spends $600 on a strop club visit with only $2000 to his name? To me that's a far worse crime than feeling up a dancer or getting a hand job or whatever else happened.

I think my time is done here. Thanks again everyone :) most info. Made me feel better, some scared me of course but that's to be expected w/ this subject. Hopefully I can get to a point where I trust him again and new bullshit doesn't make me bring up the past.

@ deogol: I like your sausage analogy!

"Hopefully I can get to a point where I trust him again"

A drunk kiss w/ another woman 5 years ago is an "issue" in your marriage? Really?

Something that may or may not have happened in a strip club 2 years ago means you can't ever trust him again? Seriously?

It sounds like you're the one with trust issues. Maybe you're projecting over something in your own past?

I'm only asking because you said the first thing that came to mind for your screen name was "NYHoe" Kinda Freudian, don't you think?

Sheesh! I'm done.

Back in my naive days, I was always cracking up over my ex going on about how I wanted this gal or that gal. I guess I had something to worry about after all, as it turned out she was doing the cheating.

Ms Nyhoe:

You wasted your time coming to this forum.

Asking us what we think about your husband's behavior is like asking the casino managers in Las Vegas what they think about outlawing gambling.

It depends on the club

An upscale posh club ... 600 dollars will not go far especially between two guys ... 300 each ... no suprise

If he went to a dive bar you will know what happened in a few weeks when you itch and have an unexplained rash

@EarlTree - I would tend to agree with you, that was some reckless spending.

If he's trying to show his cousin a good time, that could mean he's covering everything for this aborted bachelor party. He could easily go through $600.00 on drinks, dancer drinks, shots, valet parking, bathroom attendants, bouncers, air dances and tips. In Detroit dancers are expected to get at least $150.00 from each customer for each VIP trip. Two guys could burn $600.00 real quick under those rules.

Dear Ms NY
I know it seems like a lot of money but believe the guys on here that say it is expensive because it is. Even 100$ may sound like a lot but once you pay cover and start buying drinks and tipping everyone it goes fast. My guess is your husband got a few harmless lapdances for himself and his cousin and nothing else happened. If he only spent $600 and you are in NY my opinion is nothing else happened. If you want to write me direct you can message me here through my nickname jestrite50

Ms Ny,

I read your post. As a fromer Strip Club employee. It sounds like you & your huby have more serious in your life then spending $600 at a strip club.

once again stiletto25 tells it like it is

$600 does not go far and if you were worried about money he should have not hosted the bachelor party or you should have offered to host and dance it youself that way you get the money. If you did not know he was hosting the party that is your problem as a couple. To burn through more than 1/4 of your savings is plain irresponsible. MOst of us are old single pervs that can afford that kind of money. The last bachelor party I helped pay for cost me $300 for my part years ago with no extra service. The bride saw to that before we left (she wore it done to a nub before we left).

..and wife spends $1400 at the mall

If he paid a bunch of dancers to go up on stage and shake their ass for a bachelor party, he probably blew a lot of money without getting much in return except for a few minutes of bragging that he got that. Drinks can cost $5 a drink if it is a beer. If not beer than it can be 10 or more. Just buy 6 of those and you go through over 60 bucks. If he was buying for anyone else, friends, or a dancer that came up and asked for a drink, then he spent more on drinks. I could believe he blew $600 without getting anything but a few memories of the strip club.

I can go alone, negotiate better than normal two for dance prices at two for $30, buy some bottles of beer, spend a bunch of money in tips and spend over $300 or $400 if there are lots of pretty dancers asking and the prices seem good. However if it's a shady club and the dancers are horny and he was by himself, anything could happen. Many dancers are experienced at getting guys who don't have much experience in strip clubs to spend a lot on not much. If he has a dancer calling him up, then it's possible he has a dancer that did more than just lap dances or wants to do more.

Of course anything we say is pure speculation. The best advise was to talk to him.

Someone who isn't very experienced with avoiding overpaying at strip clubs could end up paying over $100 in drinks if drinks are over $10 a drink and dancers keep asking for one. Then some dancers like to ask for $50 a dance. If he did some bachelor party stuff, the club could have charged him $300 or more just for that. Or he could have met a horny dancer that told him, $400 for everything back at a hotel and off he went. not as likely but it could happen if he didn't spend much on anything else.