Do You Prefer to be Approached or Be the One Who Approaches ?
Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Often, I really enjoy when the dancer(s) approach me.
It may be b/c it feels nice to be approached for once as a guy? Of course this doesn't really say much since I am being approached in order for me to spend my $$$, but still feels nice.
But I think I like it when a dancer approaches me b/c I feel that she really wants to dance for me (for the $$$ of course) rather than me approaching her where she may be like "what the heck - sure" kind of thing.
I usually do hold out for the dancer(s) to approach me even if I am really interested in one particular dancer. I will usuaully try to make eye contact with the dancer I am interested in in hopes she will notice me. Some times I'll miss out on getting a dance from a dancer I really like b/c she will never come to where I am (this can happen especiallly when the club is very busy). Other times I don't feel like messing around and I'll just go up to her (usually when I am the horniest!).
So do you have a preference or doesn't make a difference to you?
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The only time I will approach the dancer is when a club is busy and if I don't approach them, I may not get any dances. OR if I have had dances with them before and I want to grab them before anyone else does.
Unless of course a girl looks at me, I flash my pearly whites & she gives me bedroom eyes & comes on over. Otherwise my gold-digger spider sense just screams.
Just my opinion but dancers like to say "this is my job". I think part of her job is to ask the customers not the other way around. If my tipping her on stage isn't enough to let her know I'm interested, there are plenty o' fish in the lake.
However, letting the dancers approach you is easier, and you don't have to worry about interru[ting her with someone else.
During my long career of doing deals in the oil patch I quickly learned that only the big aggressive sharks get the choice prey. I never cared to dine on the bloody chum that the big boys left behind as they moved through my world.
One caveat - some dancers may find this approach intimidating or creepy. Upping the ante with more $$$$ almost always wins over these girls.
Gotta keep in mind that some of these girls are very shy. A former fave was one of the hottest strippers with great stage shows at OG in Vegas. She had so many guys ask her for dances that it wasn't much of a problem. But she could never work up the nerve to ask guys for dances, or even approach unless encouraged.
Another recent fave, same issues. This girl wasn't in the same category in terms of looks or stage ability. I was getting ready to leave one day on a slow day for her and out of the blue she asked me for a dance. I was floored and told her "See, that wasn't so hard." She's since "retired", couldn't get over the shyness issue.
If I hadn't asked these girls, never would have had the ensuing fun times.
I've been pursing two dancers right now with no success in sight for the foreseeable future. I've even asked one dancer two or three times for dances onstage. She said she would get with me after she's finished with a customer but she either left or she stayed with a customer for so long that I left. I know that some dancers are very popular and can get tied up with regulars/customers quickly but there are other times that they AREN'T busy so why should I have to approach them when I've already tipped them onstage and asked them to come see me SEVERAL TIMES BEFORE??? Last week, the other dancer I've been pursuing came to the club very early with there being a few customers there. When she came back out, she stood four or five feet in front of me. I sat there waiting for her to say hey aren't you the guy who keeps tipping me and asking me to sit with him but she said nothing and walked away to do her set. I still tipped her three or four more times but she only came to me when a friend of mine, who was also her customer, was hanging around me. I hate having to bend over backwards for dancers just so they can just dance for me for money. There's something just backwards about having to approach dancers for dances.
I've been pursing two dancers right now with no success in sight for the foreseeable future. I've even asked one dancer two or three times for dances onstage. She said she would get with me after she's finished with a customer but she either left or she stayed with a customer for so long that I left. I know that some dancers are very popular and can get tied up with regulars/customers quickly but there are other times that they AREN'T busy so why should I have to approach them when I've already tipped them onstage and asked them to come see me SEVERAL TIMES BEFORE??? Last week, the other dancer I've been pursuing came to the club very early with there being a few customers there. When she came back out, she stood four or five feet in front of me. I sat there waiting for her to say hey aren't you the guy who keeps tipping me and asking me to sit with him but she said nothing and walked away to do her set. I still tipped her three or four more times but she only came to me when a friend of mine, who was also her customer, was hanging around me. I hate having to bend over backwards for dancers just so they can just dance for me for money. There's something just backwards about having to approach dancers for dances.
reignfire, I've experienced that plenty of times myself, and also know at least one is on purpose although i don't know why.
That used to happen to me also quite a bit. For me, I think it may have been b/c:
1) It happened to me when I was younger. Now that I am older and "uglier", I may look like more easy prey and thus get approached more often.
2) I Lived in Dallas for ~10 yrs (until late 2009) and I would visit Baby Dolls often. I would often get bypassed by dancers and I would see them choose older guys who were well dressed and looked like they had $$$.
Also, if you go to a popular club and at peak hours (i.e. lots of customers), then it's a sellers (i.e. dancer's) market and the dancers know whom to choose to maximize their profits.
Shadowcat - it's neither Alice nor Twilight. I know who Alice is but she's not my type and I'm not her type. I don't know who Twilight is.
UPDATE - I went to your favorite club on Presidents Day where one of the two dancers I mentioned was there. I tipped her and right after I did, she said she remembered promising to find me and that she was sorry for forgetting me. She blamed it mostly on the alcohol but she did said that she can be forgetful at times. That day she only had one drink and would come to see me after her set. After her set was done...she actually came up and talked to me!!! We talked for a bit before I asked for some dances and she agreed. We went to the couch room, she told me that she wasn't sure how to approach me and that she didn't know if it was okay for her to come up and talk to me. I told her it was always okay for her to come to me and to see if I wanted dances and that I may get some from her. We did two long dances which were pretty enjoyable. Nice grindage on her part. I think she may have enjoyed it too--as she was putting her heels back on, I heard her mutter under her breath that her panties were wet! We went back to the bar where we talked for a while before she went back onstage, finished her set and came back to me again. I eventually told her that she can go to other customers and could come back if nothing panned out. She left but I think it may be the start of a beautiful friendship!
So one down and one more to go. I may talk to you guys later about her. I think she may be not comfortable around me is due to my friend whom she has danced for and that we hang out together at the club. All I know is she's quite popular but has a handful of regulars whom she rotates from whenever they're there with her giving another one or two new customers a try. My friend may or may not considered a regular but since he and I share the same 'qualities' when it comes to dancers, if he likes her then there's a very good chance that I'll like her too.
Where else in this world can you summon a woman to you and have her take off her clothes?