Friends with benefits?
staxwell
Last week I was getting a nice lap dance from a hot spinner with lots of 2-way contact. A couple songs in she feels "Jr." thru my shorts and turns around with the same shocked expression(O-face) that I've received my whole life. She then pulls it out through my shorts and gives me a very dangerous genitals to genitals lap dance. I was so caught in the moment, it didn't matter that we were in the middle of the club with people walking right by us the whole time. Like an idiot I even slipped in a few times. After all was said and done she happily gave me her number and took mine.
She text me the next morning to come see her before she went to work, but I couldn't get to her in time. A few days later she calls me saying she wants me to come over again, it's her day off and her kid is at day care. Again, by the time I was free to go see her it was time for her to pick up her kid. So, I told her I'd be out of town for a week but I'll call her when I get back.
The thing is I'm not completely easy with the idea. I've gotten lucky a few times because a girl accidently brushed against "Jr.", or because a girl I hooked up with told her friends about me and they were curious. But, I've heard too many stories about guys being set up like this. I don't know her and she doesn't know me, so my cautious side is saying "this could be a set up", while my adventurous side is saying "she just wants a sex buddy who's packing".
She never said anything about money, and she keeps contacting me so, should I assume it's free and she just wants to hook-up? Or should I play it safe and not trust this situation at all?
Sorry for the long post, but I'd really appreciate others thoughts on the matter, especially those who've been here before.
She text me the next morning to come see her before she went to work, but I couldn't get to her in time. A few days later she calls me saying she wants me to come over again, it's her day off and her kid is at day care. Again, by the time I was free to go see her it was time for her to pick up her kid. So, I told her I'd be out of town for a week but I'll call her when I get back.
The thing is I'm not completely easy with the idea. I've gotten lucky a few times because a girl accidently brushed against "Jr.", or because a girl I hooked up with told her friends about me and they were curious. But, I've heard too many stories about guys being set up like this. I don't know her and she doesn't know me, so my cautious side is saying "this could be a set up", while my adventurous side is saying "she just wants a sex buddy who's packing".
She never said anything about money, and she keeps contacting me so, should I assume it's free and she just wants to hook-up? Or should I play it safe and not trust this situation at all?
Sorry for the long post, but I'd really appreciate others thoughts on the matter, especially those who've been here before.
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1) Friends with benefits-six months in, she says thatshe wants more than just a physical relationship, at which point you remind her that she wanted noemotional ties. She says "That was then, this is now."
2) Stripper who pretends that it's not about money. After the third or fourth lay, she says "I thought we had a financial understanding. You owe me $$$$$$."
You're playing with fire. Be prepared to pay upfront and if she acts nonchalant, insist on paying.
For the record, once you've paid a dancer for anything, its going to be hard for her to let the money go.
I had a customer who really had a crush on me about two years ago. He bought dances once a week. He let me know he wanted to see me OTC and for free. Not for sex, but he wanted to take me on a real date. He wanted me to be his girlfriend. Even though I could see myself liking this guy, and always did, I liked his money more. He had already established himself as a paying customer and I couldn't dissociate him from that.
That says it all.
Dollar bills laid end-to-end forms the umbilical cord that will allow you to connect with her.
Beside my ATF, you may be the most level headed, common sensed, and realist dancer I've had the pleasure of knowing, albeit only through this medium.
@clubber- Thanks to you also. I've worked hard to stay level headed. The pull to the other side, though, is strong.
@govikings, it's probably because you're a vikings fan.lol
@steve229, I hear a healthy sex life is good for your physical health...so to speak.
Once again...
ASSHOLE!!! :)
25,
You hang in there and do what YOU want! Don't worry about us pervs!