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About a year ago, I read an excerpt from a book by a sociologist who went undercover as a stripper. She had the credentials and everything and it sounded like a legit thing. She sketched out a disturbing pattern of behavior for strippers and I wondered what everybody thinks about it.
She said that the first level is all about the immediate gratification: $1 stage tips, $20 lap dances, $200 champagne room, whatever. She said the second level is where the big money comes from and that it is a lengthy psychological con. She said that the girls cultivate their hand-picked regulars and that what the regulars most want is to build some type of connection with the girl, some type of familiarity.
As a result, she said that she expended lots of energy slowly filling in the details for these men, grudgingly adding details during each LD or table talk. There is nothing that indicates she did extras or OTC, so take that for what it is worth. But it sounded like she had more than enough business building up these fictitious portfolios. For one guy she had been a struggling actress trying to find jobs on local commercials. Another she was trying to put herself through school as a radiologist's assistant. For another she moved here from Connecticut and is trying to make ends meet with her cousin. She saw it as a challenge to plays these roles without detection, and it made her day more interesting instead of the mindless groping and grinding. But she said that every so often she would slip up and drop info that didn't match that customer's portfolio and sometimes he'd catch her on it and she'd have to scramble.
So she was offering artificial intimacy, one detail at a time. And she was using it as a subtle tool to pry open wallets. She thought all successful dancers did it, to one extent or another. So do we ever get a glimpse of something real? Or does it matter? (And I know just what some of you crusty bastards will say. LOL)
She said that the first level is all about the immediate gratification: $1 stage tips, $20 lap dances, $200 champagne room, whatever. She said the second level is where the big money comes from and that it is a lengthy psychological con. She said that the girls cultivate their hand-picked regulars and that what the regulars most want is to build some type of connection with the girl, some type of familiarity.
As a result, she said that she expended lots of energy slowly filling in the details for these men, grudgingly adding details during each LD or table talk. There is nothing that indicates she did extras or OTC, so take that for what it is worth. But it sounded like she had more than enough business building up these fictitious portfolios. For one guy she had been a struggling actress trying to find jobs on local commercials. Another she was trying to put herself through school as a radiologist's assistant. For another she moved here from Connecticut and is trying to make ends meet with her cousin. She saw it as a challenge to plays these roles without detection, and it made her day more interesting instead of the mindless groping and grinding. But she said that every so often she would slip up and drop info that didn't match that customer's portfolio and sometimes he'd catch her on it and she'd have to scramble.
So she was offering artificial intimacy, one detail at a time. And she was using it as a subtle tool to pry open wallets. She thought all successful dancers did it, to one extent or another. So do we ever get a glimpse of something real? Or does it matter? (And I know just what some of you crusty bastards will say. LOL)
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In fact, I think it's the stuff of urban legend - the rich guy buying a working girl's time for the evening, only to want to sit and talk with her, basically enjoying the company of a beautiful woman so he can feel "connected" for a short while and not so alone.
I've commented before that I'll sometimes find just having my ATF sit naked, or nearly so, on my lap and talk for 20 minutes is worth the price of a couple LDs to me. It's more emotionally satisfying and in some ways, more intimately erotic than her going "into character" for the LDs.
For my VIP time, most often than not, I just hold my ATF on my lap, face to face (I really enjoy her face), kiss around her face, and sometimes try to hold her as tight as possible. I don't care much about dance. It feels better to just hold her still than let her dance.
One of my favorite recent LD experiences occurred at the Red Garter in Key West (you can see my review here: http://www.tuscl.net/d2.php?DID=3310). My girl was naked on her knees in front of me, and I just held tight while my raging boner pointed up and was sandwiched between us. We barely moved - maybe a little sway, just enough to roll my engorged dick lightly side to side - and I loved it.
The closeness and subtle eroticism of it still sticks in my mind. So yes, even if I have to pay for a little intimacy (faux or not), it feels damn good sometimes...
Now what they occasionally slip up on is the level of their respective addictions. In the club they might say they are only an occasional pot smoker but in reality, they are a heavy heroin or percocet user. And it becomes quite obvious the longer you spend time with them outside of a club.
Hey, as long as they'll wear the cheerleader outfit...
Cheerleader or nurse outfit is fine!
Seriously tho - does it matter what the dancers claim to be?
No.
I try not to overthink my SC visits. Once you walk (or stagger) thru those SC doors, all reality except for your libido is out the window.
The "crusty" types around these parts generally don't take a lot of this type of crap at face value anyway. They also don't go to clubs in search of true affection. Hence the reactions you are getting here. They often lie when discussing these types of things, so why worry about it?
But we all know that there are various breeds of SC visitors out there, including the sad and lonely types that really want to believe that this 20-something girl could fall in love with him, despite his advancing years, wrinkles, the effects of gravity, etc.
There was a time when strippers had the advantage but it's us customers now. Fuck them stupid whores, anyways.
Because she was a fake stripper, she unnecessarily developed multiple "portfolios" when all she needed was two: her real story and her fake story. She/any dancer can share whatever she likes. If it's a good story, we can appreciate it for it's creativity. If it's fake but not creative, we usually can tell. If it's real, it eventually rises to the top like cream and passes the test of time.
I go to have fun, and as a "regular" get to know dancers and what's real and fake. I just take the fake stuff for what it is--a marketing strategy. Sometimes fake is fun and sometimes too much reality is just ...too much.
http://www.bernadettebarton.com/
So, I don't credit this phony "academic research" with any veracity at all.
Is stripperweb full of pathetic chat about dancers falling for their customers?
No, the posts are more dancers complaining about how their clingy, needy regulars want to kiss them, lol.