This discussion is about what type of girls become stripper. Do their family, parents know about them. It will be difficult to dance, strip on the stage and if family or friends finds out it will be very embarrassing. I have seen some college girls working, usually they do not offer extra in the beginning but they do start at some point if they continue to dancing. I suppose they work once or twice a week to go through college.
But some girls w/fake boobs or moms work everyday and they are trying to make living. Do these girls come from poor background or do they hide and doing this secretly.
Most of the girls I have met over the years come from some very sad backgrounds .. abuse neglect ,, and so forth ..
Myself well I have been doing this for many many years and am thankfull to have had this as my job . I love it .. and the men and the wimins ,, if you asked me my life story you probly won't believe it but now my life is at a point in time where the presure is off to make the millions every girl dreams she will make in this business and I can now enjoy my encounters and I love the stage ,, as an orphan I have no family to hide from but when I was raising my son I worked out of town so his hockey coach and teachers and such would not bump into me ,, but now that he is grown I am free to be me ,, stripper ,, peeler ,,, human being . I must say that most girls dont really care what others think of them doing this job .. the key word being Job .
Shame must be Owned by the person not inflicted upon them by so called Moral standards ,, if society had Moral standards it would be out lawed outright.
I've known them from "alone in the world", to college students, wives, druggies, and an actual school teacher. There is no set pattern, but most would be from the lower socio-economic part of society, I would bet.
Just earn more then with a "regular" job. Also more exciting then most jobs. Love the attention and sometimes nice compliments. To avoid painful situations work in an other city or even country. Background won't be the main reason.
To borrow a Bill Clinton political phrase, "it's the economy, stupid."
While I've seen the same mix of reasons cited by the previous posters, the driving factors seems to be 'no other choice" or even "desparation," resulting from losing a job, mounting bills and obligations and not enough good paying jobs for lower skilled workers.
I've observed that some of that desparation comes from bad choices earlier in life, such as hooking up with loser men and drug habits.
Then there are the few who simply see big bucks and cash flow and make a choice driven by maintaining a lifestyle reached by their add-on revenue.
I've known some dancers who do everything they can to keep their work a secret from family and friends--for example, one dancer I knew drove 1 1/2 hours to work when she had choices closer to home.
I've heard others proudly say what they do, it's their job--"don't bother me or judge me for what I choose to do" etc.
In between are the regretfuls, who seem to be stuck and wish they could be doing something else. They might try to hide what they do from most people, but seem resigned to the fact when it's discovered.
Over the past three years many secretaries, housewives, and retail workers have turned to stripping, because of the better pay and flexable hours. Stripping isn't that taboo anymore, with the computer age, and more reasonable thinkers, most people look at it as another job. One just need to look on their computers to see normal women doing racy stuff for money, look at all the websites run by MILFs and college girls.
Some women are just more oppurtunistic and realize they can make a lot of money over a short time to fund their objectives and leave the business, others just get stuck in a rut and continue with it as a career to support family, and then there are those that just self destruct into drugs etc.
I could go to the local drug treatment center and see at least 6 dancers I know go in. Also, a large number of girls in a club I frequent (because it is the closest) come from one impoverished county.
I have known a couple of them since they started stripping. At first they kept it from their family that they stripped. One had to have her father drop her off at work and had him convinced she was just a waitress. Now three years later they don't try to hide it.
Another one told me that her father drove her to the strip club when she turned 18 and told her she was going to work there since she hadn't gotten any other job.
A number of them have children without ever having been married. One has 4 kids under 7. Another will help her mother and father out with cash yet not have enough to buy diapers for her newborn.
I have also had a few tell me they were in college when I first started going to a club only to find out they had never attended after I had become a regular at the club. Now, I'm sure there are college students that strip, especially near college towns but remember that ALL strippers lie! They may start telling the truth when you become a regular, but in the beginning they are LIARS.
I have run into all types. Barring many ending up in stripping bc of reasons like drugs or teenage pregnancy there are many wommen simply wired for this type of fun activity. They enjoy stripping (It is natural and normal as to how they are wired) and if doing extras the excitement of different dick and money from different guys. I think some of them become inheat from the thrill of stripping (male attention) or the money they will be making not to mention differnt dick. I know of one stripper who's father was a SC DJ who fathered dozens of kids with different women (mostly strippers). She told me like her mother was a stripper (apples off the same tree).
This goes back to the beginning of time where say one really hot woman was shared by 3 or 4 guys in a cave. Their combined strength kept off preditors and competitors allowing them great sex with a hot gal 24/7. She came equipped to handle a lot of dick and loved it. Her survival, Pregnancy, and perpetuation of the species was gurranteed with the multiple sperm donors / protectors. Later in history these women were passed around the tribal campfire as concubines. This guranteed a wide distribution of genetic material - evolution's way of tweaking things. Many biblical kings had hundreds of concubines. Now men of financial means can go to the communal honeypot called a strip club and enjoy beautiful, sexy women. It will still be here when religions considered mainstream today are long since buried in the sands of time. It is our monogamous society which is really the oddity.
I have taken gals up to VIP for sex, had them multitask making a call to hubby about instructions for kids / household, then getting down to business once we were situated in a couch fort. Afterwards, she would tell me about her law classes, MBA program, realty business, etc. These are smart women who know what they want and how to get it.
A stripper fav of mine is on facebook. In her wedding photo (third marriage) is a pic of her and two sexy gf (strippers) on motorcycle with 2 or 3 grining older guys in background (45+) probably regulars who somehow ended up at the wedding. She is in the center raising her skirt. Her and one of the girls would do threesome with customers one was BJ specialist and the other would finish the guy off with sex.
With the weakening of the taboos on stripping, so called "straight" women have no problem at least trying it for a while. I've met dancers who were social workers, CPAs, lawyers, law students and business owners. (Yes, I was able to check and verify.) I've heard everything from "I really need the money," to " I just enjoy this life, the fun and the attention." We are not to worry about these things, because we are paying to be entertained.
Clubber: As I've noted before, I care to the extent that it helps me get what I'm looking for. Listening, sympathizing and comforting sometimes lead to more. Any information gained can be used in any later negotiations.
A psychiatrist friend who treats addicts and people with similar problems says that practically all strippers and other sex workers have some kind of sexual abuse in their past. While many girls from "nice" families get into it, their backgrounds aren't always what they seem. There's pretty much always something there, even if they're not aware of it themselves. Of the strippers that I've been involved with, none had anything they thought was out of the ordinary, but as far as I'm concerned they're 3 for 3.
Dazymaz: "I must say that most girls dont really care what others think of them doing this job .. "
I guess you did since you, though, since you hid from hockey coaches, teachers, etc. Most girls are programmed to say they don't care what others think, heck, I think everyone in society is programmed to say that these days, but what % reveal their real profession on facebook or myspace? Not very many for girls who supposedly don't care!
Oh the miles we drive to protect our loved ones from the whispers and the rumours of it all ...
When you have a need to do this business it is easy to say you dont care what others think of you doing it ... not so easy to not care about what people will think of your kids and such because you do what you do .. we all make choices ,, mine was to not be on welfare and to not raise my son at a level of poverty .
so If I drove an hour out of town so my kid could have a better life so be it judge me for it .. I had fun and he hada better life than he would have other wise .. hockey ain't cheap ya know .. have a good day Dougster ..
Now I remember why it's pointless to try and discuss anything with strippers. She didn't care what people thought of her, oh, except she did care because that would effect what people thought of her kids. Oh, but, nevertheless she did not care. And by pointing out that she did care, you aren't merely pointing out that she did care but you are judging her. So fucking stupid.
You stated, "A psychiatrist friend who treats addicts and people with similar problems says that practically all strippers and other sex workers have some kind of sexual abuse in their past."
Don't forget, these same doctors often "plant" histories into their patients "memories".
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Most of the girls I have met over the years come from some very sad backgrounds .. abuse neglect ,, and so forth ..
Myself well I have been doing this for many many years and am thankfull to have had this as my job . I love it .. and the men and the wimins ,, if you asked me my life story you probly won't believe it but now my life is at a point in time where the presure is off to make the millions every girl dreams she will make in this business and I can now enjoy my encounters and I love the stage ,, as an orphan I have no family to hide from but when I was raising my son I worked out of town so his hockey coach and teachers and such would not bump into me ,, but now that he is grown I am free to be me ,, stripper ,, peeler ,,, human being . I must say that most girls dont really care what others think of them doing this job .. the key word being Job .
Shame must be Owned by the person not inflicted upon them by so called Moral standards ,, if society had Moral standards it would be out lawed outright.
While I've seen the same mix of reasons cited by the previous posters, the driving factors seems to be 'no other choice" or even "desparation," resulting from losing a job, mounting bills and obligations and not enough good paying jobs for lower skilled workers.
I've observed that some of that desparation comes from bad choices earlier in life, such as hooking up with loser men and drug habits.
Then there are the few who simply see big bucks and cash flow and make a choice driven by maintaining a lifestyle reached by their add-on revenue.
I've known some dancers who do everything they can to keep their work a secret from family and friends--for example, one dancer I knew drove 1 1/2 hours to work when she had choices closer to home.
I've heard others proudly say what they do, it's their job--"don't bother me or judge me for what I choose to do" etc.
In between are the regretfuls, who seem to be stuck and wish they could be doing something else. They might try to hide what they do from most people, but seem resigned to the fact when it's discovered.
It's work, it's business.
I have known a couple of them since they started stripping. At first they kept it from their family that they stripped. One had to have her father drop her off at work and had him convinced she was just a waitress. Now three years later they don't try to hide it.
Another one told me that her father drove her to the strip club when she turned 18 and told her she was going to work there since she hadn't gotten any other job.
A number of them have children without ever having been married. One has 4 kids under 7. Another will help her mother and father out with cash yet not have enough to buy diapers for her newborn.
I have also had a few tell me they were in college when I first started going to a club only to find out they had never attended after I had become a regular at the club. Now, I'm sure there are college students that strip, especially near college towns but remember that ALL strippers lie! They may start telling the truth when you become a regular, but in the beginning they are LIARS.
WHO CARES WHY!!!
This goes back to the beginning of time where say one really hot woman was shared by 3 or 4 guys in a cave. Their combined strength kept off preditors and competitors allowing them great sex with a hot gal 24/7. She came equipped to handle a lot of dick and loved it. Her survival, Pregnancy, and perpetuation of the species was gurranteed with the multiple sperm donors / protectors. Later in history these women were passed around the tribal campfire as concubines. This guranteed a wide distribution of genetic material - evolution's way of tweaking things. Many biblical kings had hundreds of concubines. Now men of financial means can go to the communal honeypot called a strip club and enjoy beautiful, sexy women. It will still be here when religions considered mainstream today are long since buried in the sands of time. It is our monogamous society which is really the oddity.
I have taken gals up to VIP for sex, had them multitask making a call to hubby about instructions for kids / household, then getting down to business once we were situated in a couch fort. Afterwards, she would tell me about her law classes, MBA program, realty business, etc. These are smart women who know what they want and how to get it.
A stripper fav of mine is on facebook. In her wedding photo (third marriage) is a pic of her and two sexy gf (strippers) on motorcycle with 2 or 3 grining older guys in background (45+) probably regulars who somehow ended up at the wedding. She is in the center raising her skirt. Her and one of the girls would do threesome with customers one was BJ specialist and the other would finish the guy off with sex.
Some of you wrote things that what I have seen myself after becoming regular. Some of the things are still eye opening.
AMEN!!!
I guess you did since you, though, since you hid from hockey coaches, teachers, etc. Most girls are programmed to say they don't care what others think, heck, I think everyone in society is programmed to say that these days, but what % reveal their real profession on facebook or myspace? Not very many for girls who supposedly don't care!
When you have a need to do this business it is easy to say you dont care what others think of you doing it ... not so easy to not care about what people will think of your kids and such because you do what you do .. we all make choices ,, mine was to not be on welfare and to not raise my son at a level of poverty .
so If I drove an hour out of town so my kid could have a better life so be it judge me for it .. I had fun and he hada better life than he would have other wise .. hockey ain't cheap ya know .. have a good day Dougster ..
You stated, "A psychiatrist friend who treats addicts and people with similar problems says that practically all strippers and other sex workers have some kind of sexual abuse in their past."
Don't forget, these same doctors often "plant" histories into their patients "memories".