Straight forward question. And I understand those that go once a year with the guys. I wanna know about you guys that go regularly. Too much of anything gets old right? Is it because its easier than the baggage of a real girl? Is it because you are shy with real girls? Do you think your atf really likes you? Serious question.
In the beginning, it was strictly to see naked chicks, and over time, I've come to enjoy their company. I don't know that I am shy around "real girls", but I have occasional dates, and nothing ever lasts with them. The most recent date I had, one girl seemed like she liked me, but she was critical of my beard, which was the end of it for her. I mean, maybe I should shave it if I want someone seriously, but they shouldn't say stuff like that.
Twenty years ago, I started going to strip clubs because I enjoyed feeling-up girls half my age. I still go because I like to feel-up girls who are twenty years younger than I am. When it gets old, I don't go for a while.
It is easier than a real girl in short bursts. SC is spontaneous, varied and "no strings attached" which is appealing to me. Dancers usually lack the genuine affection and intimacy that a "real" girl can offer. I have a "real" girl on the side just in case I want something more out of life.
Years ago, I wasn't very good at pointless discussion. I couldn't use conversation to fill "the void" and that inability caused me to be labeled "quiet" - shy to some. Now, after going to strip clubs for many years, I have learned how to babble aimlessly and continuously for about five minutes. I have even learned how to do that OTC with complete strangers, which is a bad habit that I need to unlearn.
I have had ATF's who really did like me for who I was. And I have known dancers for whom I had a great deal of respect. Either of these conditions has been very rare.
Thanks dngv for your straight forward question(s). I hope I have been equally as straight forward with my answers.
I personally go because I find it to be remarkably arousing to know that all eyes in a given club are on me. It is a huge turn on to know that almost every man in the audience wants me in some form or fashion.
I can assure you it has nothing to do with money but only the fantasy.
I will continue to go when I can and have no interest in becoming a full time dancer. I can go on stage and be who I want to be......elegant or slutty it is all about the fantasy and the way I feel. It is nice to know when I get a wild feeling about me that I can go on stage and release a bit........and I don't have a problem helping the guys release a bit too!!!!!!!
jj, I appreciate your insights. You are living a fantasy that many of us guys dream about. In our case, it would be that every woman wants us sexually in some form or fashion. BTW: I would also enjoy you helping me "release a bit too!!!!!!"
I go there for several reasons. The first reason, is that the club that I go to is, like, 7 minutes away from home and it's a las vegas style club. So, being that close, will get me to go that much frequently. Another reason is to see naked girls, obviously. But I also seem to find my self getting along with the girls I talk to. Can I say there is a friendship thing that goes on? Maybe. I say maybe because there seems to be a sense of trust between me and my ATFs. On the other hand, friends do things with each other, friends hang out w/ each other, friends call each other, etc. Nothing like that has ever happened between me and any of the girls from the club. But I get along with them, we listen to each other and laugh together. So, it's cool. Another reason is, and it sounds selfish in a way, if I wanna leave, I can. Now with a GF, it's not that easy. I guess i can say relationships/commitments and I don't get along. I go out with girls, but it doesnt seem to last long. I dunno.
Because I like the company of beautiful, sexy women. Also, I like those women to please me. I am getting too old to pay for the "risk" of getting that on a date, so why not put the money toward a sure thing?
I do date women 20 years younger than me, but I'm at an age (nearly 50)where I no longer seek marriage or a deep relationship, but I do enjoy the company of half naked women!
It allows me to practice philanthropy on a tiny budget---I'm not talking about buying lap dances; that's business. The SUNPASS is an example of philanthropy on a tiny budget. That dancers was throwing away hundreds of dollars and getting arrested for no good reason. It amazed the hell out of me when I saw all her $1 receipts to the government, but as many as she paid the few she didn't resulted in whopping fines, suspension of license, arrest, etc. Thumbs up to the last hearing officer who saw all her receipts and dismissed the case against her. It was very believeable that she was paying and paying and paying and just missed a couple.
Now that she has SUNPASS she can concentrate on getting arrested for better reasons----like not wearing a seatbelt. :)
I guess we're back to the stereotype that all dancers are drug addicts. Although I am sure I have had dances from drug addicts, my ATF's are not drug users.
tx: customers generally don't know. You in particular, out of the all the posters on this board, seem the most naive and gullible, so they might have snuck this one past you.
Initially I went to look at and feel up hot naked young women, of course. But now I also go because I get to talk to some surprisingly interesting women with no pressure. It's funny. Spending so much time talking to scantily clad women has actually improved my confidence with women in the real world. Of course, now I tend to only talk to the most scantily clad woman in the bar, but that's not actually a bad thing. LOL
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It is easier than a real girl in short bursts. SC is spontaneous, varied and "no strings attached" which is appealing to me. Dancers usually lack the genuine affection and intimacy that a "real" girl can offer. I have a "real" girl on the side just in case I want something more out of life.
Years ago, I wasn't very good at pointless discussion. I couldn't use conversation to fill "the void" and that inability caused me to be labeled "quiet" - shy to some. Now, after going to strip clubs for many years, I have learned how to babble aimlessly and continuously for about five minutes. I have even learned how to do that OTC with complete strangers, which is a bad habit that I need to unlearn.
I have had ATF's who really did like me for who I was. And I have known dancers for whom I had a great deal of respect. Either of these conditions has been very rare.
Thanks dngv for your straight forward question(s). I hope I have been equally as straight forward with my answers.
I can assure you it has nothing to do with money but only the fantasy.
I will continue to go when I can and have no interest in becoming a full time dancer. I can go on stage and be who I want to be......elegant or slutty it is all about the fantasy and the way I feel. It is nice to know when I get a wild feeling about me that I can go on stage and release a bit........and I don't have a problem helping the guys release a bit too!!!!!!!
I do date women 20 years younger than me, but I'm at an age (nearly 50)where I no longer seek marriage or a deep relationship, but I do enjoy the company of half naked women!
So, Naked chicks are better than Viagra!
LMAO
It allows me to practice philanthropy on a tiny budget---I'm not talking about buying lap dances; that's business. The SUNPASS is an example of philanthropy on a tiny budget. That dancers was throwing away hundreds of dollars and getting arrested for no good reason. It amazed the hell out of me when I saw all her $1 receipts to the government, but as many as she paid the few she didn't resulted in whopping fines, suspension of license, arrest, etc. Thumbs up to the last hearing officer who saw all her receipts and dismissed the case against her. It was very believeable that she was paying and paying and paying and just missed a couple.
Now that she has SUNPASS she can concentrate on getting arrested for better reasons----like not wearing a seatbelt. :)
I go to stimulate my dick.
Pretty much the same as what some-young-guy said immediately previous to this post, but, with a few modifications.