What Makes a Dancer a Customer's Favorite?

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Club_Goer_Seattle
Seattle, Washington
A new dancer that just arrived on TUSCL asked for advice before beginning her career. Some of the suggestions she got inspired me to think about this subject:

Customers develop favorite dancers because of a combination of reliability, appearance, personality, and entertainment value. Not necessarily in that order. Every customer has a favorite type of dancer in each of those four categories. The more a customer sees of all four qualities in one dancer, the more likely he/she is to gravitate toward that dancer and become a regular of hers.

Before continuing on, I suggest you review a thread I wrote about the terms, "current favorite," and "all-time favorite." See my suggested definitions and subsequent discussion in: "TERMINOLOGY: ATF vs. CF," posted July 1, 2013:

www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=23951

More about each of the four qualities :

RELIABILITY

Early on, most dancers are advised that the best way to make money is to develop regulars: To accomplish that, they are encouraged to create a schedule that they know they can keep. Then you can tell prospective customers, "I'm here on X, Y, and Z days/nights from _:00 p.m. to _:00 p.m." Then customers know they can depend on going to that club when that dancer will be there. The dancer can then develop regulars.

After a dancer has demonstrated she'll be at her club when she says she will, then consistency of how she treats the customer is important. That includes in and out of the lap dance areas. That also includes things like when she says, "I'll be right back," and is actually returns within an expected period of time. Or, if she says, "I'll call you tomorrow," and she does.

APPEARANCE

Several factors come in play here: Body/figure type, age, ethnicity, and basic grooming: Choices of clothes/costumes, hair, make-up. Tattoos and piercings are also part of this. Some customers are very specific and will only seek out limited types of dancers based on their appearance, and others will enjoy several appearance types.

PERSONALITY

Like any woman in general that I might meet, I like a fun, lively, outgoing personality, and a dancer who is attentive to me. It's just like you're sitting with someone and you can tell very quickly whether or not the two of you click with each other. It's really something you just have to experience. There's not a lot about it that can be put into words.

Poise is another personality attribute. How at ease a dancer is, is very important. Most dancers are much younger than their customers, and must feel comfortable out of their own age group to make the customer feel comfortable. I've been amazed at some very young dancers' ability to do this. Some dancers, no matter what their age, don't seem to achieve this.

However, one dancer I've known for seven years now, does not at all have that type of personality at all; she's quiet, introverted, soft-spoken, BUT, I just LOVE the way she treats me in the club. She has great non-verbal skills and personality traits. Her dance style, and "silent charisma" would be the best way to put it, speaks volumes with her demeanor and motions.

ENTERTAINMENT VALUE

Each customer likes certain activities that dancers perform. From the normal, expected lap dancing moves of grinding, caressing by use of certain body parts, and basic sensuality, etc. all the way up to various extras. How a dancer treats her customer while in the club, both on the main floor and in the lap dance area, is critical to developing regulars. And what price the club and/or the dancer charges for these is a factor.

A recent club outing of mine is a good example: My usual club visits are to see specific dancers (my favorites). Occasionally I'll go to a club with the purpose of scouting out new talent, but mostly I go to see my faves. I'm a regular of two different dancers at one club. Less so, a third. I went to see "S" on my recent trip. She is outstanding in all four of the above categories! Also, she gives me a lot of extra time with her at the club. I was with her, alone, for 30 straight minutes, that afternoon, even though I only bought two dances from her. It was a slow afternoon and she texted me, asking me to come in. I told her I would, but I could only get a couple of dances with her. She texted me back that she was fine with that. She just wanted some company. So, I really got my money's worth with her yesterday. Just one example. My other fave at that club also will spend all of her spare time with me. But, I make it a point to see both of them when it's likely to be slow.

So, the more of the above four qualities that a customer sees in one dancer, the more the likelihood that that customer will become a regular of that dancer.

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Taborca
10 years ago
Chemistry or the perception of it
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LenaSmirnova
10 years ago
@Taborca I agree 100% when something in her grabs the guy mentally or emotionally he keep throwing money like a maniac and forgives her the lack of some or most of the qualities described above...some people will disagree with me but I seen it too many times in my career.Some guys will never even admit they were weak or a fool and be like oh no she has to work me and really put out,but in reality all kind of silly scenarios are possible.Likewise most girls will never admit to what they do in VIP to keep their patron in there.So don't completely believe what others say,find what works for you.
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shailynn
10 years ago
In my early days it was all about chemistry. I could put up with tons of SS if the chemistry was there. After awhile (with several different girls that got old). Then I found a girl that was extremely reliable. I don't even find her attractive, she's "cute" to me, her small talk is boring as well. But she is extremely reliable. We have had over 10 OTC meetings and she never has backed out on one. Her rate is reasonable to me (because I set the price) and she let's me do anything I want although she's a little passive. So today I'd say reliability is my biggest "want" in a relationship. That is until I find a "10" that I have chemistry with... Then I may just go back to my old ways
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DandyDan
10 years ago
It all comes down to personality for me, with some emphasis on entertainment value. It doesn't matter how hot a girl is if I just don't click with her. Of course, even if I click with them, they still have to perform. There's one girl at my favorite club who I hit it off with from the start, but then I took her to the private area and she has exactly 3 moves. And the worst part is, she continues to have exactly 3 moves. I found it hard to let her go, but I did eventually. I suppose you could write a whole article about girls who are almost, but not quite, your favorites.
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Taborca
10 years ago
"n something in her grabs the guy mentally or emotionally he keep throwing money like a maniac and forgives her the lack of some or most of the qualities described above"

Well that would be foolish. If you connect well first time, sure of course you return the next week. After that you have to decrease visits. Come back in three weeks then every month or every other month. At any time if she seems disinterested or not into it, find someone new. Have her sense loss of income stream impending to judge the reaction as well.
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mjx01
10 years ago
I generally agree with OP, but would add this... A great personality doesn't make up for a lack of the other 3, and a bad personalty trumps the other three.
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Papi_Chulo
10 years ago
Nice write-up which can be of benefit to both custies and dancers.

I often read about custies enjoying their regular dancers over and over again.

I’m just wired differently (probably even incorrectly wired) – but in my close to 15 years of SC debauchery; I’ve never had a super-strong desire to see a particular dancer again and again – weird – but that is Papi Chulo.

There have been some dancers that I get dances from whenever I hit their club – but it’s not as if I go to their club to see them or hoping to see them – if they are there I’ll get some dances from them along w/ other dancers IDK – I def get more intrigued by the unknown w.r.t. dancers than by the known/been-there-done-that.

Even when I’ve had a GREAT time w/ a dancer on a particular visit; often times I don’t want her on a subsequent visit – and thus why I normally rotate amongst many different clubs (sometimes 10+ when I’m SCing a lot) and why I love taking SC trips to meet new dancers and clubs.

My default desire for the new and unknown vs the same ole same ole plays a big factor in why I don’t care to be in a relationship nor even date anymore – not that there is anything wrong w/ that; it’s just nor for me at least at the current time (perhaps I have not met the woman to make me want to stay w/ her for any extended period of time).
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Clackport
10 years ago
First of all the dancer has to be very attractive (at least a 9), I like when dancers give me compliments (even if it's stripper shit lol), she has to give great lapdances, there has to be good chemistry between us, a good stageshow would be nice.
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alabegonz
10 years ago
That's the ideal, but that doesn't always go down right everytime with me. More often it simply needs to be a combination of two for me to make her a fave.

Pretty ladies will always throw weight around if they can get away with it and I would simply get suckered into it just because I am on a mission.

Though there is this pretty lady who was so gracious to me she acted like she was not the prettiest around block. See pic of her here ( http://www.xoticspot.com/photos/9404_pqf… http://www.xoticspot.com/photos/9404_z2v… ) she is prettier in the pic and I would put her on top of my must meet her before she goes away list, I am glad I met her and had a good time with her, treated me like awesome, that just might be me talking so you might get treated differently--though-- YMMV.

I wrote a discussion about her in the past with a pic of her, before we lost contact due to my CF entering the scene and me being swept away by her.
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GoVikings
10 years ago
I totally agree with mjx01's comment.

For me, personality is the most important one. She doesn't have to be a 9 or 10. A 7 who is personable and can at least do a good job of pretending to be into me trumps a 9 or 10 who is boring and can't hold much of a conversation any day of the week
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HungryGiraffe
10 years ago
CG, nice post! Agree with the framework. A customer can easily fit a wide spectrum of criteria for a fav in that scheme. Interestingly, I hadn't thought much about reliability. But, now that I think about it, that's really important.

One of the things I like about my ATF is that she have never asked me for a dance, VIP or a tip. Yet, I've spent quite a bit on her ITC and OTC. She let's me lead our activities, and I direct how I spend my money. That low key approach about money causes me to be very generous with her. She's very pretty (at least a 9), reliable (will let me know in advance about a change in plans), has a sweet personality (smart, mature, balanced and honest), and is very entertaining (delivers awesome GFE, with everything available). Again, love the framework.
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Club_Goer_Seattle
10 years ago
Now that this has been up for a few day, I want to thank you members who have commented so far. I appreciate your thoughts. The most common qualification for a good match-up between customer and dancer that I didn't mention is "chemistry," as several of you pointed out. Very good thought indeed. I would include that in the personality factor when evaluating a dancer.
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