Comments by Justanotherexvirgin

Yes, it does. The only time it's a problem is if the dancer on my lap is getting fucked while they watch or if she's giving me a blow job. That only happens with certain dancers, though, and the way my club is set up it's more difficult to watch others.

I've been shaved twice for surgery and that was enough. I keep close trimmed and use the same trimmers I use for me beard. I did have a dancer recommend I wear boxers because I got harder faster and gave her something to rub against. I switched the boxer-briefs and she actually noticed right away! I've never worn briefs again.

I had one close call regarding fighting in a club. I was sitting at the tip rail with my beer and a handfull of dollar bills when this guy come in and sits next to me. He's obviously a little drunk, but he's also built like an NFL linebacker. Next thing you know he's leaning into me saying something, "I'm gonna whip your ass!" I looked back and said, "That won't prove anything. It won't even be the first time it's happened. Why don't you let me buy you a beer?" Then he makes a fist and starts to draw back and I'm trying to determine what part of my face to protect when, without any warning, the waitress, who's a good-sized girl, slips between us and starts asking the guy wich dancer he likes best. He turns to point out a blonde, and she says over her shoulder to me, "Get away from this guy, he's crazy." I ask it she'll be okay and she says yes, so I over away. A few minutes later the cops are there, taking him away. It wasn't the first time for this guy to be busted and the club had called the cops as soon as he walked in. Yes, I bought that waitress more than one drink1

In my area business at the clubs has been lousy, so I am rrying to spread my money around to more of the dancers. Usually, due to limited funds, I only get lapdances from a favorite. But because so many dancers are having trouble making their "nut," I'm buying a dance or two from different girls instead of the favorites. None of them are getting rich off of me, but I am trying to be fair and they seem to appreciate it.

If a lapdance gives me wood, I know she's going to feel it. Does she appreciate it. Usually. In fact, on nighgt when booze or just being damn tired interfered, there have even been a dancer or two who seemed to be insulted it didn't get up sooner. Thes night, though, was in El Paso when a gal I'd met at another club came up to me at her new club, which I had recommended. We went back for a lapdance and it was she who pulled it out and worked me over 'til I got off big time. She wouldn't take an extra tip either. Said she owed me that one because whe was making sp much more money at the new club. Sure made me glad I'd offered my advice ... and that the damn bouncer had stopped by during those two songs!

I've dated two dancers, neither needed "saving" either. Both were extremely competent and one of them now owns a club where she still dances, and looks great at age 40. It really is unfair to generalize about dancers, although it does seem that a lot of them have difficulties with drugs. I was lucky, neither of my "special friends" had that problem. Both, in fact, were good at math as well as having many more pleasants kills!

The last I heard, there was little chance the bill will pass in the Democratically-controlled Ohio House of Representatives. All that means is that the religious nuts who are pushing for it will then get petitions together to get the item on a state-wide ballot, probably in Niovember '08. And it will pass. This state is full of people who take perverse pleasure in doing away with a minority's idea of fun. The fact that many dancers are paying their way through school or just trying to keep their kids fed doesn't matter. The only way nude dance clubs will be legal once this passes will be if the Supreme Court rules it unconstitutional. With "W" appointing the judges there's little chance of that. The last time such an issue was thrown out of court, the dancers' lawyer used a First Amendment argument regarding "free speech" to get a restrictive law thrown out. Of course, as slow as the courts are, it may not get in front of the court before 2015!

There is a difference, often a very large difference, between a dancer and a whore.<br /> <br /> &quot;Would you like a private dance?&quot; is a much different question than a woman asking, &quot;You wanna suck and fuck?&quot;<br /> <br /> You're probably gonna be laying in bed alone and beating your meat after you leave a club, whether you treat the dancers' like whores or not.&nbsp; But it's my experience that if you treat them nicely, your next club visit is often a lot more pleasant.

The reason I have found most remarkable was &quot;I haven't found another job where I can make this kind of money and still be home both when my kids leave for school in the morning and when they get home in the afternoon.&quot;&nbsp; That's usually followed by a comment regarding being able to afford a nicer place to live or tuition for some kind of skill training so they'll have something for &quot;when I get older and can't dance any more.&quot;<br /> <br /> Are all of them honest.&nbsp; Of course not!&nbsp; But it's also not wise to assume they're all lying theves either.<br /> <br /> There's an almost sutomatic feeling of intimacy that occurs when a guy is sitting close to a topless or naked woman.&nbsp; We just have to remember that it's not the kind of intimacy that should encourage us to &quot;open up&quot; with our deepest secrets and desires.&nbsp; It's a fun, sexy intimacy, to be sure, but keeping her private live private is usually important to a dancer.&nbsp; We all should respect and remember that.

Sometimes it's hard to &quot;keep your wits about you.&quot;&nbsp; The reason has nothing to do with the fact that the dancer is naked and sitting on your lap.&nbsp; It has nothing to do with whether or not she's a &quot;ten.&quot;<br /> <br /> Sometimes there's such a thing as &quot;chemestry,&quot; and when the reaction starts it can be very powerful.&nbsp; The problem is, this reaction occurs for reasons we often can't explain.&nbsp; Sometimes there's a postive reaction from the dancer, too.&nbsp; When that happens there's a potential for trouble, but also the potential for a marvelous friendship.&nbsp; (I say &quot;friendship&quot; because &quot;relationship&quot; conveys something a lot more profound that's more difficult to sustain.)<br /> <br /> My work takes me across the country for months-long stays in towns large and small.&nbsp; In each of those towns, or nearby, I can usually find a club that makes me feel comfortable without also feeling ripped-off.&nbsp; Usually in that club there will be one dancer where the &quot;chemestry&quot; occurs.&nbsp; Occasionally, the reaction occors both ways.&nbsp; That's when I know my stay will be a more pleasant one.<br /> <br /> Now, I'm not a young stud.&nbsp; I'm an old fat fart. I usually don't have a lot of money to spend, though&nbsp;I try to&nbsp; be generous if a dancer makes me feel good (and NOT like a walking ATM!).&nbsp; Still, for some reason,&nbsp;I get a lot of attention from dancers who have better looking, richer and certainly thinner prospects.<br /> <br /> It's nice dating a dancer and being able to enjoy her company at dinner or a show.&nbsp; It's nice to go to a night club and dance, or sight-see, or anything else a couple can do together on a night on the town.&nbsp; But, just like with any other woman you date, sex is not always part of the date, and that is something you MUST remember.&nbsp; I have never met a dancer who did not appreciate being treated like a person, rather than a sexy slab of meat.<br /> <br /> Yes, if a guy isn't careful he can lose a lot of money and come away feeling like a victim.&nbsp; But if you remember to be careful, and remember that the tricks a gal uses to seduce you aren't the bast reasons to get close to her, there's a good chance for something more from your &quot;friendship&quot; with a dancer,&nbsp; After all, they're people too, and they often appreciate feeling like a &quot;regular&quot; person.