STIPPER MISCONCEPTIONS

Saturday, March 27, 2010 6:41 AM

The following are reasons that I have heard from dancers as to why they chose this line of work:  It beats the slavery of office work To supplement her income as a nurse/hairstylist/etc.  To support herself while she persues her acting career This job is only temporary until she makes it big in show biz Because she's a single mother and this pays the bills She's a teenage runaway and she doesn't know what else to do To support her musician and future rock-star boyfriend To support her drug habit To support her boyfriend's drug habit To sell drugs in the club To find clients for prostitution Her boyfriend/husband got her into it She loves her job and considers it a valid career choice (admittedly, the only dancer I heard make this claim was abusing painkillers, was sexually abused as a child, and was struggling with mental health problems) She's pretty and she's always seen herself as a sex object - what else would she do?  The money's great and she's addicted to the money She has no job skills or higher education She's initially attracted to the glamour of the job This is her foray into pornography and "feature dancing" This supplements her income as a porn actress She can't find another job She identifies with the "demi-monde" and the stripper lifestyle  She's not a stripper, she's a "performance artist" She's not a stripper, she's a "burlesque queen" The one I feel should be added---Because they want to...why does it always have to be negative reasoning behind it.  Another thing that bothers me is the common association with strippers and rap music.  Can we please grow-up.  The video girls being associated with strippers associated with porn stars thing is getting lame and tiresome.  People just need to accept people for who they are.   The current generation is going so far away from that core value, that I don't want to be a part of where they are going.

3 comments

o2bRainf3
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14 years ago
Back when i was driving a cab in Chicago, I could swear I heard all those same reasons given by cab drivers, 'or they would leave tomorrow, no questions asked.'  The reasons given by the passengers were even worse.  That's why I'm a Volunteer of America, now! Just kidding.  Actually I've been thinking there has been a growing trend of assertiveness from the ladies over the past 10 years, or so.  A lot (notice I didn't say 'most') of performers have decided they like the job, and/or they like the money and the only people who see anything in the job that they should be ashamed of, are people who shouldn't be in the club in the first place.  I didn't say 'most' because many people like to gripe about their jobs, and their first answer should never be taken as gospel.  i also didn't say it was a trend in honesty, but how many people do answer that question honestly, particularly when its asked by a client? if it were asked of me while i was dancing, I would probably find myself answering with a bit of gallow's humor, or worse. Do you think that could be what you are seeing in your little impromptu poll? Now, if only management could do something about keeping those other people out of the club, we would have progress at our fingertips.
Justanotherexvirgin
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14 years ago
The reason I have found most remarkable was "I haven't found another job where I can make this kind of money and still be home both when my kids leave for school in the morning and when they get home in the afternoon."  That's usually followed by a comment regarding being able to afford a nicer place to live or tuition for some kind of skill training so they'll have something for "when I get older and can't dance any more." Are all of them honest.  Of course not!  But it's also not wise to assume they're all lying theves either. There's an almost sutomatic feeling of intimacy that occurs when a guy is sitting close to a topless or naked woman.  We just have to remember that it's not the kind of intimacy that should encourage us to "open up" with our deepest secrets and desires.  It's a fun, sexy intimacy, to be sure, but keeping her private live private is usually important to a dancer.  We all should respect and remember that.
Notsosly
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14 years ago
 @ justanotherexvirgin -- Sometimes I wish they would heed that practice as well!  I can't begin to count the number of times dancers have told me about their kids, their problems, their boyfriend, or whatnot without me even asking about it (or wanting to know!).  I also can't begin to count the number of times that they have asked me probing questions about my marital/girlfriend status, if I have kids, what I do for a living, etc.,... even within the first 5 minutes of a first conversation with them.  All that talk should be off limits, IMO.  It can really ruin the vibe and ambience, and thus my enjoyment.  I realize that it might just be inexperienced dancers trying to make conversation, or it may be a ROB/Shark trying to size me up, rather than a dancer just being nosy... but I'd rather just avoid those topics all together.

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