Reasons For Getting Ignored

Possibilities.. maybe the guy is unattractive to the point of being ugly or scarey looking maybe he gives off a bad vibe, arrogant, obsessive, controling, desperate, etc. maybe he has obvious bad hygiene, looks dirty, or just plain stinks hell who really knows? it's always YMMV

Yup. It's allways ymmv. Some of the girls don't like my old ass. And sometimes my requests.

Yup. It's allways ymmv. Some of the girls don't like my old ass. And sometimes my requests for extras.

During the times you were ignored, were you maybe wearing your "Do not dance for me hat?" 😏

Seriously, any dancer-perceived conflict around eye contact, body posture, openness to being met, etc, can influence whether she approaches.

Being analytical like yourself, I've asked myself whether I made solid eye contact or glanced away? Did I leave myself open like I wanted to meet someone, or was I closed off like I was busy doing something else on my phone?

In truth, I give off many micro-expressions that can lead a girl feeling either welcome to approach or like she'll have to have to overcome a hurdle. I try to catch myself, so has not to give off unintended vibes. However, sometimes they are actually intended, as I don't want to engage certain girls. So, I guess they serve a purpose.

In the end, I found not taking it personally is wise. Some days you'll be in a club and get inundated, while others will feel like the girls are purposely avoiding you. Just go often enough, and you'll hit the sweet spot middle most the time.

Logic and reason do not apply with strippers so trying to over analyze the situation is a waste of time and energy. Similarly, OP’s 3 strike rules and childish “I’m going to ignore you” behaviors will go unnoticed by the intended parties. It’s like fishing. You put your bait out there by tipping consistently. Sometimes the fish are biting, sometimes they aren’t. Sometimes you keep attracting the fish you don’t want, and sometimes you completely strike out. But you keep fishing, and you keep baiting the hook because every so often you land a trophy.

How did you spend $400 if the strippers were ignoring you?

I mostly was ignored because I was an exclusive regular to 1, sometimes 2, dancers per club. Once the others realized this, I was left alone. I'm also picky as fuck so I decline many more dance offers than accept.

Also, regardless of why I'm being ignored doesn't matter because I think a PL should never just expect to get attention and wait to be approached. Instead I think it's better to go on offense. For example as I tip a dancer on stage, I'll also ask if she's available after her set. It's law of the jungle in the club. Go after the stripper you want. Don't wait!

Major reasons I've heard: body odor, stank breath, too handsy, too stingy, boundary violator.

I have been going to strip clubs for fifteen years. My looks snd personal hygiene must be acceptable to most girls since I have had fairly good success. Most of my regulars seem focused on making money but do not have high spending regulars. The girls I have little success with seem to be not very serious about making a living as a stripper or have a few big spenders who monopolize their time.

What ibbaicnl said.

Spent 400 on what 😳?!

One of my issues is that I don't smile easily; or I should say until the mood strikes me. Some dancers seem to interpret my neutral poker face as grumpy. But others know that may not be the case, and approach me. Once they do, I start smiling, and spending. Other dancers notice that and aren't so reluctant to take a chance on me.

One time my friend and I were at a club and weren't getting much attention. I told the floor guy, who I knew pretty well, to send over any new girls that needed customers. That turned out very nicely. The new girls are trying to figure out the routine, and were afraid of rejection.

"Wonderful things happen when you smile." Now if I could just follow my own advice.

Women or women no matter where you meet them,friend… as the man you have to break the ice, so make a connection and they’ll feel comfortable with you going forward. All women are scared of rejection. Just talk and be friendly and you may have some stripper friends.

Talk about getting mired in Overthinkistan. There’s no algorithm that will get more dancers pay attention to you. Too many variables at play. Per Rightfield’s comment, while I don’t generally go around with a dopey smile on my face, I do smile genuinely when an attractive woman gives the slightest bit of attention to me, even if it’s just collecting tips on a tip walk. I don’t have hard data to say it helps but it can’t hurt

I think part of my problem is that I might go in there with some pretty low energy and then come off as bored and disinterested, a guy who probably won't be spending a whole lot of money. I also tend to give people the impression that I'm a loner (okay, to be fair, I am) and prefer it that way (okay, to be fair, I am -- but not in a strip joint!), so the dancers might think that I just want to be left alone.

Tipping at the stage trying to get noticed is a bad idea. Don't do it because you'll be in competition with all the other PL's tipping at the stage and no doubt there will be a some who will out tip you. The stripper will remember those and not you. And it's quite possible the stripper has already promised a PL waiting for a VIP or dances that she will take care of him after she finishes her set.

If you see a stripper you find attractive try to make eye contact and if she responds, be friendly and compliment her. Don't appear desperate and be outcome independent. If the chemistry is there, she'll feel comfortable and you have a stripper friend for dances, VIPs and possibly more.

I tend to develop a regular or two and make appointments for meetups at the club. The veteran girls realize that and generally won't stop by. Which is fine by me.

Other times or clubs, as others have said, make eye contact. Tip. I apparently tend to smile, which seems to act as an attractant. Some girls will call me Smiley. I do wear a lap dance friendly uniform, so to speak, which may indicate to some this customer is here to spend. And I have found with some I need to be explicit, ask them to stop by in addition to tipping. Be nice to the ones you decline, they compare notes.

Every club is different and every dancer in that club is different. It is hard to generalize. I struggle with the same sort of thing. IMO I would say that giving off a bad mood vibe deters dancers. And seeming like a hard sell discourages dancers.

There was a whasian stripper I was majorly sprung on. She ignored me for about two years till I finally got a dance with her. She had been the sugar baby of a very wealthy customer for several years. He was generous enough that there was little point in her dancing. But he got off on her being a stripper, and wanted her to be in the club if he happened to show up on a weekend. Unsurprisingly, she wasn't very motivated to hustle. Until she could tell her situation with him was wrapping up. She got a bit curvier when she quit smoking. He wasn't into it, and told her to start smoking again.
One example of why extended visits to Overthinkistan are not fruitful.

I remember at one club I used to visit regularly, I had a specific girl as a favorite who was generally disliked by the other dancers. One night, after getting my dances from my favorite, I got ignored for a long while. Finally, I went up to a dancer and asked for a dance, which she gave. In the middle of the dance, she goes on about how she thought I would be a terrible customer because I buy dances from my favorite.

My ultimate point is that sometimes they jump to conclusions about customers.

When strippers in a club primarily earn with regulars, they tend to make a gentleladies' agreement that they won't dance for each other's regulars. The problem is, a dancer can call dibs on you as her exclusive regular, even if that's not your preference. That's a case where high dancer turnover can work in the interest of PLs. A new stripper with no PL harem initially has no reason not to poach from competitor's harems. Unless she's intimidated by possible back room or parking lot beatdowns.

A. Overanalyzing will only lead to you behaving in more off putting ways. Stop trying to turn social interaction into formulas/equations and your vibe will be more chill.

B. How the hell did you spend $400 with everyone ignoring you? 😂

I agree with WiseToo that stage tipping is a crap shoot. If it’s slow and she’s looking for someone to dance for after her stage, they usually come right over, or maybe after a quick trip to DR to freshen up. If I see a dancer I want standing against a wall, alone or with other dancers, I go right up to them and ask them to come spend time with me when they are free. Smile, make eye contact fact, and act confident (even if you’re not), and the direct approach almost always works. If they blow you off, then fuck em, there will always be others willing to g to take your money!

@vilking2012

"It's always YMMV"

Good point. YMMV is rests upon that there are so many variables with this hobby.

That's part of what makes this exciting, and taking that into consideration is how I came up with strategy or an awareness in what to look for.

Chalk it up to being unaware, and it sounds naive, but when I started SCing, I thought this was closer to a one size fits all experience, ultimately a matter of money makes it happen.

Finding out about YMMV was a matter of personal experience.

Lesson learned and emphasized:

*When first encountering a dancer who offered extras, she offered her price for " a handy, some head, and some kissing." I come back to the same club nine months later and meet a different dancer, and her offer was $50 more and $40 for the room fee and she told me kissing would cost extra.

*Encountering another PL at random and discussion lands on the club we both go to.

He mentions a specific dancer that he noticed me talking to often. He said he needed to contact her soon because they had plans to go to lunch.

I had attempted to hook up OTC with her to no avail, turned down and brushed off.

It was a red light for me but a greenlight for him.

This was a lightbulb moment, supper disappointing...but also gaining awareness.

*When getting topless dance, a dancer went fully nude, pulling down her bottoms... because she was so turned on wet.