Stripper Ethics
Saturday, April 13, 2024 1:40 AM
Stripper Ethics
Another poster admonished us that if we are going to strip clubs without our significant other being aware, we are cheating on them.
It calls to mind my cousin. He had been married 8 or 9 years, and had two kids, and decided he wanted sex with more than one woman in his life. So, rather than cheat on his wife, he took the “honest” route and divorced her. He finally managed to find a few new sexual partners, so, whatever. But I think it would have been better if he just found some stray, got it out of his system, and stayed married. It would have been easier on the kids. (I understand his wife may have not been so understanding though.)
Going to a strip club without the wife's knowledge pales in comparison.
But I have run into more than one stripper who is horrified to find out I am married. (And if they ask me, I am not going to lie. I, oddly enough, enjoy a level of honesty in my strip club conversations.)
I have had them walk away after they find that out. But here is the thing: They are ok if you fathered 3 kids and turned your back on them. So long as you didn't commit to marriage.
I chalk that up to if they ever find their sugar daddy, they damn well want him to stay committed.
Call me corrupt. But my feelings are that if I have been responsible to my family for decades, I am entitled to go blow off a little steam once in a while.
When I was younger, I used to tell the wife where I was going, and she grudgingly accepted it. It seemed to be more acceptable to her if I went with a friend.
Now I am older, my kids are all adults, and she is less tolerant. But going to strip clubs is one of my very few pleasures. So the choice is whether to go through the exhausting negotiations, and go even if she is not happy, or cave and not go, or just fucking go on the quiet and hope it never comes up.
Now if she wanted to go to Chippendales or something, I think that would be fucking great. But she has no such desires. (She did get kind of horny when I took her to a live performance of Oh Calcutta! though.)
Is it worth getting divorced over? You know what? I don't know at this point.
I read a review by a guy who went to Deja Vu, in Minneapolis I think, then got back to his motel room and had good sex with his wife. I think that is great too.
On the other hand, my brother was uptight as hell when I took him to a favorite strip club of mine 20 years ago. Guarantee he never went to another. And when he got older, his wife asked him to consider Viagra. And he wasn't interested. So they both just do without.
So, how about this. Don't judge the other guy. You don't know what he has been through. If a stripper is worried and doesn't want to dance for a married guy, whatever, that's up to her. There are others who will. And the uptight stripper can dance for guys who lie to her so she can have a clear conscience.
Most are smart enough not to ask.
But if the young ones ask me. I tell them. And then I give them a tip to the wise: Don't ask that question. Guys don't come here to talk about their wives. I had once answer that she was just making small talk. I told her: "That's not small talk."
A good strip club motto is: "Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies."
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