What’s the best mindset to have going into the club?

Do you have to go feeling suicidal to get the goth girls?

I’m not goth haha I just like goth girls…

Sounds like you already have your answer. Go with the mindset that allows you to best enjoy yourself.

I haven't clubbed in a bit, but mine is "whatever happens, happens."

If I go with "extras or bust," I might buy VIP from a girl I'm halfhearted about, or overpay, and feel bad on the drive home.

Sometimes I'm happier just getting some dances and jerking off to the memory.

In any situation where you are possibly going to spend more than a trivial amount of money, it's MUCH better if you are ready to leave with the money unspent, if it won't be well spent. So, sounds like what you used to do is best.

Relaxed, carefree, positive energy, willing to chill but ready to engage.
Whatever you do, don't go if you are not in a good mood. Nobody wants to hear about your problems. That shit smells from a mile away and you will not have a good time, almost guaranteed.

I say “I’m going up in the bitch and getting my dick wet tonight!!!” Most of the time it’s usually from me taking a sip of my drink too fast and spilling some on my crotch.

The only mindset I usually have when going to the club is that it will be more fun than the other options I have at that moment. While I hope to find extras from a hot girl and therefore bring enough cash for that, if it doesn't happen I am fine bringing the money home with me.

What’s the best mindset to have going into the club?

Gonna see some titties 😋
Gonna feel some titties 😋
Gonna feel 'em good 👍

Maybe kiss some titties
Maybe feel some titties rubbed against mine.

The last two don't always happen, but a titty bonus 🤪 when it does. But the 1st 3, that's my mindset.

I like to go with the mindset the dancers should be delighted that I am gracing them with my presence.

thats funny!

I have beer, naked women and I am not at work. that is more than enough for me so the rest is gravy.

My thought is some of ya'll way overthink going to the club.

I used to like going knowing certain dancers were there because I was guaranteed a good time. Problem with that is they sometimes get busy or have an attitude where they ignore you all night. NOW, I actually prefer it when it’s completely unknown and there’s new dancers I can focus my attention on. Unless it’s a super great regular dancer, I generally always want a new dancer. I also hate slow nights. I do way better on busy nights mainly because there are so many girls to choose from.

I go in with a head set on, blaring Tony Robbins.

When I went on a much more regular basis than now, it was always with the hope that one of my favorites would be there. Nowadays, I'm in the "Whatever happens, happens" camp.

I've backed off so much. I have no choice but to be in the 'whatever happens happens camp.' I'm certainly not a regular anymore primarily because of the greatly rising prices.

Another thing is I don’t get jealous anymore. I used to be jealous and envious of other patrons getting girls I wanted to get dances from and taking up all their time. Now, I look at it as glass half full where it opens opportunities for other and potentially better dancers. Also, if I’m always having to wait for certain girls to finish with other customers, then I know that dancer is probably not someone I want to spend time with anyway.

"Also, if I’m always having to wait for certain girls to finish with other customers, then I know that dancer is probably not someone I want to spend time with anyway."

I don't overthink it. Some girls you just need to have a little time with to see what the vibe is like. Popular dancers are popular for a reason, so if I have time to wait and think it's worth it I'll wait. I do that less and less now, but it happens.

If I know my favorite is working, I go in planning to get my cum swallowed.

If she's not I go in just hoping to see some titties and relax, sometimes get lunch. I'm really picky these days and not loving the Gen Z style when it comes to tattoos and face piercings. I like Girl Next Door more than Rocker Chick. I also hate fake tits. So on top of that if I'm getting dances I want decent mileage.

Enjoy yourself and don’t force things. I like VIPs and some of the biggest disappointments are when I get one at the end of the shift when I probably would prefer another option. Sometimes it’s best to chill out and come back another day.

@JsmesSD - with those expectations?

Wanting to have fun.

@Givemegothgirls

I will play along and comment on your discussion.

Question: What’s the best mindset to have going into the club?

Short Answer: In my humble opinion and limited experience the best mindset to have going into the club is the mindset of going for fun and entertainment.

Long Answer: Having said that; a massive pursuit and long-term goal of mine is looking for and attaining my Holy Grail of OTC:

OTC with a dime DS (Dream Stripper) enjoying GFE (Girlfriend Experience) and PSE (Porn Star Experience) at a reasonable cost where we both walk away feeling that it was a good deal and wanting to repeat because doing business with each other was a pleasure.

I have learned to enjoy the hobby by treating it as gambling, a game of chance; using positive thinking to enhance the experiences and enjoyment. And with the goal of increasing the winnings and reduce the losses.

I don’t dwell on the “losses”, I learn from them and move on. I don’t let “emotions”, “feelings” cloud my judgement and stay calm and act rational.

Many situations in life are like gambling, betting, if you don’t participate you can’t win.

I like the advice in Kenny Rogers “The Gambler”

"If you're gonna play the game, boy
You gotta learn to play it right

You've got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run

You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealin's done.”

I take the gambler approach for getting a girl for OTC.

The idea to get familiar, friendly with a girl I like, and make her feel safe, comfortable, knowing that I am a respectable, trustworthy, educated, fun/funny gentleman.

It might take a couple of visits/meetings with her, to make sure she knows I am not a cop or murderer sociopath and I am 100% discreet, fun and safe gentleman.

I would try to move things to OTC as soon as possible telling her that that is a better business for we both, because we eliminate the middleman (the club) and we both get more from the experience.

Just be careful out there and don’t fall in love with a stripper.

And remember Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

:D