Should I give her another chance?
rickdugan
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I met up with a girl last night who I am just ridiculously attracted to. It was a meet n greet, which we did at a nice restaurant. At first the meetup was going great, but as the dinner moved along an we each had a few drinks, it was increasingly obvious that she was becoming seriously impaired. I had suspected that she had a few before I picked her up, but I couldn't be sure as I did not know what was normal for her. But now I'm sure as those few drinks alone should not have been enough to do this to her.
It was so bad by the end of dinner that I had to help her out of the restaurant and into the car. Obviously my plan to bring her to the hotel was shot. I may be a lot of things, but I won't take advantage of a girl who can't consent. During the ride home she was upset that I wasn't going to continue the date, at least before she got loopy and started talking to people who weren't in the car, but hell no. I won't lie that I was briefly tempted, but my better instincts won out.
Now I know it wasn't opioids because of her behavior before the additional drinks and the difference in how mixing alcohol with them would have looked. Sadly I have had a bit of experience with that, especially during the bad years here in J'ville. Nope, this girl was just straight up hammered.
So I brought her home, gave her a consolation payment and helped her to the door. Then this morning she texts me. At first she acted a little indignant, but quickly went to apologizing when I told her exactly what she was doing and saying, including flashing her very nice tits at me when there were people sitting behind me.
Now she wants another chance. It's not something I would normally consider, but everything else about this girl is so incredible that I'm probably going to do it. She is very pretty, has a small yet luscious little body, is charming as hell and overall just incredibly sexy and alluring. She was a blast to be with right until things went south, during which time I had been contemplating all the things I was going to do with her at our next stop.
One last thing I should add. She texts me a lot. I mean like a bit too much. It's like she doesn't want to go more than an hour or two out of touch with me. I'm sensing that she's seeking approval and affirmation from me. Now mind you this is a girl that I have not slept with yet.
Now there are plenty of warning lights flashing here, but I can't stop thinking about how incredibly attractive she is, and sexy, and charming in a hot kitten-like way, etc. Am I letting the little head do too much of the thinking for me? I'm curious as to what others here might do in a similar situation.
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You know that she is needy and will text you too much. You could manage that with a phone number block to go along with your final goodbye.
So, you could conceivably fuck this girl a few times and then ditch her when the drama inevitably resurfaces.
The question I would encourage you to consider is: what new level of crazy will she reach once you've actually fucked her?
I will play along and comment on your discussion.
Q: Should I give her another chance?
A: You should if you can handle the situation and you are sure she won’t go “crazy” when the “relationship” ends.
In this type of “relationships” someone has to take the lead, usually the man has to take control and make the relationship “work”, by making sure he sets the boundaries and rules and makes sure she understands that he will not allow disrespectful, inappropriate behavior.
You don’t have to walk away, just learn how to deal in a positive way with the girl.
I have a two strikes and you are out policy when dealing with people, including strippers, but I tell them in advance about it.
Like they say everyone deserves a second chance.
“People can learn from their mistakes—and when you give them a second opportunity, you allow them to demonstrate this. It's practical and saves emotional energy.”
Remember it is up to YOU:
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.”
Build a good relationship; use positive reinforcement, reward appropriate behavior, and walk away when their behavior is not appropriate.
Make sure she understands that you are the man in the relationship and you are providing and protecting her in exchange for her love/affection during the time you are together.
Good luck, be careful out there and don’t forget:
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
That's exactly what's on my mind as well. Normally this would be an easy decision, but this girl just rings my bell so much. I'm starting to think that I'm attracted to crazy. 😆
lol. But, if that’s the kink, then that’s the kink. We can’t choose what we like. I guess it just becomes a matter of limiting the impact of a known eventuality. What makes for a super easy, ready to pull at any time ripcord?
Actually, that idea is interesting to me. What would you do to prepare for cutting a potentially complicated girl loose, to make it so that you could do it very quickly and cleanly with no or very low chance of her impacting your life, finding, or contacting you again?
OR
You let her know that she's going to have to prove herself to you. That would require three things: a) gag reflex training, b) swallowing, and c) 500 Kegels a day to maintain herself for you.
OR
You go back to the first choice and pass, because she sounds like a mess. A mess to be molded.
That's where SA is a bit easier than an OTC stripper. With an SA girl I just block her SA profile and then block her on my phone. I can't host for obvious reasons, so they never have my home address. My cell number is also a dead end, which I know because I've run both free and paid searches on it.
Same basic premise with an OTC stripper, though the challenge there is the potential for additional contact ITC.
All of this is by design drew. I use my company VOIP number for anything that might get published online, which btw is also a dead end except to the aforementioned business listings, and I have zero personal social media presence. I don't want to toot my own horn drew, but I was dogging around back when all of this stuff was first getting popular and I realized even back then that my activities required an extra amount of discretion. Even my business listings don't lead to my current primary operations office. Now if a girl is motivated enough to follow me home then she'll have me, but anything short of that I'll just wish her bonne chance cause she won't find me using the methods I use to find them. 😉
The constant texting can be an issue, but again it's not something I'd cut her off for immediately. I'd just simply respond on my own terms and see if she gets the hint and adjusts. If she doesn't take the hint, or you prefer a more direct approach, that sometimes works too. I've encountered a number of strippers who are used to high maintenance customers who actually like or demand that sort of constant interaction, so they're doing it because they think its expected or required. I've made the mistake of indulging it a few times, but I've since learned most times once they realize I don't need to talk to them like they're my new girlfriend things normalize at a sane freqency. Only you can judge if that's the situation, vs her being genuinely looking for attention and positive reinforcement. I don't mind a lot of texts from a stripper but I can't stand the ones who get upset if I don't respond quickly, the ones that are actually seeking that approval. I'm not looking for that sort of shit with a stripper, in fact that's a large part of the entanglement I'm specifically seeking to avoid. If those are her genuine expectations then there's got to be a whole hell of a lot of compensating factors to get me to put up with it. But, hot enough, good enough in bed, and maybe I'd tolerate it, at least for a while.
I'll be totally honest, I would go for it. The fact she is seeking validation suggests she isn't only seeking cash. This girl clearly isn't a ROB and frankly is kind of bad at this hustle.
Other dudes might get too entangled and start falling for the pity hustle but I know enough about your situation to know that's unlikely for you. You can handle her.
That type can make for a great OTC fuck.
But the last thing you need is to come home and find her boiling your kids bunny on the stove…
OK, little head wins. I'm going to take one more run at this. I'll let y'all know how it goes. 😅
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
But then I think of how she looked, and how she felt, and how she smelled, and overall just how much she turned me on, and I can't seem to help myself. I have to give it one more shot. I suspect that she's going to be great in bed if I can get her there.
I guess I'll just have to keep my eyes open when I drive home and make sure I'm not followed, lmao.
😁😁😁
I wish you the best Rick Dugan. Hopefully you will have a great time - and I hope the girl won’t be so clingy.
She also clearly has some mental health issues. Tics started showing up. I'm actually convinced now that she's falling asleep after a bit of alcohol not because she's pre-gaming, but because she's on some heavy duty psyche meds.
Now I will say that her body does indeed look good undressed, but this shit ain't worth it. EJECT EJECT EJECT.
I left the room after she fell asleep in the bed, after only a couple of glasses of wine this time. I covered her up, tiptoed out and went to the local titty bar to lick my wounds, lol.
Then an hour later I received a text with "Can't believe you left." I was a bit annoyed by then and sent her a long-ish text about how she was turning simple into something complicated. She responded with a string of texts:
"I don't understand"
"I want to see you tomorrow again"
"I want to be with you"
"Only you"
Fuck. Glad I got out of there while she was sleeping.
Exactly. Until last night I was a bit intoxicated by her. This really cleared my head. I'll never sit there wondering what I might have missed out on.
I have to admit though that I was tempted to tell her whatever she needed to hear to get inside her, but I just couldn't do it. The ironic part is that she got hers already, which was probably yet another mistake on my part - for multiple reasons.
So, if they can't contain their crazy for the duration of a dinner and drinks, then that tells me that I'm looking at the tip of their uncontrollable crazy iceberg over a plate of prawns. And that's why I bail immediately.
Now, I can't say that I've always bailed in time, but I made that mistake only a couple of times. Which is enough for me.
Sometimes, when you give a bitch you think might be crazy a second chance, you find out just how crazy she really is. I still think the 2nd chance was the right move, as was said earlier, now you know.
Sometimes that type of girl doesn’t take a hint - and sometimes the hint is telling her to stay away.
After all of this I very much needed something easy and fun. So I had dinner and then some ridiculous farmyard sex last night with an utterly age-inappropriate 21 year old girl. Head finally completely clear, lol.
I normally don't like to go too young, but lately my dealings with girls in their 30s have really been getting weird. This is the second girl in the last couple of months who started looking for something more from me, though at least the first one waited a few weeks. I may need to readjust my thinking on my target age range for SBs moving forward.
Good for you brother.
Remember the “rick out” plan. Next time you have a girl sayin’ shit like those texts:
"I don't understand"
"I want to see you tomorrow again"
"I want to be with you"
"Only you"
Just text back:
“Yeah I needed to attend a council of ricks meeting. We discussed you and we can continue being together if you agree to a rickbang. This will involve group sex with me, a lion, a vulture, a shark, and a barnacle. What do you say?”
If she says no you’re rid of her. If she says yes you’re gonna have one helluva night. ROAR!!!