So although I am pretty new to the hobby I have been going consistently to the SC about twice a week for the past two years. During this time I have ventured to about 9 different clubs in the area but none of them give me the rush like my home club. I have taken a short break to work on some things for work and to put money aside for my wedding and trips. It has been about 3 weeks so far and I am not missing the SC and have not even had the urge to go. This could be due to me filling a lot of my current idle time with gaming and guitar playing. Considering the number of times I was going, which was sometimes 3 times a week I am shocked by not feeling the emptiness of not going.
It comes and goes in cycles. Always will. I haven't gone in nearly 3 months and not feeling the urge to. After a while, even the best strip club experiences get routine. No matter how hot she is, or how well she grinds.
I agree everything gets old after a while. I certainly don’t always have great experiences at the club, but even if I did the same thing every time just gets boring. Think of what it would be like being a porn star and saying to yourself, you know I’m just Not in the mood for sex today.
It happens to all of us. For me I usually take a break after having a real shitty experience at a club. It turns me sour towards all the clubs and I'll stop going for months sometimes. But the urge always comes back. I don't know if I'll ever get it all out of my system. Getting married might help I guess. Good luck with that.
I used to go twice a week. I had a regular I saw every week on a weekday and then would go around to other strip clubs on the weekends. When my weekly regular retired from stripping I never had an urge to replace her and now just go once a week. Twice a week strip club visits feels like too much. There are so many other things to do and just having variety in my life is something I enjoy.
It is easy to burn out on clubs when you go so frequently. It also gets very expensive to go to a strip club twice a week for a year.
I would recommend taking a break from clubs. If your fiancé is not aware of your club habit, you should consider stopping altogether. It isn’t a good sign that you are hitting strip clubs multiple times a week during your engagement.
"So although I am pretty new to the hobby I have been going consistently to the SC about twice a week for the past two years."
Two years isn't new. Especially if you're going twice a week. A lot of dudes crash and burn or spend through all the money they can afford by then. I went for a few years I think without going to clubs, and most of last year only went a few times near home. But then I went on the road and the wheels came off that wagon quick.
"It has been about 3 weeks so far and I am not missing the SC and have not even had the urge to go."
Are you counting the weeks? Or did you want to post about it and then did the math in your head? You don't need to tell us, just think that through for yourself. If you're counting the days maybe think about taking a longer break.
"Considering the number of times I was going, which was sometimes 3 times a week I am shocked by not feeling the emptiness of not going."
Why were you expecting to feel "emptiness" by not going? If you've got a fiance that you actually want to marry, maybe the answer is you've got other priorities and that's ok. TUSCL isn't a "how to" guide to life. It's a forum for dudes who have a particular hobby, and in many cases that's all we have in common.
Question for OP: I and others think it is notable that you have a fiancée, yet are going to clubs twice a week. Typically, a couple that are on the cusp of marriage are doing it like bunny rabbits. Are you just so horny that you are boning her 3 times a week and then heading out two more days a week for strange? Or is she not fucking you?
If I remember correctly, booty lover posted a discussion a few weeks ago, and it appeared he was frustrated by the follow up questions. His post had lots of misleading information, and he seemed frustrated with us. I’m guessing this post is similar.
I agree with Drew Carey - regarding being engaged and getting into a strip club habit several times a week. Something is off in the story.
"Probably good to stop going 3 times a week before you get married and your new wife gets a look at your spending habits.."
92, how old are you? you sound like under 30.
if you're interested in marriage to start a family and want to raise kid(s) great. this is the best and frankly only reason to getting married.
if interested in marriage for constant company, emotional attachment and love boinking with not wanting any kid(s) - i don't know. for most couples this mutual feeling generally fades over the course of time. i believe there's a stat that says 80% of divorces are initiated by women. what started out as the love of my love winds up ending with i now owe half of shit to that fucking cunt!!!
you already admitted to going 2-3 times a week to the clubs. and this is before getting married. eventually you are going to wind up still doing the same while married. the urge will be too strong to overcome.
years ago a female good friend asked ne if i ever intend to get hitched. she already knew that i go to the clubs regularly and was cool and non judgmental about it. so one day she asked me what goes on inside the clubs. she was always under the impression that no touching was the rule in these clubs. whe i replied that's bullshit and that i constantly grope ass and sometimes makeout like a motherfucker she in turn said, "oooooh ok. now i know why you're not married."
I wouldn't say it's unusual to be at the cusp of marriage and yet still going to strip clubs a lot. Maybe just really like strip clubs, maybe having doubts. One friend broke it off with a guy she was going to marry because she found out about his strip club habit, and apparently she found out he did extras as well. Another friend got divorced shortly after marriage after her new hubby got a stripper pregnant. So it seems the story is plausible.
But yea, interests can come and go, sometimes quitting cold turkey not as bad as it may seem. Especially if you can find something else to fill in that time/energy.
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I would recommend taking a break from clubs. If your fiancé is not aware of your club habit, you should consider stopping altogether. It isn’t a good sign that you are hitting strip clubs multiple times a week during your engagement.
Two years isn't new. Especially if you're going twice a week. A lot of dudes crash and burn or spend through all the money they can afford by then. I went for a few years I think without going to clubs, and most of last year only went a few times near home. But then I went on the road and the wheels came off that wagon quick.
"It has been about 3 weeks so far and I am not missing the SC and have not even had the urge to go."
Are you counting the weeks? Or did you want to post about it and then did the math in your head? You don't need to tell us, just think that through for yourself. If you're counting the days maybe think about taking a longer break.
"Considering the number of times I was going, which was sometimes 3 times a week I am shocked by not feeling the emptiness of not going."
Why were you expecting to feel "emptiness" by not going? If you've got a fiance that you actually want to marry, maybe the answer is you've got other priorities and that's ok. TUSCL isn't a "how to" guide to life. It's a forum for dudes who have a particular hobby, and in many cases that's all we have in common.
Something doesn't add up here.
I agree with Drew Carey - regarding being engaged and getting into a strip club habit several times a week. Something is off in the story.
92, how old are you? you sound like under 30.
if you're interested in marriage to start a family and want to raise kid(s) great. this is the best and frankly only reason to getting married.
if interested in marriage for constant company, emotional attachment and love boinking with not wanting any kid(s) - i don't know. for most couples this mutual feeling generally fades over the course of time. i believe there's a stat that says 80% of divorces are initiated by women. what started out as the love of my love winds up ending with i now owe half of shit to that fucking cunt!!!
you already admitted to going 2-3 times a week to the clubs. and this is before getting married. eventually you are going to wind up still doing the same while married. the urge will be too strong to overcome.
years ago a female good friend asked ne if i ever intend to get hitched. she already knew that i go to the clubs regularly and was cool and non judgmental about it. so one day she asked me what goes on inside the clubs. she was always under the impression that no touching was the rule in these clubs. whe i replied that's bullshit and that i constantly grope ass and sometimes makeout like a motherfucker she in turn said, "oooooh ok. now i know why you're not married."
But yea, interests can come and go, sometimes quitting cold turkey not as bad as it may seem. Especially if you can find something else to fill in that time/energy.