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I've recently been a big fan of tracking calories. With apps like MyFitnessPal, it's pretty easy to get an estimate of what you're eating, and to me it was kind of surprising. Like realizing a double quarter pounder at McDonalds (where I wouldn't even be close to full) can have the same calories as a giant plate of chicken and veggies (which would actually fill me up). So when I tracked consistently aiming to be at a calorie deficit, I lost weight pretty consistently for weeks, and it has stayed off. And there is nothing I don't eat per se, I just make sure I make up for it in calories later on. So like if I have pizza or burgers for lunch, I just try to aim for low calorie, filling foods for the rest of the day. Though I understand that it is harder for some than others to control food cravings, just noting that for me, seeing those numbers and what I needed to do really helped.

I guess I would be one of the few that is generally not a fan of eating out per se, especially with random women I barely know. I will gladly do it for an SO or something, because I want her to feel good and climax, but it doesn't really get me much more excited than I already am (beyond the excitement of sex itself). So since it's somewhat one-sided for me, I generally would not unless it's an SO or someone I really like, or if they already went down first (it's only fair). Generally would not if it's a random I just met at like a bar or club or something. Ass, I don't think I would ever. Maybe if I literally see them get an anal douche or something, but even then that's questionable. Difference between non-strippers and strippers, haven't really thought of it. I've eaten out a girl who was a stripper before and didn't really think twice about it, but maybe as I get more familiar with this forum I will.

I wouldn't say it's unusual to be at the cusp of marriage and yet still going to strip clubs a lot. Maybe just really like strip clubs, maybe having doubts. One friend broke it off with a guy she was going to marry because she found out about his strip club habit, and apparently she found out he did extras as well. Another friend got divorced shortly after marriage after her new hubby got a stripper pregnant. So it seems the story is plausible. But yea, interests can come and go, sometimes quitting cold turkey not as bad as it may seem. Especially if you can find something else to fill in that time/energy.

Fun story. Maybe it's a newb question, but do you expect to keep things moving, knowing that you likely cannot do it more than once a month? I imagine that time in-between could lead maybe changed circumstances or priorities for your dancer, before it can become a regular thing. Like if I think of it in terms of dating (though likely an inapt analogy), you kind of have to keep the momentum going, especially if she was hesitant to begin with. So I wonder if/how this would apply if you were only meeting once a month or less (or maybe that's normal?).

Interesting read. So how do you manage the risk of contracting an STD? Just everything covered all the time, even oral? Seems like that would be much more difficult to hide if you actually got it (and assuming you are still active with your wife).