Words of wisdom??? š¤
Specialj
I remember years ago having a conversation with my father, RIP. I was about 20 years old at the time and I had mentioned to him a desire to find a ānice girlā to be in a relationship with. He looked at me and said āYou donāt want a nice girlā¦..they are too expensiveā.
Fast forward approximately 30 years and incidentally here I am, never been married, single and with no children. Although I believe children can de the best thing in the world for people who have them, but for me apparently, it wasnāt meant to be.
It should be noted I am perfectly happy with the ITC āattention I get from dancers. Itās not a relationship where Iām committed and there is minimal expectations on both sides and the odds of me getting emotionally attached are low being that that change in the dynamics of association between both parties would less than desirable.
So maybe my dad was right all along!?! What do you guys think?
Fast forward approximately 30 years and incidentally here I am, never been married, single and with no children. Although I believe children can de the best thing in the world for people who have them, but for me apparently, it wasnāt meant to be.
It should be noted I am perfectly happy with the ITC āattention I get from dancers. Itās not a relationship where Iām committed and there is minimal expectations on both sides and the odds of me getting emotionally attached are low being that that change in the dynamics of association between both parties would less than desirable.
So maybe my dad was right all along!?! What do you guys think?
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last commentIf you're using hookers as a surrogate for a sex life or relationship. Save that money for therapy or the gym
If by nice he meant "nice to you" then I would disagree. Mrs C for example is nice to me (generally) and she's been nothing but an asset. Earns large cash, builds relationship in family/friend/neighbor circles, takes care of children, etc. All of which contribute to the bottom line. Maybe I'd have more cash if I didn't have kids, but I like having kids, so that's more a cost of doing business as DC.
If he meant "not dirty in bed", then it could run either way... some delightfully slutty women are financial assets in a partnership, and some duds are millstones in the same context.
My dad's advice was "try strippers, they let you do everything except come inside them". That was on my college graduation day. LOL
As long as you are happy, thatās all that matters. I am not a guy who can judge anyone elseās life decisions.
My ex and my kids have added much more to my life than I could have ever imagined. Iāve made enough mistakes for several lifetimes, and Iām still learning - and growing. Enjoy what you have, and avoid asking a bunch of strip club perverts about life advice.
The fact that there is a societal expectation that *EVERYONE* must be married and have children is part of the reason why there are so many divorces and neglected (and in some cases abused) children.
And it doesn't need to be all or nothing. I know a couple of happily married couples who solidly don't want children (but it doesn't stop their relatives from nagging them...). And I know a few people who adopted children as single parents with no intention to marry (and the kids are fine).
It's a good thing to recognize what you're built for, even if it doesn't conform to what everyone expects.
I wish I had listened... instead of getting married.
Being married to the wrong person is the worst.
If youāre going to do it, choose wisely.
My pops told me long ago there are girls you play with they're fun broads, but they aren't wife material, those are called ladies and they won't ever understand, nor will they tolerate your fun broads. So remember this if you want to have a happy life marry a fun broad, and you'll never be lonely. The only thing my pops got wrong there, was he never factored into the equation, of his eldest son being widowed due to a tragic accident. Life is funny and you never know what is around the corner, so enjoy it as best you can.
I will play along and comment on your discussion.
āA man once asked his father, āFather, how will I ever find the right woman?ā His father replied, āForget finding the right woman, focus on being the right manā.ā
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What cj didn't divulge was the similar conversation with his father.
ācj once asked his father, āFather, how will I ever find the right woman?ā His father replied, āForget finding the right woman, throw out your dick pic collection, focus on being a man and not a homo.ā
As we now know, cj didn't follow his father's advice, was deported from Germany and now practices his hitler devotion while clutching his dick pics here in America.