SC etiquette - tipping for conversation?
This is probably the biggest SC etiquette item that I have yet to figure out during the 5 years or so I've been SCing.
What is the appropriate $ value for time spent conversating with a stripper? Is there an unwritten rule of thumb?
If I spend 5-30 minutes chatting, but then buy some dances at the end, there's not usually any need or expectation to tip for conversation.
But, with some girls, if you chat her up for even a few minutes, and then don't get a dance, buy a drink, or tip her for her time, she'll get pissed like I've cheated her out of earned money based on an unwritten rule.
What is the appropriate $ value for time spent conversating with a stripper? Is there an unwritten rule of thumb?
If I spend 5-30 minutes chatting, but then buy some dances at the end, there's not usually any need or expectation to tip for conversation.
But, with some girls, if you chat her up for even a few minutes, and then don't get a dance, buy a drink, or tip her for her time, she'll get pissed like I've cheated her out of earned money based on an unwritten rule.
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As for how much, I think it depends on what kind of an impression you want to make on her. I would say the max would be the full per song dance rate. That way she can engage with you right there rather than in the dance booth and generally you can lead it.
There are accounts of just handing girls $100.
The amount could be lower at our local no touching no dance booth clubs, like maybe $5 to start off. Maybe $20 for sitting down with you for a while.
Best to pick the one you want to be seeing outside, and then be generous with her.
SJG
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now it's either we go grind on my terms, or she wasted my time and gets nothing.
we can always buy them back later.
and now i look forward to and smile watching their hissy-fits.
the poor excuses for strippers these days are not worthy of etiquette.
I'm OK with feeding them a 5 or 10 every 15-20 minutes if I'm having a good time. Not much more than that.
and of course, never pay the fuck-off fee.
ok. off to monger. lulz.
If I’m not his cup of tea and I can tell, I will leave and it’s no big deal.
If I am sitting there entertaining you with conversation, jokes, my beautiful face, and my huge boobs in a really small see through bra, and you do not say “hey I just want to let you know I’m waiting for another girl/about to leave/out of money/[not going to get a dance],” I assume you are interested in that and will continue to sit with you so that we can relax and socialize before going to the dance area.
On the other side of the room there may be (a) guy(s) who is waiting for me and sees I’m with you and finally gives up and grabs someone else to go dance. So you are keeping me occupied and I just missed a real opportunity to dance for someone who was interested.l, because of you.
If you are not interested, communicate it, if you want me to sit with you but not dance, please offer a tip at the very least. Especially now when we acknowledge that clubs aren’t doing their best and neither are dancers.
If someone asks for a tip after sitting with you for less than 5 minutes, give them $1. Lol.
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On the other hand, if I engage her in conversation or initiate physical contact, offer her a drink or ask her to sit, or otherwise do anything to suggest I'm interested then I'm going to give her something. That may mean a couple of dances or it may mean a few bucks. Mostly I'm gonna buy dances, but if I don't then the amount I give her varies on lots of factors that mostly boil down to my perceived value and estimated opportunity cost. If I was interested but after spending a little time together I no longer am, it'll be a token amount of maybe 5-10. If I enjoyed hanging out but for some reason don't want dances it might be 20-60 or so. If I liked her enough to give her more I'm probably just gonna buy dances, a room, or if the conversation led that way maybe ask about OTC.
I personally take a pass on dancers who are unreliable, and imply it's your fault because you aren't generous enough. No matter how attractive they may be otherwise.
But if I'm just out for in the club fun I think shadowcat is right. If I know I know. One drink then off to the races
I won't intentionally waste a dancers time by leading her on. That's just being a dick. I will occasionally feign uncertainty about dances when I've already decided to get some because I'm enjoying the attention she's giving me (like if she's sitting on my lap or giving me a handshake). But I don't feel bad about that because she is going to get paid (and probably a VIP).
There's no unwritten rule of thumb. Like most, I make a judgement call based on a number of factors, including how busy the place is, whether I've indicated to her I'm not interested (or alternatively, affirmatively welcomed her company), etc.
In the club fun I just get to the point first and ask her how much she wants to ride me like she's at a Texas rodeo
while in pregame with a nervous babystripper, a house dancer walking by reassured her i was the sweetest guy in the club (i know. i was suprised too). she made $5 for the comment/assist.
Well then I suppose I'm fucking ugly if those are the only choices lol
It does mean that you need to make a decision and be careful of how you make this because women take this kind of stuff very personally.
SJG
The appropriate value for conversating with a stripper is zero - unless the club posts a sign with a menu of charges such as, Lap Dance: $ 25, VIP: $ 100, Conversating with Stripper: First 3 minutes free; thereafter $ 1 per minute.
The main one for me is if she came and sat down of her own accord or if you asked her to sit and chat with you. If she just came and sat with you, I feel that you're not obligated to tip her if you don't want to. If you ask her to come sit with you, a tip is definitely expected I believe. Sometimes I'll ask a girl to come sit with me and if I don't like her, I'll just say "it was nice to meet you" and tip her $5.
There are many more variables, like is the club slow? Are you in VIP? Do you want her to stay with you?
If the club is slow, but not totally dead, I'd tip $1/minute. If it's dead, I'd just feed her some $1 bills over the course of the conversation. If it's busy, you may be costing her money, so tip appropriately.