Clubs where dancers find their Real Life Partners from the club

Jimmybigtits
Western PA
So, as you may know from my previous threads, I recently started going to new clubs after retirement and a move. These clubs are very different from big city clubs.

I'm a spender on conversation because my approach is similar to Ricks OTC strategy so I rarely do ITC early while I'm betting candidates.

While doing so I found out that a shockingly high number of dancers I talked to are currently dating guys they met in the club or just ended one year relationships with guys they met in the club and often these guys are at least 15 years older than they are. WELL over half the dancers are. They describe it as a move to get away from all the loser boyfriends.

Now, I'm not looking to becoming a stripper hubby. But damn this is a high number. I have never heard of this. Is this common in your experience?

And for more detail, in each case they are living with the guy or very much enmeshed in his family life (I asked). So I don't think when they say "dating" they are referring to paid OTC.

30 comments

  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    I mean customers not bouncers. And not just sex but long term relationships. It's strange to me so many of them have. All mid 20s or younger
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Oh sorry I missed your joke lol
  • Subraman
    2 years ago
    On stripper forums, when there are "have you ever dated a customer?" threads, a huge number of strippers say yes they have. Although that is often followed by "Once. Never again." 🤣

    I haven't found it nearly as common as you. But I've seen it enough to believe that "date a guy (even a customer) who is 15 years older, as a strategy to change her life situation" may not be exactly common, but it's a thing. She's stuck in a rut without money, and a 40 year old guy has had a lot of time to build wealth, and may be more inclined to spend it on her, so he's her exit strategy.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Yes subramsn I've seen it too. But this club seems to be filled with those women. That's what I have not experienced
  • Subraman
    2 years ago
    Ya, never experienced that either.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Well, it's a rural/small town area with high unemployment and no good paying blue collar jobs for young folks and anyone going to college moves away so prospects are limited
  • Muddy
    2 years ago
    This defies the Papi Chulo theory of it not being a girlfriend supermarket. Maybe it is. I’m gonna get my ass over there and get me a wife. I’m ready.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Muddy I'm not ready lol! But I will introduce you around. Lol. It's a weird place for sure
  • nicespice
    2 years ago
    My guess is that it’s not a “club that does that” persay, but I get the impression a lot of dancers are either leaving the industry at the moment or have their eyes on it right now. And they might be getting more blatant with those kinds of intentions because they are feeling financial insecurity and want to get out of it and take one of the guys they like more with them. And brings stuff up like that in an indirect way as bait, and leaving it open to guys to take the bait. Plus during 2020/2021, a lot of newbies flooded the industry, and only knew the clubs in a relative post-Covid boom period. All that is correcting itself, and a lot of dancers are panicking harder because they don’t know how to deal with the new (to them) environment.



  • psycho_trick
    2 years ago
    not knocking the thread, but the premise of any stripper telling the truth is a long shot at best.

    sounds like a good ploy to keep the guest thinking she's cool with fucking dudes from the club, though.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    So @nicespice then it's SS so to speak to get a guy to help them get out of the situation the dump them? That makes sense. At this club it's a combo of post Covid newbies and 5-6 year vets who've told me about this. Shit I guess Muddy won't find a wife here after all...

    Thanks as always Spice
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Yep Grind I thought of that. What's weird tho is about 3 out of 7 of them on a given week day evening have their men in the club which is weird AF
  • nicespice
    2 years ago
    —>“What's weird tho is about 3 out of 7 of them on a given week day evening have their men in the club which is weird AF”

    Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. What club is this? Feel free to PM or ignore if you don’t feel comfortable putting that out there
  • Icee Loco (asshole)
    2 years ago
    They tell tricks things like having a loser bf. Or that they date customers. To give him hope and keep spending money.

    Dating someone who us just a customer is rare. It's usually girls who are old or aren't making money so he's an exit strategy. With younger girls it's almost always to feed their habits.

    Strip clubs are very hierarchical. Tricks are near the bottom.

    Dating dancers isn't that hard. But this is a really bad way of going about it
  • ilbbaicnl
    2 years ago
    I'd be suspicious it's a "age is just a number, you have a shot" hustle. Hard to know what's really going on in anyone's personal life, but my impression is that strippers much prefer dating guys that aren't customers.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    I have no interest in dating them. My point is simply how high the number is in that club of dancers who do legit date customers is new for me. It's incredibly high. But no I don't want a shot. Been there done that. No maas
  • rickdugan
    2 years ago
    It happens. I briefly dated a stripper back when I was too stupid to even know what I didn't know about these girls and the industry. Maybe that was a good thing to her as I clearly didn't come off as a seasoned hound. She just told me that if she said yes that she never wanted to see me in the club ever again and I complied.

    But tbh it only took me 2 weeks to realize that I couldn't handle it and I had to walk away. From then on this made my dealings with strippers so much simpler. I say with no modesty whatsoever that back then I was fucking plenty of attractive civvie girls and there were plenty of strippers that were not out of my league. When I was finally taken off the market by Mrs. Dugan, understanding that strippers were a no fly zone for me romantically allowed me to use them as side fun without the fear of complications. Sadly I've since aged and there is no risk of any confusion anymore, LMAO.

    But it still happens fairly often. Boy meets girl can happen in a strip club just like anywhere else. But keep in mind that the same dynamics in any other venue still apply in a strip club - if she is out of your league, then she is out of your league anywhere. A very quick way to go broke is to be a dumb male 5 who convinces himself that a stripper who is an 8 really likes him. 😉
  • mark94
    2 years ago
    Many years ago, in the city where I lived, a couple was arrested for fucking in the stands at a rock concert. The woman claimed it was okay because he was her fiancé. The man told police he had just met her.

    I suspect that if you were to ask the stripper and her older “boyfriend” to define their relationship, you’d get very different answers. “Dating” 😙
  • Dolfan
    2 years ago
    It's not just strippers. I see plenty of 20 somethings with 40 somethings running around in the real world. It's a match that works for both sides pretty often, at least for a while.
  • rickdugan
    2 years ago
    Idk, but most of the legit club initiated dating situations I've seen have been more age appropriate. The ones with wider age disparities have often been girls who needed a place to stay or were otherwise looking for some type of SD thing.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Honestly I don't even know how an older guy who starts off paying her even transitions to a normal relationship with greater equality by taking money out of the equation. But yes Rick the few times I've seen this happen with any likelihood of success the age difference was no more than about 15 years and the stripper was at a bailout age of around 35 or so. I can't see a 30 year difference with her 25 or so.
  • skibum609
    2 years ago
    2Icee with another comment worthy of an anal wart. Why would anyone go employment specific shopping for a girlfriend? No one just ever meets regular women during the day? Seriously? You don't go out at night? Shop? Work out? Hike?
    How many of the older guys here used to use bars as hunting grounds for girlfriends? I know my friends and I did. I also know that with the introduction of alcohol into any new relationship, it won't last. We all met plenty of dates and girlfriends in bars and not one of us is married to one of them. Strip clubs are bars, with an added impediment.
  • Icee Loco (asshole)
    2 years ago
    Skibum I don't care where I meet girls. I actually meet most in grocery stores. In my neighborhood. Strip clubs. Bars. Its all tye same
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    Well this got a little Junior High. I guess I'm partly to blame. I guess it's time to all whip out our peckers and break out the tape measure.
  • skibum609
    2 years ago
    Lmao @ its all the same. Icee you don't know jack shit about women. Just a pathetic little lying douche. Meeting a girl in a grocery store means nothing more than you watch too much daytime tv.
  • Jimmybigtits
    2 years ago
    I met a girl in a grocery store earlier today. She gave me my change and the receipt
  • Icee Loco (asshole)
    2 years ago
    I know more about women than most on here
  • Icee Loco (asshole)
    2 years ago
    At least about young women and stripper hoes
  • TheeOSU
    2 years ago
    ^


    That's my homie!
    full of shit but we still homiez lulz
  • rickmacrodong
    2 years ago
    Icee, i dont see why dating customers is rare especially if its paid dates. By dating do you mean an equal relationship where the stripper and guy are splitting bills etc?

    Icee in dont see why you word it as “dating someone who is just a customer”. This is not like a grocery store customer and cashier, the strip club customer is directly providing rhe income to the girls. To the point some of them will cheat on their SO for that money.

    Why would a guy with options want to date a stripper? Unless he wants to have her quit stripping? In that case, still, why? There’s a reason that so many strippers boyfriends are being supported by them or working retail type jobs. The guys who have other options seem to not want to date strippers. Look at Dugan and all the guys on here, they may pay a few hundred for OTC but most of them aren’t looking to date strippers.
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