Avoiding interactions with other SC patrons
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
Since the reopening I've been clubbing like crazy.
One thing that's changed for me is I want to interact only with the dancers. Now, I avoid any banter another customer may initiate. This includes bouncers and management etc...
While in the club I'll position myself to limit the possibility of such interactions with other PLs.
Of course I'll respond to friendly banter directed at me but I keep the interaction as brief as possible.
This is also true in the civie world. Where previously I would make a joke or comment, I now give everyone a wide berth.
Anyone else experiencing this phonomena (sp?)
One thing that's changed for me is I want to interact only with the dancers. Now, I avoid any banter another customer may initiate. This includes bouncers and management etc...
While in the club I'll position myself to limit the possibility of such interactions with other PLs.
Of course I'll respond to friendly banter directed at me but I keep the interaction as brief as possible.
This is also true in the civie world. Where previously I would make a joke or comment, I now give everyone a wide berth.
Anyone else experiencing this phonomena (sp?)
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I might get into a conversation with another customer or anyone else once in a great while, but not often.
Middle aged white guys try to buy drugs from me or ask me about hoes lulz. Racial profiling sucks
I don't think your post was unclear. Generally speaking, I didn't care before about talking with other customers and don't care now. I'm breathing the same air whether I'm talking with them or not. To look at one of your examples, if the place I'd like to sit happens to be near another customer I'm not going to avoid the spot. Now I'm not going to sit at a table with another dude unless we know each other, but I'm not going to complicate my experience just to avoid being near someone.
For instance the other day I walked into a club and it looked like a table had another customer at it, so I passed over the seat I wanted so the guy wouldn't feel crowded. The next available table wasn't in a spot I liked, then I noticed the customer was sitting at a corner table and the dancer had put her purse and shit on the table I wanted. So I walked back over and rearranged a couple of chairs and sat down. The tables were spaced funny because someone had pushed the table over, but once the other customer went and got his dances I moved it back and went on about my business.
This was long before the shutdown. I was really drunk (okay, shitfaced) and I don't usually act this way but... Some weirdo was sitting 2 bar stools down from me and started talking stupid shit. Commenting on the dancers and trying to get me to respond, in a really annoying way. For a while I was tolerant, like yeah she's hot or whatever. I also noticed he wouldn't tip the girls when they came around, he had no money on the bar and if he did tip, he made a big show of reaching in his pocket and handing them one dollar.
Then he starts asking me what girls would be good in the back room and how much they charge (he must have realized I'm a regular in the place.) I was in fact a regular and everybody knew me from the dancers to the bartenders to the bouncers and the owner.
For a second or two I considered whether or not he might be LEO, but ruled that out because his English was so bad and he had no manners whatsoever. He was just a scumbag and a cheapskate.
So I moved over to sit right next to him, looked him square in the eye, and told him to go fuck himself. It's not even like I'm some big threatening guy, I'm not at all. The truth is when I get drunk I'm usually happy and more friendly than when I'm sober. But this guy just pissed me off so bad. So after I told him to fuck himself I said either move to the other side of the bar or get the hell out of here.
Well this pussy started crying like a little girl. He literally had tears coming down his face. He made some half-assed apology and asked the bartender to get me a drink on his tab. I told the bartender to forget about the drink and either he goes or I'm leaving. Like 10 seconds later a huge bouncer came and threw the guy out the door.
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I have rarely had an issue when at a table. For those that were not familiar with the old Follies, along the wall it was table-seat-seat-table-seat-seat-table. it had its own table etiquette. You were sitting next to a guy maybe one foot away and actually sharing a table with the guy across the table from you along the wall. Thee were seats away from the wall where your dancers could sit. Every once in a while some idiot would decide to join your table. Usually both guys along the wall (who would otherwise ignore each other) would both tell the guy this was our table.
It was also cool to ask the other guy at your table to watch your seat or drink. People were bad about immediately grabbing a seat as soon as someone got up, even just to tip at the stage.
Sometimes the conversation would start off normal enough only to find out the custie was mentally unstable or maybe a racist or complete whack job.
The shit these ladies deal with must be intense.
It's amazing strip clubs function as well as they do.
Finally we move over there and the dancers start talking. The BFF starts going on about how the customers are cheap and she hasn't made hardly any money. The guy is sitting right there lol!
I suppose it was wasn't really a chat. It was more like I look over and the dude has that "this shit is awkward" look on his face. I just shrugged. To make it even funnier we were waiting on a VIP room to open up and the other dancer said those two had just done one so it should be free.
So I'm guessing she'd just gotten whatever money that guy brought. I think the BFF was still angling for a double VIP with me, but she'd just finished with annoyed dude and told me earlier she'd been out for weeks with a weird body rash. She said it wasn't contagious and just looked bad, but umm...no.
If a customer speaks to me, I’m fine chatting. But, I don’t want to compare notes on dancers - and I’m looking for any intel either.
I won’t be rude, I just won’t be super engaging either (with other customers).
I apologize for any confusion caused.
I'm an introvert, if I didn't come in with a friend I probably don't care for their company. That said I'll have the occasional chat about strip clubs in general, talk about the good old days, shit like that. But I won't go out of my way for it.
SJG
Yeah ... so ... that's not hard to accomplish when you don't actually go to strip clubs.
SJG said "Only once long ago did I bring anyone. They did not really like it."
That's because goats prefer open fields. Not strip clubs.
I’m guessing there are some odd folks who have tried to bring their pets to a club.
I had a weird interaction at a swingers club once. A teacher from Boston and I chatted when the club was empty. We left to get some food then when we came back shared some guys wife. He told me he wished his son was like me lol
SJG
I guess with me, I like to zone out of stuff that doesn’t interest me. So when I’m in the club, I only care about the gals, unless I want another beverage. I’m not rude but lean toward keeping to myself. So it’s like a lightly jarring event if some random dude tries to strike up a convo with me in the club. That’s always been the case with me and not a post covid thing.
I try to be situationally aware and observant but not engage.