One of my Lez/Bi friends met a guy that she plans on hooking up with. She was only with 2 guys in the past and this was several years ago so she asked for my advice on giving head... feel free to share other ideas but my advice was pretty simple. Look into his eyes bat your eyelashes a few times and take it like you are drowning in the ocean and his cock is your last chance for air. let him grab your hair and slam it in. slobber is a must and running make up is for sure the best. if your eyes arent watering you are doing it wrong. agree???
To me blowjobs are like most things, people are usually good at what they enjoy - many blowjobs are mediocre (better-than-nothing) b/c the girl is going thru-the-motions and doing it mostly if not just solely for him - again better than nothing, but IME it seems the girls that liked to suck a dick were often much-more-enjoyable.
As for technique - for me I like it nice-and-slow as if she was savoring a popsicle and like it when she takes it in as much as possible vs only focusing on the head - I don't like the fast up-and-down chicken head thing, I like it nice-and-slow and deliberate as if she was savoring the most delicious thing she's ever had.
Three additions:
1. It's a good idea to ask for feedback a time or two. Is that deep enough? Do you want me to suck harder? Etc.
2. Sincere moans and compliments are good. "mmm love the taste of your dick" "it fits my mouth so well" Etc.
3. If she's willing, or better yet anxious, to swallow on her first BJ with him, she will own his soul, cock and wallet forever.
No one else mentioned it...form a circle with the thumb and forefinger to encircle the shaft. Keep everything well lubricated and slide the circle in the opposite direction of her mouth, so when moving down with the mouth stroke up smoothly/gently with circle.
I can show you or her better than explaining the technique:))
Obviously not everyone likes the same thing so it'll be hard to have a consensus answer:
+ I don't wanna be having to give feedback/directions, I wanna just lay back and enjoy it
+ for w/e reason, I don't get much out of the ball sucking thing - and that's an area where I get a little jumpy if she doesn't know what she's doing it and she's treating the balls as if they were made out of steel
+ prefer for it to be all-mouth and no-hands - to me it's cheating if she's using the hand - I'm an originalist
If she's playing it safe and to avoid any awkward moments have her cut a hole in the face mask ahead of time. Also if she brings hand sanitizer make sure it's non-alcohol based
Vary the motion and intensity, rather than just going balls to the wall full speed the entire time.
When done right, starting off slow and smooth while steadily building up the intensity then slowing right back down can really drive me up the wall.
Eye contact and facial expressions, every so often really can get me into the blowjob. The expression depends much on the woman. One woman can give me a look that says she just loves pleasuring me, while another can give the same look and it seems fake and does nothing.
A lot of gals will rest their elbows or arms on or across the thigh area. Don’t - all this is doing is distributing nerve stimulation across a larger area. Focus all the stimulation on the twig and berries.
Stroking the shaft will get him hard if he isn't already and is a good way to tease if you want to keep things slow. During a blowjob, stroking the shaft is necessary as it tricks his body into thinking he's having sex. Stimulation of the glans is what will actually make him orgasm with the majority of the nerve endings focused around the entrance to the urethra. Ball play isn't necessary but feels amazing when he finally orgasms. As he orgasms, stroke the back of his scrotum in the same way a guy might stroke his beard.
French the bottom of the shaft when it’s in your mouth. Too many dancers give that modified hand job instead of a true mouth only blow job. No jack hammer either.
Me personally? No talking, maybe light moans; slow with medium to hard pressure; plenty of lube or spit with ball and taint licks thrown in while maintaining rhythm with the hand, and for gods sake maintain some type of contact (mouth or hand) to completion.
Tell your lesbo friend to watch Tiger King on Netflix, that way she won’t feel like such a fuck up and will have better self esteem and won’t have to resort to stooping in order to feel better about herself.
I don't think you can plan a bj. It depends on the mood and vibe and how things go. Sometimes a nice slow blowjob is great other times its grabbing her head and some throat fucking.
It's not much different than licking pussy, everyone is different in the details.
My best advice is to just pay attention. If he's grabbing her head and trying to fuck her face then trying a slow sensual blowjob might not be what he wants. The inverse is also true. The other big thing, try to enjoy it herself. If she's too worried about doing it right and she's stressed out about it then it won't be as fun for anyone. The best blowjobs for me happen naturally, when she's having a good time.
Oh please, PoleDancer, sweetie! You will never be as good at giving head as a man is. This is a man's job! Ask RickDugan and desertscrub! They both love my work! It is betrer than any woman
Think I read somewhere once that when it comes to BJ, the mouth is the yin and the hand is the yang. And unfortunately there usually is too much yin and not enough yang.
For those commenting about use of the hand, I totally agree. The advantage of just the thumb and fore finger, that's well lubricated, is that it replicates entering a pussy...so you get both sensations.
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To me blowjobs are like most things, people are usually good at what they enjoy - many blowjobs are mediocre (better-than-nothing) b/c the girl is going thru-the-motions and doing it mostly if not just solely for him - again better than nothing, but IME it seems the girls that liked to suck a dick were often much-more-enjoyable.
As for technique - for me I like it nice-and-slow as if she was savoring a popsicle and like it when she takes it in as much as possible vs only focusing on the head - I don't like the fast up-and-down chicken head thing, I like it nice-and-slow and deliberate as if she was savoring the most delicious thing she's ever had.
1. It's a good idea to ask for feedback a time or two. Is that deep enough? Do you want me to suck harder? Etc.
2. Sincere moans and compliments are good. "mmm love the taste of your dick" "it fits my mouth so well" Etc.
3. If she's willing, or better yet anxious, to swallow on her first BJ with him, she will own his soul, cock and wallet forever.
I can show you or her better than explaining the technique:))
+ I don't wanna be having to give feedback/directions, I wanna just lay back and enjoy it
+ for w/e reason, I don't get much out of the ball sucking thing - and that's an area where I get a little jumpy if she doesn't know what she's doing it and she's treating the balls as if they were made out of steel
+ prefer for it to be all-mouth and no-hands - to me it's cheating if she's using the hand - I'm an originalist
Do like the moaning as long as it's genuine (or sounds genuine)
When done right, starting off slow and smooth while steadily building up the intensity then slowing right back down can really drive me up the wall.
Eye contact and facial expressions, every so often really can get me into the blowjob. The expression depends much on the woman. One woman can give me a look that says she just loves pleasuring me, while another can give the same look and it seems fake and does nothing.
Tell your “friend” that:
“If sucking cock doesn’t get you wet,
you are doing it wrong.”
Stroking the shaft will get him hard if he isn't already and is a good way to tease if you want to keep things slow. During a blowjob, stroking the shaft is necessary as it tricks his body into thinking he's having sex. Stimulation of the glans is what will actually make him orgasm with the majority of the nerve endings focused around the entrance to the urethra. Ball play isn't necessary but feels amazing when he finally orgasms. As he orgasms, stroke the back of his scrotum in the same way a guy might stroke his beard.
As you know, my preference is for rough sex and rough oral.
News Flash - Ask the dude what he likes.
Me personally? No talking, maybe light moans; slow with medium to hard pressure; plenty of lube or spit with ball and taint licks thrown in while maintaining rhythm with the hand, and for gods sake maintain some type of contact (mouth or hand) to completion.
My best advice is to just pay attention. If he's grabbing her head and trying to fuck her face then trying a slow sensual blowjob might not be what he wants. The inverse is also true. The other big thing, try to enjoy it herself. If she's too worried about doing it right and she's stressed out about it then it won't be as fun for anyone. The best blowjobs for me happen naturally, when she's having a good time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IUZkug8…
If she really works it right - it’s a good chance she will have one eye blackened - and if she does it wrong - both eyes will be blackened...
Too rough? Not for PD!
She also needs to decide going in where she wakes the cum.
1. don't bite
2. be hot.
That's it. If you're hot, technique doesn't matter. If you're not hot, it's gonna be tough to hold up my end of the blow job bargain.
1. don't bite
2. be hot.
That's it. If you're hot, technique doesn't matter. If you're not hot, it's gonna be tough to hold up my end of the blow job bargain."
Well sir, you are saying g this because you have never had a good blow job. Thos is a man's job and you need a man to do the work for you