Should a regular expect physical contact before a lap dance?
So the best way to coax a dance from new PL is to sit on their lap, chat them up, grind a little bit, put an arm around them,etc
But it seems that when I become a regular, all that stops. It's like she knows I'm there for her so she doesn't have to entice me to get a lap dance.
Basically she comes to the table, gives me a hug and sits down. We chat, have some drinks and then it's off the lap dance room. I wish I could get the "foreplay" new PLs get.
I'm I expecting too much?
But it seems that when I become a regular, all that stops. It's like she knows I'm there for her so she doesn't have to entice me to get a lap dance.
Basically she comes to the table, gives me a hug and sits down. We chat, have some drinks and then it's off the lap dance room. I wish I could get the "foreplay" new PLs get.
I'm I expecting too much?
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I don't see why you need to sit back passively and hope, though? I sit my CF right next to me, put my arm around her, etc. She knows what to do if I get a little touchy, touch back
I definitely need to stop being so passive though.
if you're her regular, she should be sitting in your lap in the front room before you even go back to do dances.
regulars are supposed to get these bonuses. man up and tell this girl she needs to step up her game!!!!
Buying Dances is a Chump's Game.
Save booths and backrooms until it is time for your own pants to come down.
Then take her home with you and continue to see her regularly.
SJG
SJG
My regulars, I feel like they respect me more than the average customer because they know me and they treat me more like a person and less like a sex object when we are conversing. You are offering your part of the exchange and I’m offering mine, the other side of the coin is, why do I have to do that stuff, I want to enjoy our conversation without having to entertain, is that expecting too much?
SJG
Unlike some others, I've never really been a fan of getting all touchy feely out on the floor. I prefer some privacy to my groping. A secluded lap dance booth, a VIP, or a hotel room are all far preferable to me than the "front room" for making out.
What is your strategy to drum up business from non-regulars?
My CF is very physical. She will stand close next to you or sit on your lap. Sometimes the PL does not bite and she has to cut her loses and move on to the next target.
Some dancers keep their distance when asking for a dance. I feel like PLs are more likely to decline with that type of approach.
No, not expecting too much. But it depends on the regular. Some of the folks posting above dig the touchy feely in the main room while chatting with the fave. Me, I approach it like georgemicrodong - I don't seek it or require it in the main room, I'm all good with waiting for the VIP fun I know from experience as a regular will occur when we do dances or room.
Some of the front room makeout sessions locally, no touching clubs, seem to be because the girl wants immediate OTC.
SJG
My current fave always comes right over when she sees me. I get a big hug and kiss - and as we chit chat she will rub my cock through my pants - or she will rub her butt against my cock. It gets me stiff - and wanting more. She also knows, I would rather fuck her first and after she will sit with me to have a proper talk about life.
Be nice and friendly and beautiful. Going pretty good so far.
And I always advocate the the customer select and approach the dancer himself, and demonstrate generosity and charm right off.
SJG
Then after take her home with you and continue to see her regularly.
SJG
We go to a strip club to see a dancer we know, and we expect her to say hello. If she's free, we expect her to come and say hello.
I'm not sure why that is inappropriate?
I see your point.
Just like a dancer should not expect to get business when her regular is there, the PL should not expect anything from the dancer.
In my world all my strippers allow me to give them a nice massage and in the process they tease my dick. Again it's only an "expectation" because it's a given in both of our worlds. It just happens.
And when I'm a regular I've never had a stripper back off from this with time. Moreover they always have increased the main room dick teasing with more regularity. And, to PSD's point, we still have good convos as people while at the same time we are teasing each other as sex objects. They wouldn't be a regular if this didn't happen.
I also have two other faves that are the same way. And over time the teasing increases rather than decreases. Nowadays one of them flat out stick shifts me often as long as nobody appears to be watching. I'm talking bring me from soft to rock hard with conviction here. And I've never asked or expected this. The whole time we talk normal small talk like how our days are going or what's changed since we last saw each other. Also again none of this is initiated by me, and again it's only "expected" because it's just the norm I'm used to. The only time main room dick teasing has ever been an issue with a fave is when she's juggling other customers.
And to be clear, I don't mind just going straight to dances or having platonic idle chat beforehand, if I'm horny for a certain stripper. Again it's just that I don't have to settle for this because many strippers are willing to give me some tease time and I'd be an idiot to turn it down.
^ @Bavarian I can tell you from experience that by focusing and giving a stripper a legitimate massage, she's almost always willing to spend at least 15 minutes, often longer, over an hour sometimes, of "foreplay" time with me prior to getting dances. It's to the point now that I'm so hard and horny that I'm edging to the point of LDKing. It doesn't even matter anymore that she's new or a regular fave. With a fave it's simply a known routine. And with a new stripper, I make the move very early into the meeting. After intros and small talk and such I put my hand on the small of her back and massage it or rub her leg. As we talk I ask how she's feeling and if she wants a back rub or massage anywhere she may want one prior to getting dances. In the last five years over dozens of strippers I've had just one rejection. They almost always accept. And the key is to do it well, with the true intent to give a legitimately good one. If you can do this, then she will be open to and more than willing to be teasing you before dances in the process. Plus, she'll remember it for the next time you see her.
And honestly time is money, especially in high volume clubs like Baby Dolls. There’s no shortage of dance buyers over there. And randos are waaay less emotionally draining than repeat customers (idk about the OP specifically just saying what’s in general)
Even for chit chat interaction, you will find generous bar tippers (in the downstairs circular bar) They will stuff $20 bill or two plus random $1s in the g-string for a few songs worth of interaction and then be prepared to dodge hands finding their way into the string as well. Heck one time a guy tipped me $400 to sit and chat with him at the bar for about 30-45 minutes while groping my tits. 😀 That’s the type of physical contact bantering without dances that tends to happen. Not saying if happens every shift, but it’s enough of a thing that you’re going to have to be more generous or more generally easygoing of an individual to keep a girl engaged for longer.
Perhaps consider throwing a tip after a few dances. If you do that it will make you stand out. Perhaps get a bottle and find somewhere comfortable to stay. Or just identify dancers who seem to dislike approaching lots of customers and don’t like hustling (like PaulDrake seems to do)
Then take her home with you and continue to see her regularly.
You won't need to do this very often.
SJG
SJG
LOL and as you know with me seeing you, I avoid this complication and show up when the club is dead. 🦄🤗
All the more important then to select the one you want and to have a plan.
SJG
But that is loads better than letting her drive it and force you to do things on her terms, and become a chump.
SJG
There's the expect that implies some sort of obligation (real or perceived) on the part of the subject to the speaker. The bank expects me to pay back the car loan. I expect the kids to clean their rooms.
Then there's the predictive version, where the speaker hopes or is some degree of certain that a thing will happen. I expect the sun will rise in the east tomorrow. I expect SJG will post nonsense.
I assumed the OP meant mostly the first version, with some of the second, thus my response.
SJG
Having said this - if a custy is willing to devote his visit and his resource$ to just one specific dancer, then IMO he should get more devotion from his dancer/fave - if he's willing to be one-on-one w/ her particularly w.r.t. his wallet, she should be one-on-one with him - i.e. he's dedicating more of his resource$, if not all his resource$, towards her, and thus she IMO should be dedicating more resources to him, or else not expect his exclusive resource$ - what I don't agree w/ is guys that want 2 hours of attention then just get 2 or 3 dances.
Papi_Chulo +25
And that is how you can likely get a FRMOS where that is not the norm, and end up waking up with the girl you have selected regularly.
Your clubs don't have girls who make you want that? Go someplace else.
SJG