newbie questions
Hi, please pardon my naivete...I have a couple of questions about going to a strip club, and I've only been to a strip club once, many years ago.
My wife and I (she's a younger-looking 58 years old) are in Miami and are looking at going to Tootsie's Cabaret tomorrow night. She's pretty shy, but I'm sure she'll want to get a lap dance. She's had one once before--it was a very basic dance. I'd like to treat her to something special, where the dancer is a lot more hands-on....in my ideal world, the dancer would give her an orgasm by kissing her, playing with her breasts and genitals, etc., in a private room. Is that something we can request at the club, and if so, how does that work exactly, and what is a typical cost? Very sorry if these are very obvious questions...this is where my complete ignorance and naivete is on full display :( We're both quite shy and nervous about doing anything like this.
My wife and I (she's a younger-looking 58 years old) are in Miami and are looking at going to Tootsie's Cabaret tomorrow night. She's pretty shy, but I'm sure she'll want to get a lap dance. She's had one once before--it was a very basic dance. I'd like to treat her to something special, where the dancer is a lot more hands-on....in my ideal world, the dancer would give her an orgasm by kissing her, playing with her breasts and genitals, etc., in a private room. Is that something we can request at the club, and if so, how does that work exactly, and what is a typical cost? Very sorry if these are very obvious questions...this is where my complete ignorance and naivete is on full display :( We're both quite shy and nervous about doing anything like this.
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Couples tend to usually do better ib more upscale clubs - Deans Gold in North Miami or Solid Gold in Pompano are probably better-options.
Room fee at Deans is about $150 + a $20-tip to the bouncer - minimum a Deans girl wants is $400 and they often quote $500 - I'd assume you'd have to pay around $500 since it'll be the 2 of you (you/wife) in VIP.
I'm not as familiar with Solid Gold but it'll be similar and maybe slightly cheaper since it's not as established as Deans.
Also, when you say Tootsie's is "cutthroat", can you explain what that means?
Diamond Dolls in Pompano VIP going rate is $225 but it's in a small dance booth which would be cramped for 3 people and I'm not even sure they would allow 3 people in them and you would probably have to pony up for their champagne room (~$100 plus staff tip) and the girl would want around $300 - Cheetah Pomapno is another option cheaper than Deans but with room fee you're looking at min $300 - being a couple often makes it harder.
Diamond Dolls is also not too good a fit for couples - Cheetah Pompano is a bit better.
Also - not uncommon in many clubs for couples to be charged 2x/dance.
Tootsies is a fun club bc it's big and has a bit of a nightclub vibe - the main stage is large and on a busy night there can be about 5 girls rail-side up close and personal and fully-nude so it's a fun experience in that sense - the club also has a decent kitchen but on a busy night it can take a while for the food so if planning on eating and it's busy best to not wait to order exactly when you feel you wanna eat (order about 30-minutes b/f you plan to eat if the club is busy).
FYI:
+ it's strip club etiquette to tip every dancer a couple of bucks if you're sitting stage-side (there is a cashier station in the back left of the main-stage if one wants change)
+ don't be surprised if dancers don't approach you - couples often have this issue in many clubs especially at Tootsies - you may have to be proactive and approach dancers you may be interested in but again many won't be fluent in English.
I know you said your wife is shy, but in my (somewhat limited) experience with this, you may have your best luck by having her ask for dances, not you. When the guy asks, sometimes the dancers wonder if the wife or girlfriend is really down for this or is being dragged into it. In your case, it definitely sounds like this is not the case, but the best way to signal the dancers that this is what the wife wants is to have the wife ask.
While everyone is different I thought you might like to hear what works for us at a new club/city. If we are at our usual haunts we usually have girls approach pretty freely since they know we are more regular.
In a new club the girls are unsure of the couple dynamics they are getting into, some dancers just are not into women or they are busy hunting low hanging fruit. Plus we have heard several stories of dancers being attacked by civvies in clubs. Don’t go on a busy night, Thursday’s can be good but Wednesday or Sunday can be fine too. Go early and be prepared to stay for several hours, get a table off to one side where conversations could happen. If you want girls to approach after being there an hour or so, have your SO go to the bathroom, you’ll be approached right away. Alternately you can go for a few minutes and she may be hit on by a dancer while alone. This might depend on what she is wearing and how good she looks, slutty but not full on stripper clothes is what we found works best. If you do have to go fetch the girl, make sure your wife picks who you will approach. Then plan to visit for several minutes, maybe ask her to join the two of you for a drink, then you be quiet and let the two of them build a bit of rapport. When it comes time for dances she will let you know if this is the chosen dancer and honestly, depending on the club and your level of comfort (plus your willingness to drop lots of cash) dances on the floor can be just as sexy and depending on the dancer and the club they can go just as far. Remember first that attitude is super important, both hers and yours.
Anyway, my wife had fun, so that's all that mattered. Incidentally, on a side note, I understand the club wanting some pumping music, but it was REALLY loud. So loud we could barely hear the waitress even with her talking into my ear from a foot away. They could've dialed the music down just a LITTLE bit and it still would've been quite loud and pumping, yet allowed people to hear themselves think.
(Nightshifts are also typically harder to get proper customer service in popular clubs)
As a couple, you would need to find a more laidback type of club - and once you find a suitable club, becoming regulars is often the best way to get good service as a couple (often also applies to dudes that go by themselves) - as I mentioned previously, couples often have a hard time at many clubs (it's not something particular to you).
Thanks for reporting back.