Are PL's like unicorns or a dime a dozen
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
I'm a 50'sh below average looking white dude that would be considered upper middle class based on income (barely).
I'm willing to spend stupid amounts of money on OTC / SR opportunities for the right honey.
I met a dancer the other day (fine) that did a good job creating the illusion I was a rare find.
My question - are PL's like me closer to unicorns or are we a dime a dozen to these honeys?
My perception is PL's like me are easy to find for the fine honeys.
I'm willing to spend stupid amounts of money on OTC / SR opportunities for the right honey.
I met a dancer the other day (fine) that did a good job creating the illusion I was a rare find.
My question - are PL's like me closer to unicorns or are we a dime a dozen to these honeys?
My perception is PL's like me are easy to find for the fine honeys.
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Yep. Sometimes you may actually be THE favorite customer to see by a girl. Much more often than not - you are just another routine atm.
Nothing wrong with that either way as long as you are having fun and not getting caught up in it all.
The game, is the game.
Don't hate the player. Hate the game.
But a unicorn?... no.
Take it from another guy who is also not a unicorn.
I agree, not a unicorn probably, but not common is my guess, depending on area.
Being a unicorn customer is accidentally being present at a dancer's lowest moment, when anything that customer wants is possible, and knowing that what she actually needs is to be treated like a person with value and the possibility of a future they can walk around in with some kind of self-respect. That's not acting like a white knight on your day off from being Cap'n Save a Ho, it's showing her that you might actually be the person she was hoping for when she decided to open up to you. Twenty years ago the hobby was easier, before I'd lived long enough to see how some of my favorites turned out. Part of me wants to go back to looking at lap dances like fast food, but I don't have to try and establish a rapport with a bag of fries to be satisfied with that experience.
This isn't me saying that all dancers have problems with their choices and whatever else goes along with that, but no dancer I have ever known in more than a casual way has ever walked away from dancing without some type of baggage. For that matter, no one I have ever known with years of time spent in any kind of customer service job has made it through without some kind of baggage. People are dicks. People who feel entitled to something they want from you (or through you) are even bigger dicks. PL's looking for something deeper with dancers who aren't that interested can be the biggest dicks of all.
Getting back to the OP, some of the most insecure dancers I've met are also the most beautiful. Are customers likely to be a mark for the dancer 1%ers? Sure. But to me things are always case-by-case. And because dancers are also women, pleasant surprises can go a long way. Not just trinkets and shit like that. Game recognizes game. Be a TUSCLer and shoot your shot.
I’d like to think I’m a unicorn dancer who is unlike other dancers. But I am a risk averse individual who doesn’t like making decisions assuming I’ll be an outlier.
I don’t believe dancing and dealing with customers has negatively affected me. Actually, I always thought it was the opposite. But then again, I had an upbringing where several important people in my life (biological family) deliberately messed with my self-worth. And I internalized a lot of it and even to this day have to mentally work at it to keep “taking out the trash” on toxic thoughts. So I guess when it came to my self-respect, I really had no other direction to go other than up anyways.
Hmm...ah well, if I am dooming myself, then I am going to make the most of it. 😁 I’m excited to be on the road tomorrow after I wake up and off to another destination. And in a few days will try out a new club I never have before. And be able to converse with a new batch of customers and learn new things. And when not doing that, enjoying the beautiful scenery in a place that isn’t 100 freaking degrees outside. And find secluded areas where my dog can run around off leash and terrorize squirrels and birds with absolute joy.
As far as the rest of the comments in this thread, it's way too much thinking for me. I'm not looking for long-term connections and I don't track these chicks once they checkout of the business. I seek transitory entertainment. My obligations extend no further than to treat her with decency and pay my tab and I expect her to honor her end of the deal in return. Beyond that, she's a grown woman and her life choices are her own.
Strippers do what they do, and put up with what they put up with, for the $$$, obviously - and I would think they see middle-aged and above PLs as more willing and able to spend $$$.
One would assume most dancers would prefer to dance for young good looking guys if those guys were available and spent the same as the older guys but reality is it's often the older guys that are gonna spend better - so yes I think middle-aged+ guys are often higher on the pecking-order in clubs bc they are seen as higher $$$ potential.
We are more like trophy bucks for these ladies. (Get it?)
"10-point buck", "20 point bucks", "40 point bucks"...etc
I wasn't looking for a ATF/DS but I got attached to one. It has mostly been great and worth it for me. It started out as a regular ITC and I paid above market to keep her attention. When schedules didn't align OTC was sprinkled in. Over several months it became 80/20 OTC/ITC. We have become pretty good friends along the way and just have fun when we are together without any bs or pressure.
Honestly I don't see myself in this situation ever again and wasn't looking for it this time. For now I am riding the wave knowing it will end one day.
Maybe that makes me a Unicorn.
One thing I've always found surprising is how easy it is to schedule an OTC date and time with the honeys. Usually the first suggested time is accepted.
Years ago, when I first started this hobby, the honeys were still a little cautious who they gave there cell number to. Now they give it out like M&M's making it more difficult to build a connection.
I appreciate the thoughtful replies.
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But there is also some variance in dancers. A recent ATF used to leave her phone on the table with me when she would go on stage and it would always buzz multiple times from guys wanting to know if she was working. Then I have had other favs who struggle to attract any regulars at all.
In return, there are quite a few dancers who treat me like a unicorn. Now, I am sufficiently aware that they all probably have a dozen unicorns in their professional lives, and are skilled in making each feel special.
It works for me.
I would not want to be a unicorn anyways, as once said "a unicorn is horse with a strapon."