Where to meet other local SC goers?
I only started checking out the local strip clubs here in Jacksonville recently and had a good time so far, but sometimes it feels awkward and I wish i was with another dude to chat with between VIP dances. None of my friends are into it though, and I'd feel way awkward starting a conversation with a random guy there, siiiince obviously it's the girls they're there to talk to.
Any ideas on how to make friends in the SC scene? Any city-based sites or forums that are good for meeting like-minded people?
Any ideas on how to make friends in the SC scene? Any city-based sites or forums that are good for meeting like-minded people?
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Some guys use the strip-club for socializing and some use it to just get physical fulfillment from the dancers - the latter group is probably less-prone to wanna do meet-up w/ other dudes.
Several tuscl members (including me) have met up at club with other member(s). Some socializing occurs, but it's tacitly understood that nobody is going to get in the way of having fun with one's favorite dancers. Members come and go on their own schedule in their own vehicle. PM'ing other JAX area members always an option, but don't be surprised if you don't get a warm reception from everyone. If I were you, I'd get a few more solo club visits and reviews under your belt before going PM route.
Alternatively some guys here do post that they’re going out and specify the club, but that’s rare and highly unlikely to be in your area. But if you hang around here you’ll learn who’s in your area and maybe can go from there, just be normal about it.
I SC with my buddies and think it's 10x better than solo, for the reasons you cite plus many more. But if your buddies aren't into it, you gotta go make more buddies maybe :)
I like solo because I can do what I want, leave or stay.
I will sometime bounce from club to club in a city until I find one I like
(just the right amount of slutty LOL some times the high end clubs are more flash and $$$$ than fun) and if I have someone with me they may balk at paying more than one cover.
I will also sometimes start at a show/grind club with 10's on stage but no other fun and end up at a menu club with 7's.
Hard to resist telling someone they're trying to have fun wrong :) I usually can't resist telling people how much more awesome SCing with friends is, as long as the friends are PLs, so it goes both ways.
Unfortunately, there's no good answers. Make some friends here on tuscl (although they'll be more like acquaintances), become a regular and become acquaintances with the bar furniture PLs, or (best option but hardest) make friends IRL who love SCing. Regarding that last one, maybe the one thing to note is, chances are any friends you make IRL won't be a PL -- your buddies just need to be open to going to the SC with you, and then have such a good time they start their PL journey
I hope it’s not rude to pry. And feel free to ignore if so...but are you Indian?
I could have sworn you said you were white, but the only reason I ask is that it seems that’s the one racial group where clubbing with buddies is the most common. And where there is the most of a “share” mentality in a table with regard to dancers and less of a pretense of “just hanging out being casual—don’t really do stuff like this”
It’s been only twice that I’ve sat at a table talking to multiple men trying to request me to do OTC at a gangbang rate—and you guessed it these men were Indian.
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It seems (in general) white guys who go often prefer to go solo. Or maybe the frequent fliers will drag a friend but one will be more into it than the other. Idk
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And then Mexicans and Asians are more in-between on that spectrum.
subra seems to have managed it somehow to have a large group but nonetheless curtail the faster hustle...I guess thanks for showing up to dayshift at the right club.
But *in general* I think if you don’t manage things properly you’re going to lower your potential to have a closer interaction/banter with a dancer before and after dances.
...if you just simply like a good lapper and don’t care about the interaction, then that’s not a trade off to consider. But just something to keep in mind.
I'll +1 the whole "sit at the bar and talk to people" approach for what you're trying to accomplish. I see it all the time. Guys jump into my conversations with the bartender or strippers pretty regularly. While I'm not particularly interested in that sort of "friendship" with other customers, I don't take particular offense nor do I make it awkward. That said, you do need to be a little conscious and look for cues that the dude you're talking to isn't interested and leave him alone if needed. I've noticed certain shirts lead to being approached by random dudes. If I wear a hurricanes shirt, people always wanna talk football. I avoid wearing the shirt for that reason, but maybe you could try the same with a local team.
There's a few guys at my favorite club that I'll say hello to at this point. They're mostly customers of my favorite strippers stripper-friends. Since the stripper-friends tend to work the same days, we tend to visit the same days. Since the stripper-friends do things like go to the bath/dressing room together we end up at the bar with time to kill at the same time. Nature kinda runs its course.
I come from a long line of movers and shifters
Just kidding. If I were any whiter, I'd turn blue
Yah, I think most groups of guys are the "it's our one trip to the strip club this year wooooo!" guys. I imagine that'st the kind who I'd imagine love to buy into a Buy Your Buddy A Lapdance Challenge. I agree with most others here, I do not find it particularly fun to SC with those kinds of groups; or rather, when I get invited to things like that (most recently, a bachelor party), I basically consider it a "drinking with my buddies, and there's strippers around" night, versus a "real" SC trip. It's SCing with close buddies who are either also PLs, or PLs-in-training 🤣, that I enjoy, and blows away solo SCing.