Signs of Addiction

Hm...maybe add on another another gig/source of income?

If nothing else it will enable you to have even more money. 😃

^^^It has definitely dawned on me. I thought about delivering pizzas, ubering, and even dancing actually. But having a full time job and a part time job would make it tough to even fit clubbing. It’s like there just isn’t enough a time in the day.

I’m just gonna have to get a higher paying job here. And live box 📦 so I can pocket that rent, or rather shove it into a local g string

Well, I'm not taking this seriously.

^^^No it is CMI. I know I shitpost a lot but I do notice these symptoms.

And I’m not even sure it’s a bad thing. I’m doing EXACTLY what I want to do. But the problem what I’m doing is sooooo fucking goooooood that just fucks everything else up.

I do very seriously want to know is you all have dealt with anything similar?

I have a lot of fun in strip clubs, but having it take over my life to the degree you describe would not be fun for me. And I wouldn't even describe it as healthy, but that's a whole other conversation about obsessive disorders.

No. I've never had this happen to me. And I hope it never does.

Another thing I used to get up every morning and sing Love Will Keep Us Together by Captain and Tenille to some random contact in my phone every morning. I haven’t done it in weeks! Not even tempted!

Muddy, your not doing soooo good. It’s the strippers that are doing soooo good.

Do you have a history of addiction? Not every addict want drugs or alcohol. I have to be careful because I absolutely have an addiction prone brain, only I’ve been lucky that most of my “addictions” fly under the radar as healthy. Work and exercise are two of the ones no one seems to worry about. But I’ve had times where my “addiction” has transferred to food, alcohol (which is another reason I’ve wanted to cut back) sex (that’s a fun one) cigarettes when I was younger, spending money on stuff (fancy way to say shopping but sounds less gay)...I think that’s it.

Last year I saw the potential for SC addiction, was going too much spending money I didn’t have. Took a 6 month break to get my head together.

The root is the addicted brain has lowered levels of dopamine (which very much generalizing it, is caused from chronic stress) and these additions give us a “hit” of dopamine. It doesn’t have to be cocaine you’re doing to get these feel good chemicals.

There’s also a school of thought which I believe is that addictions are at their core, the brains way of substituting for social connections. Humans were designed/ evolved (not having this argument now, pick what makes you happy) to be very social animals and to live in social groups. Our society today is not set up to support this core need. There is so much research to show the detrimental effects of isolation and even decreased social networks among people, and animals.

Anyway long story short, if you want to stop your addiction, you might want to consider taking a break and spending more time with friends or family. Being around people and connecting with them.

Or if you don’t, just keep going to SC. I mean pussy is awesome. And probably won’t kill you like some addiction would. It’s up to you.

Excuse any typos I’m going to post and run, thanks

If you see it as a problem put your energy and your manhood somewhere else...like a girlfriend.

Take up a hobby. Take a trip somewhere nice where there are no strip clubs. Take a break...

Muddy I think an intervention might be in order! Jes sayin

I don't see a problem

^ you wouldn’t ;)

Not uncommon for many SCers that become regular SCers to go thru binge stages/phases - the avg regular-SCer often doesn't SC as much as he would like either due to family-obligations or financial reasons - my point is that what you feel many SCers go thru in wanting to SC more than they do - there are a good # of PLs that probably SC on a weekly-basis and sometimes more than that, but yet "they're ok" but somehow you are not.

I assume you are a young-ish guy, and single - how the f' not are you not gonna like SCs - if you are not getting nookie on the regular from hot chicks, which most dudes are not lucky enough to get, then it's only sensical that you feel the way you do - you're a young-guy w/ a strong-sex-drive and SCs satisfy that desire - plenty of guys are going-around dissatisfied w/ the amount/quality of sex they get - going to SCs and enjoying yourself and satisfying that need is better than being hard-up and dragging as many guys are.

You are young and you are horny - you have to satisfy your need somehow and SCs are better than not satisfying it all - if you get a GF you enjoy fucking then that perhaps will take away a lot of your need to hit SCs but that usually entails being in a relationship and there's pros and cons to that including finding the right-person.

Nothing lasts forever and at some point you'll likely transition out of SCing as much as you currently do - i.e. at some point likely it won't be as exhilarating as it currently is.

Being "addicted" to SCs is like saying one is addicted to food and water - sex is a need particularly for young-males and it needs to be satisfied just like food is needed to satisfy hunger.

I don't drink alcohol, smoke, do any drugs or gamble. 4 out of 5 ain't bad!

SCs are not the problem - at most they are a symptom and SCs remedy (but don't cure) the problem - you go to SCs b/c you're horny, you're not horny b/c you go to SCs - the problem is having your sex-drive/needs met/satisfied, and if right-now SCs are what does it then IMO not SCing is not gonna make you feel any better.

Strip clubs are a fantasy world. Most of the population would not accept what goes on in them. And you don't want to be using them as your regular source of sexual gratification.

But the remedy to this addiction is just to start recreating what you learn in the strip club, in our outside life. Start seeing your favorite girls outside.

For me I will be doing photo sessions with them, as that gets them to dress and paint up for me.

But beyond that, the organization I am working to build will solve all related conflicts.

SJG

I think it’s fairly common. Your work leaves you stuck in a sausage fest and it’s difficult for you to truly interact with women in a regular setting on your timeline.

I’ve heard travel dancer advice before to work in military towns on the 1st and 15th before. So you can’t be the only one lol.

^^^True well that part of my life is about to end (at least full time) so maybe it’ll be healthy in that way.

And damn I thought this would feel more like an AA meeting than being the only drunk guy at the party. Shit. And to be clear Papi it’s not necessarily girls (although that is the heart and soul of it but the strip club in general is like one big Vegas game. The whole thing is addicting as fuck to me. Money, charm, timing, all the variables added in. The whole thing is a fucking blast.

And I just can’t get enough. Take it Depeche Mode!

And speaking of which Nice you might make a killing in a place like Kileen (where Fort Hood is) on paydays. I hear it’s a shithole but that money will definitely be coming in, as well as rushed marriage proposals XD

Yeah, I’ve dealt with clubbing and OTCing too much at times when I couldn’t really afford it.

I’ve found it helpful to force myself to connect with other people and friends outside of work, and to go back to old enjoyable hobbies. I used to be an avid golfer before discovering strip clubs 7 years ago. I’ve gone back to that form of entertainment to ease the strain on the wallet.

Clubbing too much, or over-indulgence in anything, can compromise your long term, and short term, financial well-being, if you aren’t careful.

Heed the warning signs! Life balance is a key to happiness.

Just get a job as a male escort and then you get paid to get pussy and then when you get off work you can go to the club to pay for pussy. That may solve your need for a never ending cycle of pussy and cash.

^^^^ I've thought of that, but it would mean that I have to take those women who put out the money. I don't want to have to do that. I want to be able to pick em.

So I have to get money other ways.

SJG

I agree with Icey. Time to transition into being a pimp, that way your life is pussy and money all mixed together all the time.

Yeah... I'm back to not taking this seriously at all.

Wow Muddy! Sounds like you are getting more stress from clubbing than enjoyment. Maybe a break would be good. A new hobby perhaps or joining a club or something where you could meet women...

Brother Muddy, It is time to come in to confessions and lay all your troubles on the lawerd. We can help you my son.

Thanks fellas. Male whoring it is.

Male whoring, no!

"I agree with Icey. Time to transition into being a pimp, that way your life is pussy and money all mixed together all the time."

I agree too!

SJG