For those of you with a spouse

39 comments

• ATACdawg

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  5 years ago

  No. I go when a) she's out of town or b) when I'm at the boat on my own. I don't have to explain that way. I'm not partaking in "extracurricular" activities; my wife's libido unfortunately went away with the "change". Last question: Good God no!
• Nidan111

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  5 years ago

  My wife does like to go. However, she does not like me to go by myself. I do so during my business trips. She is young. She has her friends. I have mine. I partake in extras after I walked in on her and one of her fuck buddies. She is young and beautiful and I have no hard feelings regarding that. But, I did tell her to simply not let me know about it. She is a fantastic person whom I love very much and will never shot can her for her sexual needs even if I may not be the “sexual need”. That being said, my extra activity is for that reason.
• FishHawk

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  5 years ago

  My wife does not know. I go during the afternoon when I am doing errands. No extras, but my wife feels she is done with sex. Never considered bringing her.
• skibum609

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  5 years ago

  I am married and my wife knows I strip club. I will do extras, but it is not my goal, nor my focus and she knows that as well. We're swingers, or to be honest we were and are on hiatus so both of us have fucked others in front of the other, so the sex is not a big deal. She used to go with me, but at age 60 she doesn't feel comfortable with really young women any longer so she made her last trip to the Inner Room last October and has informed me that I should no longer suggest we go as a couple, even if we're on a date with another couple. Her take on it now is that its "sad" and "pathetic" and yes she includes me in that grouping.
• skibum609

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  5 years ago

  Oops forgot to add: we still have sex, maybe not as often as we did 30 years ago, but she did go from numnber 1,231 on the all-time best bj list to number one within the past 2 years. How fucked up is it that I get the best bj's from wife 29 years into the relationship and not during the first year.
• jsully63

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  5 years ago

  My wife likes to go to the club as she is bisexual. Sometimes we go together and sometimes I go on my own. When I go alone I tell her and she looks forward to a post visit update on the girls I met and if I got any good action. When we go together we usually do a CR room with one or two dancers and nothing is off the table. I admit I am a lucky man. She prefers to spend time with dancers we meet together versus dancers I’ve known for a while. She’s a bit more selective than I am so it’s a small price to pay for the fun I enjoy. There’s good and bad to the couples thing. If your on your own you can pick and choose your girls and pay full attention to them. If your with the wife you have to remember she is there and still give her attention as well as the dancers. It’s a balancing act but you figure it out eventually. However a good couples dance often leads to great post club sex occasionally with your dancer so I have no complaints.
• Uprightcitizen

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  5 years ago

  No (poker is a serious hobby so usually that's the alibi), Yes, No. She lost all interest in sex after menopause. I am also 7 years younger with a high libido so I am definately not done. She doesn't seem too concerned or inquisitive and as long as I make it home safe its never an issue.
• lotsoffun201

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  5 years ago

  I’m married and we’ve had a shit relationship for years. I work so much (or say I do) just to get out of the house. I go afternoons only so she doesn’t know. Just avoid the heavy makeup perfume girls. I smoke so that’s not an issue either.
• rickdugan

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  5 years ago

  I'm not going to get into most of this as my wife' personal, including what she knows or hears from me, is her alone to share. What I will say is that I leave the women and children at home. I have no interest in my side fun becoming part of my home life.
• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  From comments over the years, seems many guys have the flexibility to leave work early every now and then and hit the club during the time he would normally be at work (of course this is predicated on their being clubs near them w/ a decent-enough dayshift) - and there are those who's job requires a fair-amount of travel and take advantage of that. Orlando sucks for SCing for the most-part so a lot Orlando-PLs head east to Cocoa Beach about 45-minutes away for some decent SC-action - when I've been at Inner Room in the afternoon, I've seen a healthy crowd around 3:30 when I arrive and a good chunk of that disappear almost at once as it gets close to 5pm.
• prevert

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  5 years ago

  I’m not married anymore, and I don’t give a shit if the ex-cunt knows what I’m doing. In fact, if I can rub her cunt face in it, all the better.
• Sam42

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  5 years ago

  My wife is a retired stripper who took me to my first club. I can barely believe it myself, but it’s true.
• Clubber

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  5 years ago

  I have been to clubs a few times with my wife, but she doesn't know about my solo adventures. Where I was is easy, working. I never really had "set hours" and oftentimes was late getting home so it fit right in. I also worked evenings at times, plus I traveled out of town. So never really an issue.
• RandomMember

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  5 years ago

  My wife doesn't know and I'm very careful about hiding it from her. She travels on her job which makes it easier. I could be married to a supermodel and I would still cheat for the excitement of something that's *not* age-appropriate. I consider the cheating fun and meaningless; I actually think I have a good marriage.
• gammanu95

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  5 years ago

  Once, when we lived in NOLA, she got really drunk at dinner in the FQ, and I saw the opportunity to talk her into a Bourbon Street strip club. Unfortunately, as we were passing Iberville, some big ass brawl was in progress (it was carnival season). All the cops, horses, and wagons made it difficult to get past and pretty much a buzzkill. That was the only time I felt Incould get away with bringing her. The rest of it NDBBM.
• Warrior15

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  5 years ago

  - She is aware. But her perception of what goes on might be different from reality. - I travel a lot so I do almost all my clubbing on my trips. - My family life changed when my wife went thru " The Change". - Not a chance. Don't want her to actually know what goes on.
• AtAboy

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  5 years ago

  Now I’m a little concerned about what lies on the other side of the change. (We’re still under 40) I don’t mean to suggest the obvious, but I’m pretty sure plenty of women go on hormone replacement and still have a sex drive after menopause. Am I missing something? It’s this what lies ahead?
• AtAboy

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  5 years ago

  Is*
• skibum609

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  5 years ago

  My wife had cancer when she was young so she lost all the female parts that make women pre-menopausal. She is still sexy and enjoys sex, but to be fair after 30 years its just far less than it was back in the day. Of course I was working part-timer and sleeping late in my 30's and now I work 60-80 hours a week.
• gSteph

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  5 years ago

  I've been married almost 40 years. Used to go to SC very occasionally, once a year? And I'd mention it offhand sometimes, so she kinda knew. Discovered lap dancing 2+ years ago. Which, as you know, is very different than stage watching/tipping. Yeah. Wasn't going to tell her about it, but felt guilty not sharing this, and eventually did. Surprisingly, she didn't freak out, and after some discussions, we worked out parameters and frequency. Which I feel is good, keeps me from being tempted to go a lot. The only thing she asks is I tell her after the fact (within a week or so). No extras for me. Wife and I have a fine sex life; on the happy side of the bell curve there. Question 3: considered it. Not sure about bringing that up, the future will tell.
• gSteph

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  5 years ago

  @skibum, yeah, my wife's oral skills are better now than they've been. 38 years in and still improving.
• gawker

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  5 years ago

  My wife had a complete hysterectomy at age 36. She tried but just couldn’t be a good sexpartner after that. Around age 40 she learned I was having an affair from a neighbor who saw me with the other woman. My wife finally said to do what I needed to do, just don’t rub her nose in it. Around age 62 she started having difficulty with everything and at 65 was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. After a couple more years I became a full time care giver and would hire a companion when I went out. She passed away last year and frankly I’d prefer to have her back in one piece rather than all the young pussy out there.
• AtAboy

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  5 years ago

  Jesus Christ gawker, that was heart breaking to read. I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine...
• samiel

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  5 years ago

  If you don’t mind sharing, for those of you that are married, does your wife know you go to SC? - She knows I go, but not to the extent I go. If I go after work, I don't tell her, but if I'm leaving the house to go, I may mention it. If not, how to you explain where you are? - She and I have different groups of friends and I often go out to play pool or hang with friends and that's where she assumes I am. If you’re partaking in extracurricular activities, is it because your other half no longer wants to? - We occasionally have sex (maybe 5-7 times last year), but it's few and far between. I haven't done much ITC though. Have you ever considered bringing your spouse and doing the couples thing? - I know she wouldn't go for it.
• DeclineToState

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  5 years ago

  Does she know? No, it would = instant divorce. How do I explain where I was? Not really, because I go when she's out of town or when I'm out of town but I have to exercise caution and sometimes have plausible explanation for why I'm not answering phone calls or responding to texts. Do I go because she doesn't dig sex? No, I go because viewing and having my hands on beautiful women in their 20s - 30s with perky tits and tight asses is amazing. Have never encountered a stripper older than mid-30s but if I were to find a milf stripper in great shape I would be into it. Have you ever considered bringing your spouse and doing the couples thing? No way, and would never suggest it because there's no chance she'd be into it.
• Jascoi

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  5 years ago

  my ex-wife is such a prude and would divorce me if she saw me, or knew of me, or heard of me being with another woman. she even thought I was with another woman and she divorced me anyway. except for the spousal support I enjoy being away from her.
• pensionking

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  5 years ago

  No, so there is no explaining to do. Yes, as my S/O and I are going on 5 years with no sex. She was never that in to it to begin with and now it is a No fly Zone No way she'd partake or even understand it.
• IceyLoco

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  5 years ago

  I don't know, if I were married I wouldn't go coz I'd feel guilty spending the money at a strip club. I'd never do P4P though, the thought of it would make me unable to get hard.
• Daddillac

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  5 years ago

  When I was married she knew that I would go but not the extent. I did not start with extras till the divorce. She saw sex as procreation not recreation.... why can these women not be honest and tell us that up front. Since then I've dated civvies and pro's, I have no intent of ever falling in love again.
• WILLYSGOTAWOMAN

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  5 years ago

  Gawker - fuck msn thanks for sharing - bro solidarity My wife and I had arguments about whether I should be able to touch other women's breasts. Ultimately I told her that there's nothing I am more committed to than our marriage. But I could not commit to not going to strip clubs. she said "just don't let it get out of hand". I've watched married people do a lot worse than go to to a strip club. long term monogomy is hard. show yourself some mercey. don't get arrested an std or go broke. if you can pull that off I think you're doing pretty good
• Nidan111

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  5 years ago

  ^^^^ love that attitude
• reverendhornibastard

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  5 years ago

  Mrs. Hornibastard does NOT know. She would be heartbroken if she knew. Before we were legally married and had kids, she used to invite her friends to our house for fun and games. She allowed and even encouraged some of her friends to have sex with me. The only rules were that she selected and invited the women and that I never got juicy them (much less any other woman) unless she had OK’d it and was present. Everything changed after we had kids. I guess that’s why I monger so much now.
• rh48hr

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  5 years ago

  Im no longer married and didn't really go until the end when it was obvious the marriage was over. When I went it was for bachelor parties so letting her know wasn't an issue. When I went at the end i didn't bc it didn't matter what I did at that point, it was wrong. I never partook in extras. Despite everything, I never cheated on her. I never asked bc I knew she would say no. She liked watching porn with me but she was never into women so that seemed like a moot point.
• BudWeedGuy

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  5 years ago

  I'm married. We are early 30s. My wife is a hot blonde who admitted shes bi. We used the strip club to confirm. We still go after couple of months. We do extras. Normally double blowjob. Shes done DATY once with a dancer. I don't go alone as I never went before her. Now we prefer OTC but it is hard to find for a couple we have found. We are in Detroit and frequent flight club and can walk to subis from my house.
• abqspencer

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  5 years ago

  My wife knows, she doesn't mind.
• skibum609

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  5 years ago

  Dadd: with all due respect whetehr or not you intend on falling in love again is meanmingless...you don't control it. My wife and Iwere supposed to be a one night stand, by face to face agreenment, before we went out, thirty years ago. My last words were: Don't expect to hear from me again .. Only asshole on earth capable of taking a one night stand and fucking it up. .....luckily.
• IceyLoco

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  5 years ago

  Thats very true, it just happens...
• SteveSutton

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  5 years ago

  Yes married. Wife knows about clubbing, and extra curricular activities via clubbing or internet sites like SA. No, it's not an issue as due to medical issues she is unable to have and/or enjoy sex, and she's happy I get my fair share, though she's not happy about the money aspect of it all. But I'm done with my days of going to a club or hotel bar just hoping to find a freebie ... it never happens. So I watch the spending carefully. She has zero interest in joining, so that's not going to happen.
• AnonymousJim

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  5 years ago

  SO knows nothing. She knows I've been to clubs, but "that was a long time ago." I work nights. There are a lot of nights I legit go out to a bar and stay out late eith my co-workers. Other nights, I venture out on my own.