Always want to be talking to her, coming on to her, letting her get to know me. But best is to be carrying on the front room makeout session. So lots of DFKing, titty sucking, FIVing, and DATYing.
Want the girl to just open up and let it happen, not to be performing a service.
The whole idea of dances was always a con. Buying dances without the front room makeout session is a chump's game.
Do I want to talk to her about her kids, about her clothes, her last vacation , the weather, etc. ? Heck no. Having a basic conversation would be distracting to me and would mean the girl was not into it. But do talk about how she looks, about how I like for her to touch me, about how she likes to be touch, about what I would want to be doing to her ? Caring on a very sexy conversation can add to the excitement of a dance and lead to other things.
excellent question. For a long time I've used the approach of getting some conversation going. Then say at least some dancer's don't like trying to hold a conversation at the same time. Recently been leaning to the no conversation lately.
Casual conversation? If they're $1 or $5 dances and I'm just getting her warmed up, then maybe. Otherwise no.
"Or do you concentrate on the dance?"
Concentrating on a dance and talking are not mutually exclusive. As I've gotten further along in the hobby and in life, I've found myself talking more during the dances (and sex if we're oversharing). If I'm ITC, time is money. Chit chat saves time and gets us both understanding what's going to work out without having to do the under the bleachers grope around like teenagers thing.
"There are three that joke around and talk to me during dances"
This falls into the "whatever works for you" category. If they're still delivering the lap riding goods you're paying for while dishing out the banter, no worries. If they're dogging it in your lap while talking bullshit, then they need to stop being lazy and get their grind on. Dancers know their regulars, and they know which ones they have to always be on for and which ones they can mail it in for and still get paid.
It depends on the girl. Most girls, it's only about the dance. Some girls are incapable of just dancing, though. One of the dancers at the club I go to currently always talks during 1 of the 4 songs I get from her. It's mostly stuff she doesn't want to talk about in the bar area of the club. Of course, she also lets me eat her out afterwards.
I make the absolute most money stacking dances if I am relegated to that fuckery with dudes i can talk at for a million songs in a row. just saying. also the least grabby/disrespectful ones are the talkers
Before and after - small talk During - sexy talking
Will also add that I’ve had small talk in the VIP both before and after the dance time that helps develop a link between you and the dancer that definitely has paid off long term. Paid off in the sense got offered OTC and extended time after our time was officially over in the VIP
-->"Before and after - small talk During - sexy talking"
Exactly. Before, up to an hour of warm-up talk -- not small talk, which I hate, but fun banter. Sexy talk during.
Then again, I typically don't do lap dances, only VIPs. I would think if, for example, my goal was LDK, I might want her facing away from me grinding hard on me, and not exactly easy to talk that way. As it is, I want her spending much of her time facing me, and it's easy to talk
If you want to pick her up, then yeah you have to engage her, make her feel comfortable, make her laugh...then caress her arm or lower back. You want it come across as fun for her, not creepy or perverted. She'll remember it.
Need to talk to the girl and get her softened up with a front room makeout session. That's what makes the dance good. Probably FS, and then taking her home with me. She's getting money all through the front room friendlies. Then she gets more for the dance, more for the TLN, and more for the subsequent TLN / PHoto sessions.
Her money is more. But the time ends up being more than proportionately increased.
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Want the girl to just open up and let it happen, not to be performing a service.
The whole idea of dances was always a con. Buying dances without the front room makeout session is a chump's game.
SJG
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For a long time I've used the approach of getting some conversation going.
Then say at least some dancer's don't like trying to hold a conversation at the same time.
Recently been leaning to the no conversation lately.
Casual conversation? If they're $1 or $5 dances and I'm just getting her warmed up, then maybe. Otherwise no.
"Or do you concentrate on the dance?"
Concentrating on a dance and talking are not mutually exclusive. As I've gotten further along in the hobby and in life, I've found myself talking more during the dances (and sex if we're oversharing). If I'm ITC, time is money. Chit chat saves time and gets us both understanding what's going to work out without having to do the under the bleachers grope around like teenagers thing.
"There are three that joke around and talk to me during dances"
This falls into the "whatever works for you" category. If they're still delivering the lap riding goods you're paying for while dishing out the banter, no worries. If they're dogging it in your lap while talking bullshit, then they need to stop being lazy and get their grind on. Dancers know their regulars, and they know which ones they have to always be on for and which ones they can mail it in for and still get paid.
Before and after - small talk
During - sexy talking
Will also add that I’ve had small talk in the VIP both before and after the dance time that helps develop a link between you and the dancer that definitely has paid off long term. Paid off in the sense got offered OTC and extended time after our time was officially over in the VIP
During - sexy talking"
Exactly. Before, up to an hour of warm-up talk -- not small talk, which I hate, but fun banter. Sexy talk during.
Then again, I typically don't do lap dances, only VIPs. I would think if, for example, my goal was LDK, I might want her facing away from me grinding hard on me, and not exactly easy to talk that way. As it is, I want her spending much of her time facing me, and it's easy to talk
SJG
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Push your cock into her in the back room.
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Her money is more. But the time ends up being more than proportionately increased.
SJG