Are Extras THE reason you SC?
steeldog65
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Started thinking this over the last few weeks. My CF doesn't do extras in club and I'm totally cool with that. I get great dances she's sexy as h*** , with great conversations. We spend about an hour together and then I bail. We do meet occasionly OTC and those are some mind blowing experiences with her.
I would guess I only partake of extras with a dancer 30% of the time at most, sometimes I'm not feeling it, sometimes she's not my type. Do most of you go to a club simply for the extras? Or is it more for the beautiful women, booze, boobs, whatever? For me, extras are simply that and if I don't partake that is fine.
I would guess I only partake of extras with a dancer 30% of the time at most, sometimes I'm not feeling it, sometimes she's not my type. Do most of you go to a club simply for the extras? Or is it more for the beautiful women, booze, boobs, whatever? For me, extras are simply that and if I don't partake that is fine.
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Since 10 years ago, I've mostly SCed in non-extras clubs, so extras are definitely not a required part of the experience anymore. I enjoy the experience of being in an SC for lots and lots of reasons. That said, once I find a stripper I'm interested in, I do pursue OTC, and will eventually drop her for a different girl if I can't get her there. So sex with strippers remains an important motivator, it's just usually not part of the ITC experience anymore.
Extras or trying for OTC are occasional occurrences that don't factor into my intentions to SC.
When I did go it was for two reasons, to be around like minded people, and to get these girls to let me stick it in them. A trip to Follies changed the desire to want to stick it in them immediately, and eventually wanted to play the "tad bit harder to get" game, but ultimately it was about fucking.
I've never had extras or paid for sex in or out of the club. So that's never been the motivator.
So, I know that I don’t need the booze. I don’t need to attention or conversation either. So - it’s the extras!
Some times i go for a pleasant conversation
Most times i go for a good fuck
guys I've seen who say "they go for the booze," 1) use it as an excuse with their wives or adult daughters just so they know they're out than where they are at, it's said tongue-in-cheek for so long that they actually start to believe it -or- 2) going to the titty bar and spend $21 on booze and under $20 on the girls, so budget-wise they have a point. Basically I agree with you. It's just hard in America with women (who bend socially conservative on strippers, porn, and extra-marital sex, but may be conservative on little else) to say what you mean some times. Don't get me started on the men to buy into that shit. If you're there for the boobs, have a spine and own up to it.
The whores don’t use glitter or body spray - so it saves me a shower and de-skanking after.
Treat them like civilians, and then let what can happen happen, and aim towards ASAP outside contact.
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For most of my professional PL-career I was not that interested in extras b/c:
+ prior to joining TUSCL I thought extras occurred if you got really lucky but o/w the girl would just rip you off via fake-promises - I also became a SCer while living in Dallas where extras were not that common
+ I love women (plural) - love to look at them and feel them up vs just having sex - I get a big rush out of enjoying a woman's body which I can't do as well if concentrating on fucking her - I do truly enjoy foreplay which I feel is akin to getting a good 2-way-contact dance
+ for me sex w/ a condom doesn't feel like sex - it's ok - but no where close to how a wet-pussy feels sliding up-and-down on your bare-cock - since SC extras usually imply covered sex, it's not that huge of an incentive for me
+ I like variety and only have a certain amount of $$$ I can spend SCing - thus if I do extras, most of my SC funds get spent on just one girl and I can't enjoy multiple dancers on the same-visit
+ cultural - as most of you know, I have a niche SCing preference (pale-white-guy that's into dark-skinned very-thick/voluptuous ebony women) - most Cuban guys like me seem to like/prefer curvy women although most Cuban-guys seem to stick to white Cuban chicks although they also like a black woman's body but they still stick to the Cubanas - but one thing that I notice about Cuban guys is that they don't actually sleep around that much and are more about having a GF/relationship and are also not big into P4P - and that's kinda like I am - Cubans are conservative and family-oriented and having casual/random sex is not really too big a part of our culture - thus why I may be different w.r.t. extras - it's a bit of my cultural slant in that Cubans like curvy women (thus why so many Cuban dancers have fake-butts) and Cubans are also not big into sleeping-around including P4P - most Cuban SCers I've known that enjoyed SCing were not really into extras
Thus for the bulk of my close to 20-yr PL-career, I was very satisfied just getting to enjoy voluptuous ebonies via grinding-and-groping - in the last 3 or so years I've gotten more into extras but it's not really the primary reason I hit SCs and for me extras these days often occur on the spur of the moment - perhaps 10 to 15% of my SC-visits I may go w/ the pre-intent of getting extras.
i kinda feel the same way, i feel i waste a boner that i could have used to fuck my wife. my boners are in limited supply as i age. i only partake on LDKs, DFK, FIV and BBBJ. Which never happens to me.
And like Papi_Chulo, i have no interest in paying hundreds of dollars more for covered extras. I'd probably rather stick a bare finger than a covered dick in a pussy. From my perspective, covered sex isn't that much better than LDK. Heck some girls practically stick your covered boner (pants, shorts) into their pussy anyway. I also have no interest in being the 2nd or 10th dick inside a cum-laden mouth. And BBFS is just way too risky with the vast majority of strippers. And handjobs? Ridiculous to pay a girl for something i can do myself, IMO. So my quite particular preference of extras i want isn't likely to be found on most SC visits and not something i expect or seek. Heck even in an OTC date, it might not happen. So i largely stick with FIV, DATY and DFK with lower volume hotties along with the other sensual and sexy activities (touching and nipple sucking). I can usually do that even in regular lap dances with enough familiarity and comfort/trust with a regular/favorite with modest to generous tipping and tends to be my current MO. Having said all that, i'm not against doing extras (or the idea of them really), but to do them on my terms isn't very likely.
To the original question: extras are an added bonus, but not the main reason why I SC. Gorgeous naked women all in one room, you can’t beat that.
I am crushed! Oh the humanity! What is this world coming to when guys lie at strip clubs! I guess I will just go drink alcohol at a strip club and not interact or look at the girls because my life is ruined. LOL
If you are around a doctor who deals in that, you are in the presence of the modern day version of Josef Mengele.
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What does exist is child abuse.
SJG
san_jose_guy - commonly referred to as SJG this forum member is usually mocked or ignored, his comments should NOT be taken in any way as legitimate
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I have two brothers who are very far on the autism spectrum.
You also seem to re-post lots of gossip from this board. That does not represent you well.
SJG
Please just go back under that rock you came out from under and leave the rest of us along. We no longer care to hear a sound out of you and no longer value your input in this board.
https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Autism-Medic…
And then one who has traced out its origins over the decades:
https://www.amazon.com/Constructing-Auti…
And now we know that Hans Asperger, generally depicted as a good guy, sent 5,000 children to be euthanized. Asperger should have been tried at Nuremberg and then hung by the neck.
https://www.tuscl.net/discussion.php5?id…
If you are ever in the presence of a doctor who trades in things like Autism / Aspergers / Neurological Difference, do not argue with him. Rather, find yourself a weapon and be ready to use it.
And Iam4u2screw, I am sure you must know how to use IGNORE.
And nicespice, let me clarify, you re-post gossip from this board, presenting it as though you have independent knowledge that it is true. It almost never is, it is just trolling. But as you do that, it reflects extremely badly upon you.
SJG
My source is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: DSM-5 which is the OFFICIAL diagnosis reference used by the mental health community that is based of sound, scientific research.
Wonder which source is more relevant? Something tells me that my choice carries a LITTLE more weight than your book of opinion and conjecture.
As far as the OP, hmm...
1) There are some who would like extras, and pay more to those who are happy with it. But are perfectly content with whatever
2) There are some who are done with you once they realize it’s not happening.
DSM and the mental health system ARE THE PROBLEM! Another book, a whole bunch of authors taking on the concept of Autism / Aspergers
https://www.amazon.com/Re-Thinking-Autis…
Click on "look inside".
Just like there is a movement against the Mental Health System, there is also a movement against Autism / Apsergers.
People need to stand up for themselves. Autism / Aspergers is just a device for abusing children and adults.
nicespice,
Refrigerator parents do not cause autism. They couldn't, because autism does not exist. But most of the time when a child is getting labeled that way, you will find that one of both parents find the child to be an embarrassment and is othering them. This contributes to the child having to protect themselves and become more rigid.
And as Peter Breggin explains in his "Toxic Psychiatry", all of the autism advocacy groups are merely defensive formations of parents, trying to defend themselves against blame. It is because of this that autism / asperger's assessments have exploded.
And like William Stillman explains, the real epidemic is in the demand for ABA treatment hours. He says it is all "Mommy Guilt".
And if you don't believe me, read this Jayne Lytel. She is s frightening woman. The intensity of the hatred she and the husband feel for their second son Leo is enough that the book could spontaneously burst into flames.
https://www.amazon.com/Act-Early-Against…
As far as I can see, the likely hood that someone will believe in the idea of Autism / Aspergers is directly correlated to the degree of receptivity they have for Social Darwinism and for Eugenics. And these were after all the central pillars of the Nazi Party.
DC9428,
No, I do not repeat people's personal information. I have alerted new comers to some obvious sock puppets. But people make personal disclosures on this site, and I do not rebroadcast them. Nicespice posts all kinds of stuff which is just nonsense invented by trolls. But she posts it as though she has independent knowledge as to its voracity. This would be most unbecoming for anyone.
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SJG
1. seeing some pretty young women. 2. interacting with her.
3. the possibility of fully enjoying her.
The rest of society just calls that a successful first date.
In the end though the cost of these venues is not that important because soon you'll be banging your girl in your own bed.
As far as NiceSpice, she re-broadcasts troll shit, acting as though she knows it to be true. It almost never is, and there is no way she ever could have had any independent knowledge as to its voracity. She has serious character problems, not unlike many of our male PLs.
There is no such thing as Autism / Apsergers, or Mental Illness. There has never been anything in DSM which has ever had any objective science behind it.
They classify people who are suffering from epilepsy as being autistic. The assessment is meaningless.
Most of the time, it is the parents and their shame over the child which brings it to the medical community, and has already turned life into hell for the child. And then there are lots and lots of parents who will devote their lives to driving their child to the doctor, as they need to find the locus of original sin within the child.
They used to call this Munchausen's Syndrome By Proxy, then Facetious Disorder, now simply Medical Child Abuse.
Just a few years back Arizona terminated parental custody rights over 5 children. The parents were using the idea of autism this way. So pediatricians from the Phoenix Children's Hospital who recognized what was going on had to testify against their own PCH doctors who made the autism assessment.
Fascinating reading, and with medial records to prove it:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/055338…
Rhode Island, one separation ward for the entire state, in Providence, so you get all races and socio-economic levels together and see that it is most real and quite common:
https://www.amazon.com/Medical-Child-Abu…
The industrial age's middle-classes are the first large population sample which actually has choice in how they live. But most people are afraid of such choice, so they deceive themselves and find something to hide behind. They live in Bad Faith, self-deception.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bad_faith_…
So usually this means having children. They do this with the intent of using the children to give themselves an unstigmatized adult identity. But very often they end up blaming the miserable state of their own lives on the children they didn't need to have.
An autism/asperger's assessment is one of the more popular ways of doing this today.
Generally it is better if one can be very flexible in their social responses. But when one has their back against the wall as their legitimacy is under attack, this is impossible. I have noticed that for those who have been convinced that they suffer from Autism-Aspergers, things usually start to improve once they no longer live with their parents.
And then even where there is not some parental culpability, we live in a muggle world and we have muggle schools which serve little purpose other than to enforce social norms by bullying.
Frances Tustin, the high water mark for those treating Autism-Aspergers with Psychoanalysis, rather than as a hereditary neurological difference, and with Aversives Therapy, Pivotal Response Therapy, and Transcranial Magnet Zaps.
https://www.amazon.com/Protective-Shell-…
But in the writings of the autism-apserger's advocates you can always feel their shame over not living up to their parents' expectations, and their pleasure in how just by accepting the assessment everyone is exonerated.
Social Darwinism and Eugenics started in the later part of the 19th Century, as a way to legitimate Capitalism in the face of the first world wide industrial depression. But the formulation which still holds the hearts and minds of many today came from the Nazi Party. And it was Hans Asperger who sent over 5000 children to be euthanized. But he still managed to escape the Nuremberg Defendant's Dock.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Nurem…
Lots and lots of people support Social Darwinism and Eugenics. They've just decided to call these something which they think sounds sexier, Libertarianism.
SJG
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Autism-Aspergers are just concepts invented to legitimate the abuse of children and adults. Mental Illness, largely the same, all intended to marginalize people, and often people who are already vulnerable, such as children. Targeting people not likely to fight back. Those being effected by such, need to start striking back. The labels die, once people start to understand that using them often carries severe consequences.
There is a broad range of temperament in people. And this is evident even in children. But this does not mean that there is any such thing as Autism, Aspergers, ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, or anything like mental illness. The concepts only exist because of Nazi Social Darwinism and Eugenics.
https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Mental-Illne…
Bruno Bettelheim always had serious credibility problems. And Refrigerator Mother was always a gross over simplification. It made it sound like it was something inadvertent.
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But I believe that he got one thing right. When he looked into the faces of the children he was being sent, labeled as autistic, he could feel the fear, the utter terror. He knew that these were the same faces he saw when he was interned, first at Dachau, and then at Buchenwald.
And then we have Harry Harlow, a student of Stanford's Lewis Terman:
http://e-repa.ru/files/translation/psych…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O81rk19Z…
http://users.rcn.com/napier.interport/cw…
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Strip clubs are the best place (for me) to find strippers, and among for-hire sex workers, strippers tend to give the best and most fun no strings attached sex.
So yeah, even though I don’t always expect to get sex at a strip club, I go to strip clubs for the sex. :)