strippers who ignore customers
docsavage
Indiana
A common thing I see in strip club reviews is where the guy says he walks in to the club with a bunch of money and then a couple hours later walks out without spending any of it because all the girls ignored him. Since they are supposedly there to make money, on the surface this seems irrational or stupid on the part of the girls. Do you think the strippers are really being stupid or are there underlying reasons for this? Three possibilities occur to me. First, they are waiting for a high spending regular and are afraid if he walks in while they are with another guy he'll walk back out again or pick another girl. Second, they don't like walking around the club doing approaches because they don't like the constant rejections and instead are waiting for the customers to approach them. Third, they aren't really aware their peak earning period as a stripper is brief and aren't trying to maximize their income while they can. Do you think it's any of these reasons and if so which one? Or are there other possibilities I haven't thought of?
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#2 is also possible, but stupid. If a girl is so afraid of rejection that she can't approach customers, she is in the wrong industry and shouldn't have any sort of sales job.
#3 is stupidity.
In general, if it's slow and a guy walks in I want to be the first one to approach him. If a guy is sitting alone, and it's dead, I'll give it a try even if he's not my "typical" clientele.
Which leads me to the point that a lot of strippers have a set type of customers that they approach, due to stereotypes or simply not being comfortable to talk to a guy outside of their demographic. If they're a 21 year old from a low-income background, they might not feel comfortable interacting with a 55 year old white collar guy. They should learn to adapt, but that brings me to my final point:
Some strippers are just lazy and not business minded.
All of my big spending regulars have been white men between ages 40-65ish. Most had white collar jobs. But I will approach all kinds of men.
I recall one shift (I think I've talked about it before) I came in at like 8pm and had a monetary goal in mind, but the club was completely dead except for one customer. If the club had had a dozen customers, he would not have been the one I'd have approached. He was in jeans with paint all over them and an oversized t-shirt, but I sat down with him anyway. He had a very thick southern accent. I didn't think he was going to spend much so I probably brought up dances about 30 seconds into our conversation, he said yes, and we were together going back and forth between VIP and sitting and chatting until the club closed. He spent a lot and became a regular for the few months he was in town working on a project.
The guy reeks of being a stalker, obnoxious douche, or a wannbe who wants to sexually maul you for $1.00
But last weekend I experienced a new phenomenon: dancers who actually reject customers. I understand dancers who don't bother working the room and just let customers come to them. But never until last weekend have I experienced talking to a dancer in hopes of buying dances and being rejected via answers that showed she was not interested in my business whatsoever.
For the girls who ignore customers, I figure they are waiting on a regular or have made enough money that they don't feel the need to hustle any more for the day.
^^^ hahaha god damn fucking right!!
Actually, troll, my exact words were, "I'm always suspicious when a guy comes in at night wearing a suit."
Most wealthy men who come to strip clubs tend to dress down instead of dressing in a suit. Unless it is lunch hour or right after work (night time applies to neither), the guys who come in wearing suits are pretentious try-hards and notoriously don't spend much. I prefer a guy wearing normal clothes, often those end up being the richest guys. I don't know many guys who wear suits every day at work, come home, shower, and decide to put on another suit just to go to a strip club. Plus, some of the guys are business owners and don't even wear suits to work. Like I mentioned earlier, I was pleasantly surprised by a guy wearing an oversized t-shirt and paint-splattered jeans. He ended up being great.
If you focus less attention on following my posts to troll them and more attention to the info I have, maybe one day you'll land a high spender too.
I'm betting yes. And they probably ignore women & couples too.
That said, one train of thought i cant comprehend is guys that let a dancer sit with them for 10/20/30 minutes and then let them leave because they "didnt ask him for a dance". Then they complain about it. Why???
Is that a third nipple?
I have been thinking more that a lot of the emotional toil in the SC whether on the PL or stripper side is a lot from deep adolescent insecurities. Dancers crying in the dressing room from a guy turning them down for a dance is pretty obvious. But even in this case a guy doesn't get approached by the hottest girl in the club (who doesn't have to hustle) and that makes him sad deep down which he manifests as anger.
I despise the athletic short/sweatpants wearing customers. :p
And good points bbybunny and PaulDrake. Some of it is probably on the dancer, some of it the customer. Alcohol probably doesn’t help on either end as well.
Announcement, I was going to buy a Ferrari today but I didn’t.
Meaningless, right?
What I presume about these people with this complaint is:
They may have had some sort of entitlement about them and were not very friendly.
They were waiting for the *perfect girl(s)* and after the others in the room saw this person turn away 1, 2, 3 girls, they figured this person wasn’t there to spend money and stopped going over to him.
Guy is gross or creepy or not clean.
The girls ARE lazy. It can be the girls’ fault but also I do see guys stay in the club for like 10 minutes and leave in an annoyed way.
Communication is a two way street, sometimes the girl you have your eye on isn’t being lazy or ignoring you, maybe she’s insecure or nervous. Consider there are two sides to every coin.
One thing I will add is that at one of the clubs I used to go to regularly, they rotated from stage to stage and collected huge amounts of tips that sometimes afterwards, they probably didn't feel like selling private dances. It wasn't true of all dancers, because one of my favorites would make a beeline to me the moment she was done onstage and then we went to the back, but most would go to the dressing room first.
Thanks @nicespice, in most SC scenarios alcohol seems to make matters worse.
@PinkSugarDoll great minds think alike :)
Speaking of which I know one stripper with a tattoo of Texas on her hand
I walk away from customers who talk about their material possessions, how much money they have or "plan to" spend, or have extremely high egos in general.
Option 3 is more of a long term perspective on a stripper lifestyle. It is mostly true - when you consider many strippers spend as much as they make (or more). Since they don’t have the career span of other professions - not saving a lot is very foolish.
If a guy rides a Huffy bicycle to the club. He leaves a goat outside - next to his bicycle - and he refers to others as chumps - would any dancers approach him? He’s building an organization...
We *must* be all things to you men and now visionaries who can interpret your desires through your eye contact in dark settings where we sometimes question if you are looking directly at us or not.
Okay men, I have heard it all.
Why does someone not go back to you—if you turned me down before I assume you’re not interested. There is a room full of potential yes’s and you have already turned out to be a no. If you want me to come back you will have to t e l l m e.
About the only time it has been difficult to spend money on dances was a late weekend night, the customer-to-dancer ratio was 5-to-1 (packed house), the dancers were ALL WOUND UP. Sure you could tip them and they'd stop down and chat. I'd ask for a dance,but not takers. They'd go back to the group of partiers they were with.
But that was a bizarre night. Wound up, drunk, or high. High party atmosphere. High Energy. Loud. Tons of drinking. Not the best environment for getting dances. I could still get attention tableside. I could still get attention on stage. Just no dances. Very bizarre. Only happened one night.
Guess what, I hope you do get ignored, with that attitude.
One is that for many guys, the fantasy of being pursued is exactly what they're paying for -- one that can't happen if he has to pursue girls EVEN IN A STRIP CLUB. That can be pretty tough on someone already socially awkward or fragile. Most old cynical PLs are too busy pursuing our own agendas to be bothered by such thoughts, but many customers have that mindset at some point or other. It's the most-often cited reason when I read discussions in forums.
Second, while we know that "no one is going to reject your money if you offer it", there is a JUSTIFIED perception that a girl on her phone looking annoyed or disinterested, and too consumed to even bother doing her job, is not going to give the best dances.
If I want a girl who hasn't come by, I usually just catch her on stage.
I do think if you're ignored often as a customer, you need to look at yourself. Anyone can have a weird day at the strip club, but a customer who is constantly getting ignored, across many trips and strip clubs, is sending out the wrong signals.
V good analysis @ your last paragraph.
“I’m just going to chill for a while, come back later and we’ll do some dances” would make me come back.
Sometimes I have to balance this on late Friday nights, especially when I only have a couple hours. If I like her and think I might want her later, I pay her to hang around (until I'm ready), see if she'll hang around on her own uncompensated for now (I'm not buying now, but I will later, you'll welcome to stay, (and maybe drink with me), and we'll get dances in a little bit. But if you don't want to, that's OK. And you can go and we'll try to meet up later. And wish she has a good night) OR depending on how busy the night is or how busy she may be, I might go ahead and get some dances from her NOW, so I don't miss out on her later.
Some customers might not like this and really do need to settle in, first. No biggie. They want what they want. Or like to have whatever time they came to have and don't want to be rushed. I get it. Diff'rent strokes.
Early bird gets the worm
Here today gone tomorrow
Why put off for tomorrow what could be done today
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