Do you guys really.............................
skibum609
Massachusetts
.........................believe that paying strippers is superior to being married? I know a lot of you claim this, but are you being totally honest? Do you really believe there is no way to have a happy, fun, lifetime marriage? I accept that I am lucky and that when we vacation in Florida my wife will go with me to the Inner Room because when she gets a lap dance she wants everyone in the club to see, but do you understand that this hobby is better when it accompanies a great life and isn't a substitute for one? Caveat: As long as you're happy its cool by me and this is a serious question.
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I got a 'slut' fetish that must be fed. Slutty women turn me on.
My wife is a loyal good girl. I'm thinking bout having the talk. Hot wife! If I was brave enuff and she got on board, she could slut with other men.......and I'd be good!
Also, to me, strippers are a game to prove to myself that I still have game. I know it's a lie, since money is the main motivator for any relationship with a stripper. However, when the same amount of money is in play, women with spend more time a customer who she enjoys spending time with. If you stay fit, clean, and charismatic, then you will reap the rewards in a club. For me, clubs are like a barometer of how well I'm maintaining my fitness and charisma.
I know a few guys (and a couple of women) that I truly believe aren't built for marriage (or any long-term romantic relationship). So, while strippers may not be superior, they are more suitable.
I have friends who have been married for 40 years---it works for them.
I also have friends who have been married ( and I kid you not) six times.
Marriage is a great institution it was once said but then who wants to be institutionalized?
Good gods, no.
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@GammaNu is such a lovable, charismatic, bigot. I bet he regales all the strippers with his theories about "porch monkeys" cheating society and his theories about LBGTs having a genetic defect. It was so nice here without you, @GammaNut. Maybe time for another hiatus?
I could be married to a supermodel and I would still be out cheating on my wife with girls decades younger. It's for the pure animal thrill and P4P has an entirely different purpose. Apples. Oranges.
I love my wife dearly and would never leave her, but if she ever left me, I doubt that I would do this again. I am sniffing distance from 50, have been in serious relationships almost my entire adult life, am on my second marriage and have all the kids I want now. The luster of marriage for its own sake has been gone for me for a long time and the only reason I even did it the second time is that I met a wonderful woman and because I wanted children.
Lucky for me that I'm not a guy who is pre-disposed to feeling lonely or needy, which means that I'm unlikely to feel the urge to lean on strippers as some type of relationship substitute. If I am ever single again, I expect that i might expand my social circles a bit and do some more traveling - anything but try to use strippers for anything other than recreational fun.
On the other hand, when you haven't had sex once in 33 months and just once in over 50 months (but who is counting?), I'd say you cease to be husband and wife and are simply roommates. Maybe great roommates. I would argue that hitting SCs is more noble than being in a cheating, emotional relationship outside the marriage. Just filling a biological need . . .
Strip clubs have their strengths and weaknesses. Over all I would say that their are better solutions possible, but we have to build them.
SJG
san_jose_guy - commonly referred to as SJG this forum member is usually mocked or ignored, his comments should NOT be taken in any way as legitimate
SJG
“You’re either single and lonely or married and miserable.”
But those in my organization will neither be lonely or miserable.
SJG
Then she was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's . That's around the same time I started in with my ATF. As my wife slipped away my "relationship" with her was in some ways a substitute for my marriage. In the last 6 months my wife passed away and my ATF moved away. At age 72 I don't see myself getting married again and I don't think I'd want as close a relationship as I had with the ATF, so for me it's looking back on a 49 year marriage and sorting out the detritus of a nine year fling with a beautiful much younger dancer. Time to try some different clubs.
The short answer is yes strippers are better than a marriage and I was married for 11 year's and have kept a very close friendship with my X since the divorce... honestly besides the living situation I still feel as if she is my wife of 18 year's.. I've known her since the third grade.
Now let me explain myself
I think a relationship in the first three years and maybe five... nothing tops it... it's to my much fun and filled with excitement and sex....it's the best
Then around five years it starts to fall apart and that's when argument starts and the lack of a good time and sex decline... this is when strip clubs become superior
Hence a marriage of ten plus and beyond is nothing more than a business contract with a solid friend if it last
So in pursuit of the best sex ever strip clubs are superior with exemption to the first three years of a brand new relationship
do you suppose i can find a twenty year old 9 or 10 beautiful girl to marry my broke ass?
Ask Shadowcat. I'm not one to rebroadcast someone's personal affairs. It will be up to him if he wants to talk. His marriage should have been one that worked perfectly, or as good as any can. But it did not.
SJG
san_jose_guy - commonly referred to as SJG this forum member is usually mocked or ignored, his comments should NOT be taken in any way as legitimate
seen far too many good men fall victim
always tread carefully, enjoy the hoes, get some good head but don't let em rob you
Absolutely! And please do consider my open application for membership in your organization.
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Hell even when a man is getting pussy bus head isn't clear LMFAO
bitches always looking to get somethin for nothing. my hoes are free to shop for their extensions and jewelry and make up and fake nails or whatever they choose but they best be giving me head at the end of the day or I cut they asses off and no more money from my wallet. hoes only get cash too, don't ever let em get ahold of your credit card. they gotta earn your money not abuse it.
I love it!
SJG
There is nothing superior to marrying the right person. Conversely, there are many things that are superior to marrying the wrong person.
If you are lucky enough to marry the right person strip clubs can be a great source of entertainment/stress relief as long as both partners are open and honest about it. If you aren't open and honest about it or go against your partner's wishes it can ruin the best thing in your life.
If you are like most people and you married someone who is a good person and a good friend but not necessarily your soul mate a strip club can be an added source of entertainment/stress relief to spice up a boring period in the relationship.
If your in an unhappy marriage with the wrong person it can be the relief valve you need to keep yourself happy.
Much of this is on me, I admit. I have been terrible at picking women. Mental issues, baby daddy issues, drama, I'm always fighting an uphill battle. Well I'm not going to do it anymore. I'm quite happy living by myself with my kids. I can do what I want, when I want. I don't have to check with anyone to see if its ok If I can do something.
More power to you if you have a happy marriage, I don't put down those who are married. My parents were married for 45 years until my dad died. But you can't convince me my life would be better if I was married.
No, not afraid of divorce. Mrs. 77 knows that I club and doesn't have a problem with it so long as it stays between us and I use appropriate discretion. I'm happily married to someone I can describe as my soul mate. I generally agree with skibum on this one and a lot of what he posts on relationships and marriage and divorce, except swinging isn't for us. I also tend to get her a small surprise gift either before or after I go to the club, to make it fair. It's like $20 and shows I'm being unselfish about the whole thing.
@skibum609
It never occurred to me not even once to use dancers or strip clubs for anything other than brief adult entertainment for a couple hours. I do enjoy it a lot, enough even to join a SC forum to discuss the topic, but it's a back seat to everything else in my life, including my wife. If anything I wish I could indulge more often, but even then, it would be in relative moderation and with balance.
I've offered to take her, and she was happy what I was willing to do that, but changed her mind after getting ready before we were out the front dorr. Not sure if she changed her mind, or if it was just a test to see if I was hiding something from her at my local club. She hasn't been interested in it since and she rarely reads tuscl anymore with me.
@rickdugan:
@shailynn:
In fact, she's sort of swung the other way thinking everyone on Tuscl is lying acting like they're sleeping with strippers when they're not / or she's saying that's not possible. She also says she doesn't want to know the details of my trips anymore or to at least white lie about the specifics. In the last year, I've been seeing what @rickdugan and what @shailynn have been saying about lying to spouses/GFs, telling white lies, sparing her the pain, having cover stories, etc ... and seeing that based on what I see from her and other women, they almost prefer it that way. At least a little bit. So I'm going more along with that and perhaps adopting some of it, and dropping the whole brutal honesty thing. So thanks, guys! Serious statement.