Resisting urges

Have to decide what you really want. Mileage strip clubs are very expensive. Sex with a GF need not be. Sex is common in certain types of bohemian enclaves. Strip clubs show you that things could be different, but as I see it, they are not really a long term solution to anything.

SJG

Pursuing What You Really Want:
https://www.amazon.com/Path-Least-Resist…

SJG

^^^ but what do dickheads like you do that would never be able to have sex with a woman for free?

I'm usually all cash and found if I don't have a few hundred on me I'm not likely to run to the bank on the fly, or the atm is where I'm second guessing my decisions. However I found on a few drunken nights I charged stuff to the credit card, which the next day I wasn't happy about. Once I'm in the club, I apparently struggle to leave.
I decided i would pay all that off before i go back, and so far I've stuck to that. One more payday next friday and the cards are back to zero and the bank account has enough for a fun weekend.

I had to return a few "it's so boring" type texts with a "sorry, I cant tonight" reply. Not fun, but neither is debt.

I go once a month. I take my lunch to work and make decisions on what I really want or need. It's easy for me to remember that when I get that "it's boring here" text that all she is wanting is some sure thing cash.

The only true method that makes temptation go away is to yield to it.

There are several ways to resist the urge -

When you get the text - remember she’s texting several other guys too.

Remember - she wants your money more than you.

She’s not sitting in the dressing room thinking “I can’t wait to see DrunkPraetorian! I’ve been fantasizing about him since the first time I saw him!”

If you are running low on money - a trip to the club never helps the situation. Nobody hits it rich at a strip club.

If you hold off longer - you will enjoy your next trip even more.

Luckily i dont have this problem. I dont have any faves hitting me up. My 2 favorite clubs have 1 day a week where they have $10 topless dances(normally $20/$30 any other time, any other club) and i havent found a better deal out here. So that is when i spend 99% of my stripper funds these days. They also have this "deal" during happy hour but i can never make it. Otherwise i am never tempted to go while the "normal" prices are on. I can always wait until the next tuesday or thursday. Now if i lived in atlanta i might be broke because i would wanna go to follies every day. Lol

I apologize if my post sounded dick-like - I was trying to discourage you from going and spending your money.

No not at all, thanks for the tips, it’s just been tough to resist the urges

Just go to BandAids or some other dive bar that allows you to keep the majority of your money in your pocket so you don’t spend it, yet you still get the club and dancer experience.

^that sounds like a waste of gas money

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lol... waste of gas money, true Mr. “Chestblaster”.

Yet no matter what we do in life we always find things that we don’t need to do but are fun. It’s why investing in sin is always profitable, since people always do it. RJ Reynolds, Breweries, certain pharmaceuticals, etc. exist because not from need but want. We all want to go to the club, but spending less when you feel like doing it is controlling the one constant need to splurge on fun. If he keeps his entertainment costs lower, then that’s a step in the right direction on saving more money, because we all know bias is the biggest determinant in a person’s financial success. In other words behavior trumps investment choice (or asset choice).

Hell, we all could have e told him to take up jerking off for a living and it’s be the most economical suggestion yet. Lol!

Gas is still relatively cheap in today’s market.

Jerking off usually works.

^^^^^ :) :) :)

but you know, a lot of these guys would not do that. They instead buy ejaculation services and tell themselves that that is really completely different from jerking off.

SJG

Keep yourself busy with work and projects. Then you do not have the time to go and will not have to live on a budget. In addition to my main job, which offers lots of overtime, I do side jobs and side hustles that pretty much leave me with very little free time. If I had lots of free time, I'd probably be at strip clubs more often.

^^^^Sinclair makes a good point. If you stay busy with work, extra work, volunteer projects or even other hobbies, you won’t club as often and you’ll enjoy it more and probably have more money in the long run. I think that a lot of the reason for clubbing comes from boredom. But it’s an expensive way to deal with boredom.

find the best way to resist the urges is to go there broke and you realize that the fun can only be had when you have money so go there just with the $20 in your pocket and it'll fix their urges of you ever wanting to go when you can't afford to go.

There are certain clubs that are basic look but don't touch and there are one's with high mileages. Most guys go to multiple strip clubs and there are ranges in terms of value and quality. If you can't stay away then go to one that you know you only get to see and have a drink then you are set for a good cheap night where your wallet won't be too hurt.

Switch to watching porn.

I took up gambling. A night at the blackjack tables costs me less than a night in the club.

i’m still in cheap mode... my average strip club cash outlay is now only $500 per nite. good thing i club only four times a week..

Easy...go to the bathroom, strip butt naked. open your account balance on your phone, then look in the mirror. after you look in the mirror, look at your penis, then your account balance. keep repeating until the urge is gone.

Tbh, anyone on this board to begin with probably doesn't have the greatest answer to this question. ;)

But +1 for keeping busy and jerking off when needed.

You might also consider spreading your activities around enough that you are not a big enough fish for any one girl for her to keep you on the top of her texting list.

Practice some tough self-love - punch yourself in the balls repeatedly until the urge subsides

I drink Kava. It helps to lessen my impulsiveness and I can more easily wait to go when I think would be a good time to go. For some reason it works best when I have it at home, though. When I'm at a Kava bar, moving on to a club feels like a natural progression.

Lots of porn, lotion and jerking off

4 Step Plan for dealing with cravings:

1. Limit Access: Whenever possible, I keep the foods I crave out of the house! I've learned from experience that if chocolate or other seemingly irresistable snacks are not easily accessible, I likely will not go to great lengths to procure them.
2. Use the 15-Minute Rule: Commit to not giving in for 15 minutes. See if the craving is still there 15 minutes later. If it is, I try to wait another 15 minutes. I remind myself that the craving will pass.
3. Stop and Reflect Before Responding: I ask myself, what am I about to do and why? Is eating this right now really going to serve some purpose and help me, or will I regret it later?
4. Remember the Biology: I remind myself that each time I eat chocolate, I just make the brain circuitry stronger and more intense... thereby ensuring that future cravings will be harder to resist. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…

If a 4 Step is ineffective then one might look at AA/12 step for stronger cravings.

The plan I came up with is to move where there are no clubs. Actually, it wasn't a plan, that was a natural byproduct of choosing to move for my job.

A word of caution regarding watching porn.

If porn gets you jerking off until completion - go for it.

If porn gets you worked up - and looking to hit a club to release - stay away from it.

Stay too busy to have time to visit. Then visit clubs on off nights where almost none of the girls look good to you. Actually forget the last part. That just made me want to visit the local club again where I had hot girls giving me dances. It wouldn't surprise me if the name of one hot dancer won an award at the club for lap dance queen. She talked me into buying a regular lap dance after the two for one. It probably wasn't worth it but she looked really good and I wasn't thinking rationally.

You confess your sins at the church of the St.James

I play with the cam girls to hold me over.

^^ Camsoda I find helps me these days too. Especially since they fucked up and now require you to take a picture of your credit card and license to tip the girls. I havent tipped since they instituted that rule.

The thing that helps me limit my urges is finding strippers who provide A+ service with a smile and sticking with them. In NJ I can count those types on only 1 hand. A good club experience can hold you over for a week or 2, while a bad one can eat at you the next day.

^ yeah - could be you're not getting your fill if you have a constant desire to SC - you may not be getting the right attention/service if you're constantly thirsty

As others have mentioned; keep busy and try to find other things to occupy your time and entertain you - hit the gym more regularly; etc.


Also - it's not uncommon for many SCers to go thru a stage of euphoria per se where they can never get enough and SCing becomes a major thing in their lives they are always thinking about - after a while (could actually be several years) that euphoria kinda subsides and SCing may not be as alluring.

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HBO has some good series to watch

Through all your motivational books away and never buy any more for as long as you live.

Read and follow:
https://www.amazon.com/Path-Least-Resist…

SJG

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