Do you tell them you are married ?
Warrior15
Anywhere there are Titties.
But I read one of the Articles and the writer brought up this subject. He did not tell any of the girls that he was married. He did not want the girls to be conflicted in that they were helping men to "cheat". Now the writer of the article was referring to Latinas who are mostly Catholic girls. So possibly that might matter to them more. OR do most strippers just feel as though all men are cheats, and it just doesn't matter ?
So those of you that are married, do you tell your stripper that you are married ? And even the unmarried guys, what is your take on this ?
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Several dancers who do otc have also told me that they prefer married men. A few have said they won’t otc with single guys. They think the single guys might fall in love and become stalkers but the married guys are just looking to get some pussy before they go back to the old ball and chain.
For me I dont give ive a shit. When I was married I told the strippers that I was married. After the divorce I told them I was single. All they care about is my money.
1) being married seems to attract hella lot of girls for some reason
2) I have nothing bad to say about my wife. Though I used to complain about lack of attention, that wasn't all her fault...and its no longer true...
3) I seem to get attention when I mention I have kids too...something about married dads.
I don't see what lying gets you...Don't lie about being married....Don't lie about going to SC's
You may as well tell the truth.
Here is a new twist "Do you live alone?". I have to wonder what is on her mind as she also has invited me to her place to cook me a salmon diner with a glass of wine.
It’s not an issue either way. It seems they are just as attracted to my green friends!
I agree I get the impression that most then figure you are not a threat and wont stalk them as a potential GF or something. I think some may get the thrill and ego boost of being the girl that is more desirable than his wife of x years.
When I switched my SC model to CFing and ATFing, I started telling the girls I was married. Why? Because I found that especially with my ATFs, I enjoyed a "send fun or sex texts to each other during the week" interaction, which both gave me a fun break from my day from time to time, and got me sexed up and looking forward to see her again. But it also let me say up front, "if I don't text you back, it's because my wife is there, I'll get back to you when I can", so she wouldn't get irritated if I disappeared in the middle of texting, or didn't reply back for hours (or until the next day). It also had a nice side effect -- with my ATFs, at least, I sometimes got comfortable enough to do a little venting about my wife when I got drunk, then she would invariably complain about her BF, therapeutic all around :)
I do think the "don't tell her you're married because she might have moral qualms about helping you cheat" is... not credible. It would not factor into my thinking one bit. If you CF her and see her often, she will figure it out regardless; I suspect if the stripper has any negative reaction at all, it's more likely around the fact that you're lying about such a dumb thing
Wallanon probably makes a good point for when they may actually start to like us but I don’t think that’s all that common, in spite of our belief that they are really into us.
Honey badger eats cobras!
What's interesting is the idea that telling a stripper your married, then they "might not want to get involved with you because your cheating" mentality has never really clicked in my brain. These girls are strippers, grinding on numerous dudes a night, some offering more. Why in the world would they have that "thought of morals" when they usually don't have too many morals to begin with. Not saying all strippers are bad or anything, or moral less people but to grind on dudes dicks or offer extras to random strangers takes some change of mindset. Never understood that so I don't care really. I think almost all are just after the $, so they don't really care on average.
Maybe once a year I'll run into some new girl who will be put off by it. Invariably this type of girl is one who doesn't yet understand that married guys often represent a fair % of the affluent customer base in most clubs. Anyway, it's not my job to educate baby strippers, so I normally just send them away in these isolated cases.
Strippers don't give a fuck! Morally conflicted? Please, if anyone runs into a stripper who is morally conflicted about taking money from a married man exchange for rubbing his dick, please post here.
I did tell the "I how I met my wife" story to one stripper recently, and she loved it and talked about her divorce. I can guarantee there was not moral conflict there.
I will say there was one dancer who purposely kissed my collar after a VIP session. I didn't really realize until afterwards when I saw the huge lipstick mark, I kinda think that was one scenario where a dancer may have been acting maliciously regarding my marital status. I dunno, that may be just my overactive imagination running wild.
Rickdugan+1 about not wanted to invest the energy to break in baby strippers put off by it. Me, too.
Some of the strippers I have met are married with children. Why is it an issue? It is all fantasy.
Indeed, some of the girls I have met in TJ and in the German FKKs are married.
Personally I could not handle it if my wife were a puta.
I might be able to handle it if she were a no-extras stripper.
Dated a stripper once, but that was 40 years ago when it was considered risque for her to dance on a stage 20 feet from the front row. (She wasn't very good in bed surprisingly.)