I notice if I jack off to porn the same day or even the day before it doesn't work as good at the club so I'm going to try to not touch it for a while.
You answered your own question. Also I try not to drink too much. Especially if smoking weed. or doing other drugs, if that's what you do. Short answer, avoid porn and masturbation as long as possible before going.
Drinking actually fucks it up for me as well, anyone notice that? When I drink it's not nearly as enjoyable and I read it's because it makes you feel lesa
@TheeOSU sometimes and I'm trying to figure out why it's rock hard sometimes and won't wake up other times when a super hot woman is right there. Other people being around also kills it for me
Of course you're not as hard if you blow your load the same day or even the day before - that's like eating before going to a restaurant and wondering why you're nit hungry.
At the age of 72 this is a frequent concern. Last night I took a viagra before going clubbing and hadn't touched myself in a week. At the club I met a dancer I hadn't seen in a couple of years. The last time I saw her ended with a BBBJCIM and she gargles with my cum, let it run down her chin, scooped it with her fingers back to her mouth and swallowed it, like she was auditioning for a porn flick.
Last night we did a couple of total nude lap dances where she stroked my dick through my pants, asked for a VIP where she promised whatever I wanted. The trouble was it would have been like trying to put a clam in a slot machine. Nothing! Not even a hint of an erection. I had plenty of cash but without the ability to fully enjoy her charms, why spend the money? I got home and watched a video of my ATF sucking me, got hard, and rubbed one off. God, I miss that woman. All others pale in comparison ( in my eyes).
There's so many factors which affect male performance ( most between our ears) that ymmv.
I just forget that I am married and bingo! I have sex a lot with the wife, so if I think about that or think about the fact that I am a lying cheating bastard, I don't get that hard, if at all! But today I just cleared my mind and let the girl ride it hard. Got super hard.... and I had sex this morning. Just got to clear the mind gentleman.
Different things will work for each of us. The physical prep is helpful, but the most important thing is that you are mentally very aroused by the girl. Even with certain pills - the arousal and orgasm might not happen.
It’s true - age can be an enemy with getting it off!
Booze is known to cause issues across the board with performance. Pot causes issues for some, though for others it's not a problem. Until you're a certain age, it's almost always a mental issue.
I don't jack off for a day before, or longer. It usually hasn't been touched for at least 48 hours when I arrive at the club. I can still go and have my fun with hard release if I have had less recovery time, but the visit is more enjoyable for me if I have "saved up."
I also don't drink alcohol at the club. It makes me feel kind of numb, which severly defeats the purpose for me. I wanna be fully aware all sensations and at peak performace.
As for others being around, I've learned to ignore everything aside from my dancer as much as possible. Still a way to go, but I once busted when the waitress was taking a drink order from the booth beside me, so I'm doing pretty good on that front.
^ It's more likely that I have to start thinking about baseball or the last time I had sex with Fishsticks's mom to ratchet the excitement down a little.
The regularity is where age catches up with me. I don’t use the blue pill yet. I’m good to go for round 1 - but round 2 takes longer - and is a bit less satisfying (than when I was younger). Round 3 - during the same day/otc - can be a challenge.
The day after can be a challenge to rally and go another round.
With a hot dancer otc - it’s great to not have to watch the clock (or dance count). That helps a lot!
I take care of my mind and body so I hope to never have that problem. I could fuck before clubbing (and often do), shower and get changed and still not have trouble with getting it up in the club.
Do people feel that the loss of capability is just due to age? Or is it more the product of an unhealthy lifestyle? And is it also the product of not taking care of mind and body, not being able to live in your own skin, psychological factors?
Alcohol usually numbs part of my body. It surprises me when a dancer seems to have a magical effect. Sometimes I think some females emit pheromones that can cause an erection when you aren't expecting anything. It's true that under 30 it was difficult not to get an erection very easily when seeing pretty naked girls. I remember one college class feeling really embarrassed when I got too relaxed and was surrounded by females who propped their nice legs up beside me. One bad thought and soon all the girls in front of me were trying to look between my legs. A bunch of girls looking between my legs didn't help. I had a couple girls already looking at me before. I had so many opportunities I didn't pursue back then. If I had a do over, I'd be busy.
I'm usually rock hard when the dancer approaches but after going to pay for the dance at the register then gettin resituated it softens up and little and then for some reason by the third dance it's basically rubber.
^ from your description - you appear to get a rush from the chase. Then the mechanics of the transaction detract from the excitement. There must be a way around that situation.
How long have you been strip-clubbing? Perhaps you are not comfortable enough w/ it yet and kinda psyching yourself out - for w/e reason do you feel nervous, anxious, worried w.r.t. the process?
I too can sometimes "lose interest" if the flow gets interrupted by having to get up and walk someplace else to get the dance and/or take time to have to make a payment; but I usually get hard again once the dances start.
Fatigue is my worst enemy. If I am tired enough even though I may get hard I wont be able to cum. I dont even try and club in that state. If I am well rested I can even drink quite a bit and perform (but there is a limit).
Obviously viagra and cialis are the no brainer answer to your question. Supplements like Horney Goat Weed and Yohimbe also help.
Im still young enough that this usually isnt an issue. I think the quality of the dance/extras is more important than anything. I have beat off same day and still got rock hard for dances with maximum grindage, and minimal groping. Also been slapped silly and still get hard but i dont recommend either of those things. But i can still be stone cold sober, havent touched my dick for a month and i still wont get hard for most airdances, fuglies or the "only butt grind" dances. I think it is mostly psychological.
@Mtent - I have had a similar issue. For me it was the psychological disappointment of not getting the experience that I want. I would suggest for you talk to the dancer and explain you like to start slowly and build up the excitement, and additionally you hate to break up the fun to go pay. So pay well in advance and then ask for a few songs to sit and cuddle/grope/etc or whatever you like. I would also recommend starting with single dances. Try out a few different dancers with single dances until you find one you like. Then implement your pleasure system.
@Mtent SJG isn’t even allowed out of his room at the San Jose Mental Rehab Center, but nurse Crochet prolly was busy with another patient so he snuck into the halls computer.
Mtent, lots of guys act like stuff is not allowed, when really they just haven't learned to try.
In many of the places in TJ it is well documented that the girls lead with DFKing.
In US dives it is well documented that girls jump on to your lap and start licking your neck and nibbling on your ear lobe, basically defying your to start coming on to them and then DFKing them.
This may be more of a black style, but numerous TUSCLer's have affirmed that in the mixed race dives all the girls do it exactly that same way.
They will do that when they are incompetition to get back room FS sessions.
Remember, lap dancing used to mean lap sitting, all front room. What else when along with the sitting varied widely. My education occured when an extremely cute black girl in SF New Century finished up her set open tongue kissing with another girl on stage. Then she was on my lap.
Booths and back rooms are mostly just a gimick to let the house take a bigger cut.
Certainly going into a booth or back room with a girl who has not psychologically opened up to you, is a chump's move.
SJG said "... an extremely cute black girl in SF New Century finished up her set open tongue kissing with another girl on stage. Then she was on my lap."
I bought some Libido-Max at Wal-Mart. It is a supplement so takes a few days to settle in. I feel like it gives me more wood at night and in the morning than during club hours, but it helps a little.
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Last night we did a couple of total nude lap dances where she stroked my dick through my pants, asked for a VIP where she promised whatever I wanted. The trouble was it would have been like trying to put a clam in a slot machine. Nothing! Not even a hint of an erection. I had plenty of cash but without the ability to fully enjoy her charms, why spend the money? I got home and watched a video of my ATF sucking me, got hard, and rubbed one off. God, I miss that woman. All others pale in comparison ( in my eyes).
There's so many factors which affect male performance ( most between our ears) that ymmv.
It’s true - age can be an enemy with getting it off!
How old are you?
Not going to get any arguments here about you being a prick all the time
I also don't drink alcohol at the club. It makes me feel kind of numb, which severly defeats the purpose for me. I wanna be fully aware all sensations and at peak performace.
As for others being around, I've learned to ignore everything aside from my dancer as much as possible. Still a way to go, but I once busted when the waitress was taking a drink order from the booth beside me, so I'm doing pretty good on that front.
It might be a combination of diminishing capacities, along with just lessened moral scruples about finding women to fuck.
SJG
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The day after can be a challenge to rally and go another round.
With a hot dancer otc - it’s great to not have to watch the clock (or dance count). That helps a lot!
:) :) :)
He's a nice guy.
SJG
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You should talk to a professional about that. Nobody here can address what's going on in your head based on forum posts.
I too can sometimes "lose interest" if the flow gets interrupted by having to get up and walk someplace else to get the dance and/or take time to have to make a payment; but I usually get hard again once the dances start.
Obviously viagra and cialis are the no brainer answer to your question. Supplements like Horney Goat Weed and Yohimbe also help.
SJG
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In many of the places in TJ it is well documented that the girls lead with DFKing.
In US dives it is well documented that girls jump on to your lap and start licking your neck and nibbling on your ear lobe, basically defying your to start coming on to them and then DFKing them.
This may be more of a black style, but numerous TUSCLer's have affirmed that in the mixed race dives all the girls do it exactly that same way.
They will do that when they are incompetition to get back room FS sessions.
SJG
Booths and back rooms are mostly just a gimick to let the house take a bigger cut.
Certainly going into a booth or back room with a girl who has not psychologically opened up to you, is a chump's move.
SJG
He's leaving out that she fell off the stage.
And that none of it ever happened
you just gotta avoid having an orgasm a few days before you go to da club