Opening with a dance request
Pyroxl
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Several ladies have opened with asking for a dance and I have yet to see that work (or asking after just a few exchanges of conversation) the first time 2 people meet. These weren't noon dancers either. So I wondered, why bother? The just didn't feel like talking much for a bit?
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Then again, I have been at clubs early enough on those "busy" nights where there aren't many customers in the club yet, and still a lot of dancers approach with the "wanna dance" line. If I tell them "no", often times it is back to the corner to chat with another dancer, bouncer, manager, etc. or they just head back to the dressing room.
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Closing
"Hi"
"Hi"
"I saw you earlier. Thought you were busy."
"Would you like a dance?"
"Yes." > She stands. Takes a look at the guy beside her. Looks around.
"What about over there?" > She motions to a spot in the middle of the back row of couches facing the wall. Guys and dancers are doubled up on couches so it'd be cramped, but probably fun.
"Yeah, let's go there. After you..."
As I watched her walk, I knew was going to VIP if she was anything but a dead fish in my lap.
Wallanon, you saw her, had some time for it to sink in, and approached her. Had the first time you saw her been her coming to you with a "wanna dance", would you have said yes?
If I'm in a club that's got the better customer-to-stripper ratio I look for, I don't ever EVER accept a Wannadance, but if I'm interested, I do invite her to sit and have a drink first (if it's an alcohol club), etc. Not being a hardass, but a cold-opening Wannadance just isn't close to the experience I'm looking for, or why I'm at a strip club. Totally understand that for you guys who are more just looking for a hot stripper to LDK with, or aren't into talking with strippers, might be fine with it.
I also like variety and kinda get frustrated if a dancer is talking me up and thus keeping from getting my hands (literally) on other dancers I see.
I go to dives w/ $5 and $10 dances, and the dances and getting my grind-and-grope on is what does it for me over conversation - and at those low-prices one can afford to be getting almost constant grinding-and-groping during their visit - in the mixed-clubs in my area, dances are $25, in that case I rather talk to her for 5 or 10 minutes not necessarily b/c I want the convo, but I kinda wanna see if she's gonna be worth the $25/dance investment (since I usually get at least 2-dances from a dancer).
If I find a dancer desirable for getting dances, I don't need to talk to her for a while - really does not do that much for me or at least not as much as the grinding-and-groping - it's hard for me to sit w/ a girl I find desirable for more than 5-minutes w/o me wanting to grab her and feel-her-up (I can't usually sit there for 30-minutes and just shoot-the-shit) - most of the time dancers talk up a custy to get them interested in a dance; in my PL-case I start grabbing them at most 5-minutes into the convo (if they are my type) and then they know I'm interested and they usually pop the wanna-dance question and I usually say yes b/c I don't like groping for free nor do I stick w/ any one dancer for an entire-visit where she would get most of my fund$ in the end.
In my PL-case, at times I've actually been more frustrated w/ dancers talking me up too-much vs not talking to me long-enough - and at times I've gotten dances or extras w/ a dancer and she's asked me if I want her to come sit w/ me afterwards and I usually don't want them to (I wanna move-on).
On some occasions when I'm not hard-up and just killing some time at the club, I don't mind getting into convos and just hanging w/ dancers; but usually I go in w/ the mindset of getting my freak-on sooner than later.
Thus the wanna-dance thing does not bother me except in a places w/ expensive dances where I wanna know her a bit (5 or 10 minutes) to see if she's worth the expensive dance-prices - only time the wanna-dance usually bothers me is when I just arrived, or I'm iffy about spending $$$ on that particular visit.
SJG
But this discussion makes me wanna do this to the next wanna dance:
" oh no I don't believe in lap dances. I love to talk and talk and talk" and have a serious look all the same.
Want to see how dancers feign courteous exit (fake smile an all) - really hoping for a feisty dancer with a seriously sarcastic response. (something like - keep talking to yourself loser)
In reality though there is a 50-50 chance, the dancer will sit and talk. (Not for ever, but for a reasonable time).
I feel despite widespread disdain for "wanna dance" in strip club forums and online chats - IRL, there are lots and lots of customers who are waiting just to be asked by a beautiful girl. And customers like Dolfan, papi, Wall - sometimes just want to get it on. That is why dancers still do it. And as SC said non-english speaking dancers know those two words of english.