How to get a girl you like from stage to your lap?
BlackMambaAwake
South Carolina
So you see the girl you like best in a club (assume you are not a regular and she doesn’t know you). She is up dancing on the stage and getting lot of attention from the men- tips and all.
How would you approach her to ensure she comes to you after she gets off stage and not get stuck with some other men( some maybe her regulars)? Or do you ignore her and look for someone who is not as busy?
How would you approach her to ensure she comes to you after she gets off stage and not get stuck with some other men( some maybe her regulars)? Or do you ignore her and look for someone who is not as busy?
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You came to the club dressed decently
You have a smile on your face
You treated the other staff appropriately
You ordered a drink/food and you tipped.
You were probably spotted before she spotted you.....
You walk up to the stage and you tip her, smile, make eye contact---( only said half joking her eyes are above her shoulders not below.)
And you ask her to come see you when she is done with her rotation.
If you can talk to women outside the club, communicate in the work place outside the club, you can talk to any girl who is dancing.
I don't recommend asking for a VIP with a girl i have no experience regardless of how popular she is on stage. Good stage shows have no correlation with good dances/VIPs. Also is negotiating VIP pricing really a thing? All the clubs i've been to, the VIPs/CRs are all set pricing. Usually $175-200 for 15 minutes, around $300 for half an hour and about $500 for the hour with the club taking over 1/3 to as much as 1/2 of that. The club take was completely non-negotiable (believe me i've tried). I don't think i've ever seen a girl go down in price (as she usually makes less doing rooms than doing dances for a similar amount of time). She might go up but that's usually when negotiating extras. Most of the girls just tell what the price is, hopefully honestly, but usually the VIP host collects the money (plus an inferred, implicitly or explicitly, tip for himself) which includes the dancer's cut which they receive later not including any tips for extraordinary service. Yes, the only real negotiating with dancers involves extras or OTC, as VIPs and dance prices are usually well established at the clubs i frequent.
$$$$$ rules all
Plus, when a man approaches this way, it puts pressure on the girl (in a good way), bc his confidence in what he wants, also means that he’s likely confident in what he doesn’t want.
For me, I will tip her, and just say "if you're not with any customers right now, I'd love to buy you a drink and get some dances, I'm sitting over there." In the very slow shifts I go to, this tends to be enough. During busy shifts, there's definitely no guarantee.
galiziabob's approach is kind of cutesy and fun, if it's your style, gets your point across about doing a VIP without coming across so intense
If she has nobody waiting she will come to you if you tip $2 and ask her if she can give you a dance.
It's all FCFS basis.
If she’s got good paying regulars waiting - you might not get her for a bit. It could be a long bit - as she might chat with each regular - and they might get dances from her too.
You seem to have specific tastes - and you might find it very difficult to remain open to a large selection of available dancers. That can be limiting - and the dancers notice that.
And I agree that is my biggest limiting factor
On Friday, she’ll stop by for 30 min, chat, get a couple dances. After which she might stay and chat, work the room, or go back to the party table she was first at. Overall it’s less lock-down than day-shift or weekday-nights. Those shifts are more regulars-driven. YMMV.
Most of the time this works but every now and then she forgets or goes to a higher bidder.