Advice on getting a girl from a regular
Jdobbs84
Canton, Ohio
I don't mean if she's giving dances or having a drink her regular paid for. If you have money and wanna spend it on her and she's obviously not making money for a long stretch of time what do others here do too get her attention. I've tried tipping at the stage, making eye contact, spend a few dances with other girls to show I'm spending. Sometimes one of these work but I'm curious what tactics others employ.
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If I think she’s a DS, and if it’s a very busy night and she has lots of attention, I might hand her a Benjamin. But usually a $20 bill will suffice.
This doesn’t always work but it often does.
I say just sit back and always be a gentleman, and maybe things will start to change. If not, there are other girls.
SJG
I waited 3 hours for a girl and it paid off.
Now she remembers me whenever I go to the club.
Those dancers can't leave the regulars just for a stranger
As JS69 mentioned, wait till she's on stage and be direct w/ her - asking her to come by has a high failure-rate - I'd be direct and ask her if that custy is her regular and if he is if she can still give you dances.
Sometimes it's not a regular and a a dancer will sit w/ a custy 45-minutes trying to close a sale - in a dive I hit when they announce a 2-for-1 and a dancer I like is sitting w/ a custy and he doesn't look like he's going for dances w/ the 2-for-1, I'll walk up behind the custy so he can't see me, make eye-contact w/ the dancer, and point to the dance-booths; it usually works but that is a dive-club.
Anyway, if the girl cannot engage at that time, she will appreciate the effort.
SJG
Or...
Stop needing one girl so bad that this is such a problem.
I also once told her that I would buy her regular a drink and when she told him she could go off with me but declined the drink.
My last tactic is to sit where she will hopefully walk by and when she does I simply ask her when she will be available ASAP. I usually get at least a status update on her availability if anything.
While you think about that I'll point out that even though you may not see her making money from the guy she's sitting with, it's entirely possible that she's getting paid in ways you can't see; quite possibly at times you can't see.
If a dancer has a regular, usually its because of money "and" she likes hanging out with dude for whatever reason.
For example, I was with a dancer (probably the baddest in the club) for like 2 hours. Getting dances, talking, drinking,etc... now Im not her regular but I assumed it looked like that to the other customers. 2x that night a dancer approached her stating that someone wanted some dances. I didnt mind the shit because Im working on something else with her (otc with minimal pay) but each time she was frustrated about it and said "I dont them, and Im not sure if he is going to spend any money etc.."... Im not saying that all strippers think like this when they are with a regular but if you have the luxury/time to play it cool then that may be your best option.
What you dont want is a stripper giving you a lazy dance, because she wants to be with her regular.
JS69 is right. However, his statement to the dancer is that you are going to outspend the others. Your stage tip of $20 - or $100 - is bold - and it should move you up in priority. However, you must maintain a higher level of spending if she comes over to you.
So - the moral of the story remains - money talks - and more money usually gets the dancer.
But usually I tell my regulars to go make money (by attending to others) if I'll be at the club for a while and I see lots of guys tip them on stage. That works out as they make money and when They come back to me they're much more relaxed and happy, which in turn makes me relaxed and happy!
I would echo some of the statements above, but in stronger language: You don't know fuckall about whether or not she's "obviously not making money for a long stretch of time". As an example, when I sit with my CF, it's usually 60-90 minutes before we even do our first dance. You have no idea if the regular she's with is going to give her $1000 at the end of the night, you have no idea if he just paid her rent, you have no idea if he comes in twice a week and gives her $500 each time so that even if you have $800 to spend it isn't worth risking her regular week-in-and-week-out $1000.
I think the most important takeaway here is: I think a lot of guys get frustrated and butthurt over "why is she choosing THAT GUY who isn't spending money, when I want to spend money and still she won't come over to me?". Since you now realize you have no idea whether or not he's spending money -- and actually, the fact that she's spent 2 hours with him probably means he's spending a lot of money, and she has high confidence about that -- you don't have to take it personally.
I think JS's approach can sometimes with the girl over. I get douche chills just thinking about using that approach, just doesn't fit my personality, but it IS one way to do it. You often still won't get my ATF away from me -- again, she has no idea if you're bluffing, and why would she give up a great weekly regular over a one-time windfall -- but it will sometimes work.
I'll tell you what works more often if you want a dance with *my* ATF. Approach her on stage. Tell her you'd like to do a dance with her, and assure her it's just a couple of lap dances, or one VIP ("I can see you're with your regular, do you think he'd mind if we did just a couple of quick dances?"). While I will fire my ATF for abandoning me for a JS69-type, so the stakes are tougher for her (going with JS69 after his approach would mean potentially losing me permanently as a regular), if she comes back to me and asks "do you mind if I do just a couple of lap dances with that guy, I'll cut him off at 3?", I always say "sure, go for it."
Today, I had ab four regular customers all wanting dances, so I went w the one who wanted 40 mins of vips. I told him, “I think you like getting me when all of the other guys are lined up,” and he said “I like getting the girl I want and not being nagged by the other ones at the bar while I wait.” Everything has it’s price.
The thing about regulars is you never know the relationship. Some are big spenders when they come, others may not seem like it but come frequently and are valued as gold just the same.
Either buy your way in, or become one yourself. Personally, I'd move onto the next one.
I can definitely see that approach working if she is just sitting with a guy who is furniture (fun customer who just buys drinks) rather than a good-spending regular, but in that case, you don't need to blow $50 to pull her away.
Ha ha! Just teasing! :) :)