What would you do?
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
One of my active favorites has gone silent on me. Not responding to texts for the past four days. This, after pretty consistent messaging and OTC activity. I can recall no hint of why she would ghost like this. She did not mention travel or seem despondent etc... Enjoyed talking about future meet ups. Things were going great now <crickets>. Of course I know this may mean nothing in the p4p world but its all I've got.
Here's the deal, I know where she works in the civie world and her hours. I'm tempted just to pop in and see what's up. Probably a bad idea I know. I'm leaning strongly against it but it is tempting. What would you do if your ATF, or close to it, ghosted in a similar fashion but you new where to reach her in person?
Truth be told though...I wouldn't want her coming to look for me in person if reversed.
Here's the deal, I know where she works in the civie world and her hours. I'm tempted just to pop in and see what's up. Probably a bad idea I know. I'm leaning strongly against it but it is tempting. What would you do if your ATF, or close to it, ghosted in a similar fashion but you new where to reach her in person?
Truth be told though...I wouldn't want her coming to look for me in person if reversed.
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I hope you see how creepy this is my friend
She's not a stripper. I cannot go see her in the club. She's a waitress in a civvie restaurant. Her phone was jacked up big time so I'm thinking it may have given up the ghost.
But yea, too creepy and won't do it. I'm just worried about her and curious.
Don't be creepy. Nobody likes creepy.
Two different regulat CF's disappeared on me and I just let it go. One came back almost 8 months later and a bf who had her cut off from her job and clients. Once that was failing she came back. The other one for 6 months, came back, then disappeared again for over a year now. I suspect bf or she caught a bigger fish.
Your concern is admirable but you may ruin any future opportunity if she sees you as a stalker.
Kidding.
So she's not a stripper but a waitress - did you meet her in the restaurant originally? If so then maybe it wouldn't be so weird if you showed up. Now if you didn't meet her there then that could be totally creepy to her.
If you own and use a Go-Pro camera, then yes. That is exactly what you should do.
A dick pic is a flawless move.
If that doesn't work (highly unlikely, all girls love dick pics) then follow your first instinct and camp outside her workplace for a week. Do not talk to her until she's seen you there for a full week waiting and watching her. Your proclamation of undying love for her will be more genuine that way.
No such problem with my current and all time ATF (ha ha!), I am on her instagram and snapchat, I have two of her working email addresses, I'm on the snapchat and instagrams of several of her friends, and am on the social media of her mother (who is a decade younger than me).
In any case, moral of the story: the girls will lose their phone or change their phone number and lose their contacts, but will never lose access to their social media. If you dig her, best to get on it. If she unfriends you, you know she's cutting ties rather than just a lost phone or personal crisis
I've often been asked by favorites to give them my phone number yet again because the lost or destroyed their phone. They seem incapable of backing their contacts up in the cloud. Baffling given the monetary value of a phone full of PL contacts.
And that's exactly why I almost became a total creeper and was tempted to make contact with this very fine honey in the civvie world.
Accept it for what it is and just move on to the next fav
We can't make these women us like us, love us, see us, or even communicate with us. The most we can do is stay in just enough contact (e.g. by sending an occasional text) that they can get back in touch when *they* are ready to.
I won't text her while she's in jail, but when she's out, I'll hit her with an "Are you OK?" text without revealing that I know where she's been.
1) use Android phones
2) create a "work" Google account
3) set contacts default to store all new contacts in Google account
Then, every time you get a new work phone, you log into Google account during set up and Voila! there are all your contacts.
Lost your phone? Need to call your PL-iest PL to get money for a new phone? Borrow your boyfriend's phone (he's busy playing Xbox so he's not using it), log into Gmail with your work account. Voila! there's all your contacts, so you can look up a number and "order" a new phone.