Current favs at home club
CurbYour
North Carolina
I have a problem with dancers in my home club. There are ladies there that I have had frequent LDs with in the past and we have had lots of intimate fun in the LD room. Such activities include intense steamy 2-way action causing us both to almost lose control.
My problem is that every time I go to my home club, these ladies expect me to spend time and $$$ on them. Sometimes when I go to the home club, I just want to relax and scope the new talent. Sometimes I don't want a hot and heavy session. Sometimes I just want to be left alone. When I refuse them dances, these ladies get all upset and some no longer even ask me for dances, thinking I don't want them anymore. How do I turn them down without offending and keep the door open for future sweat sessions? Has anyone else had the same problem?
My problem is that every time I go to my home club, these ladies expect me to spend time and $$$ on them. Sometimes when I go to the home club, I just want to relax and scope the new talent. Sometimes I don't want a hot and heavy session. Sometimes I just want to be left alone. When I refuse them dances, these ladies get all upset and some no longer even ask me for dances, thinking I don't want them anymore. How do I turn them down without offending and keep the door open for future sweat sessions? Has anyone else had the same problem?
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I have found that dancers will need the money and will be back if it is really $$$. If it is only a few $, they may not be back.
These same dancers that pout or get pissed when u turn them down 99% of the time will gladly take your $$$ on another visit, all you have to do is ask them for dances/VIP and it'll be like nothing happened.
You are basically being manipulated and allowing yourself to be - dancers know custies often wanna get with different girls and they'll strongarm custies into only spending on them.
The most important thing a PL needs to learn to say in clubs is "no" , and be comfortable saying it.
Next time, or whatever time you want, just go to them or wave them down or get a waitress to fetch them. They will dance for you again. Most likely at least as good as before.
Each visit, I decide who gets a couple dances on the floor, or who I tell to come back later if I'm still here, and who I take to VIP for the coup de grace. They all take it in stride, and they always come back on my next visit with zero drama.
It's your money. Be polite, but own your decisions. They won't mind.
CP
I know that if I'm asked by a girl if I have a favorite dancer, who I come to see, what is your type etc., I reply that I'm an equal opportunity employer.
They usually get the point quickly.
After giving up the goods OTC they both expected me to sit with them ITC, tip them on stage, and hold their spot at my table when they went onstage. Oh, and they wanted to be in control of which other girls were allowed to join my table, or hang out with me when they had to go on stage. Both threatened no more OTC if they had to get up from my table while I chatted up other girls not in their respective clicks. Part of the problem is that I visit the club during non-busy times and they have to go on stage about every 20 mins.
One had a hissy fit ITC. The other has paused OTC (classic pussy restriction) until she's treated right ITC. Gladly giving up OTC with both to control how I spend my time and money. And indeed money is what it is all about. Those bitches don't give a shit about me personally. They just want me as a regular for the income.
I continue to roll into MY new favorite club, and I decide who I hang with and how I spend MY money. Lots of other OTC options materializing.
But the other posters are right. Those girls probably also see you as a sure thing and you shouldn't let them get too comfortable with that. That's why i think the one or two dances that you do with them pretty clearly lets them know that you're not going to spend that much money on them and they can't really get all huffy and puffy without looking ungracious and potentially losing a source of regular income.
You can also try throwing some complements, questions, interest towards one of the new girls or other girls you might be interested in while one of your current favorites sits with you. You can say like, "Who's that girl?", or "She's hot!" when said girl is on stage or walking nearby as i tend to zone and not engage too much and start looking at other girls when i'm not too interested in the company i'm sitting with. We usually end up watching other girls anyway and strippers just are unable to resist gossiping. Then your fav might get the clue that you're interested in other girls and clearly not a onegina man.
Now if these girls are getting long in the tooth, then who really cares what they think. They already know you're a regular customer who probably spends a decent amount of money and will come around if they're in a rut and you show them some interest again.
One way to keep that from happening is to do what others have said and spread the wealth if the lineup has enough depth. There are others, but a simple way if it's a small club is to stay away for a while and see what the vibe is when you go back.