How's your mood and attitude in real life ?

In general, strip clubbing has made me a more open-minded person. I respect the full spectrum of sex workers. Like you I also gained a lot of confidence in interacting with women I meet for the first time. I'm more flirty and funny. However, I limit my mongering strictly to strippers, where I can maintain a firewall from the rest of my life.

I think it's well documented that strip clubs are like factories for turning pathetic losers into RICH STUDs.

I am generally an outgoing extrovert I act the same way in the club as out of the club, damn I flirt with any women that are around but am careful not to be lewd or used any type of foul language around employees or colleagues.

i'm kinda a all or nothing type person - I either do things to the extreme or don't do them at all - not saying this is a good-thing, just how I'm wired either by nature and/or nurture.

I'm an "introverted extrovert" :) - i.e. it is not in my nature/nurture to start convos w/ anyone or be "Mr Social"; not b/c I don't wanna deal w/ people; mostly b/c it just does not come naturally or easily to me to break the ice - but if someone breaks the ice w/ me I can yap away for hours.

w.r.t. women - I also have trouble breaking the ice - I have dated women whom I met on the spur of the moment and I approached; but often times it was girls/women that already knew me (school, work, acquaintances, etc).

Yeah - I guess strip-clubs have made me less anxious about approaching hos in-part probably b/c i'm not so hard-up, but after I turned 40 (currently 47) I didn't wanna deal w/ the overhead of civvies nor dating and currently live life according to the K.I.S.S. principle - at the current time for w/e reason I have no desire to be tied-down to any one specific woman (and if I was dating or in a relationship I would not wanna be hitting strip-clubs) - thus for now I enjoy my freedom where I can pretty-much do and go as I please, currently prefer this over the obligations of a relationship or dating.

"However, in real life I'm quite an introvert"

Same here. That was actually the most difficult part of getting acclimated to being a dancer; without initiating conversations, I would barely make any money. So I was forced to step out of my comfort zone, which ended up being beneficial because now I'm wayyy more assertive in life (when I need to be). After I started dancing it helped me break out of my shell. I started sitting in the front row in all my classes, participating in all of the discussions, instead of cowering in the back afraid to speak up. I handle business and academics much better now. I ace presentations, even though my nerves are crazy high before them.

Still, my favorite place on earth is on my couch in front of my tv watching movies or shows by myself. I enjoy solitude. I think I come across differently on this board than I am IRL. I'm just a hardworking shy gal, but based on my posting style, I'm sure some people would expect me tp be some party-girl socialite which I definitely am not. Although I do know how to have fun from time to time. Lol.

Usually like Jeff Spicoli or The Dude. Except when a stripper tries to kiss me in a last-ditch attempt to sell a dance, then it gets real and I'm more like Mr. Hand.

Being one having trouble breaking the ice, it took me till my mid-30s to where I could be comfortable speaking in front of people w/o going w/o sleep the night b/f

For the better part of 3 decades, I've been the introverted type. I still am and I completely own it, but I have been making strides to become more extroverted. Going to clubs has helped me a lot with that.

While I don't go out of my way to approach strangers and strike up conversation, I am now completely comfortable with the natural flow of engaging in small talk. I have found that just acting like a normal, happy person has a positive effect on the people around you. When you show positivity when talking to people you meet in public, it has an effect where it makes other people around you happy, and you can tell by the way others around you will treat you.

There are also other factors to consider. Doing everything you can to take care of yourself physically as well as mentally will have long term benefits. Over the years I have put a ton of emphasis on my appearance. I exercise on a regular basis and I dress nicely. These are very simple things that have had a positive effect on how I feel about myself and how others around me feel about me.

I find myself more willing to take risks and being pleasantly surprised when I get a positive outcome. I used to chicken out all the time based on fear of what the outcome could be, or what others would think about me. I no longer find myself concerned with what other people think about me.

In reality, I may just be treating the clubs as an expensive form of therapy, but I am thankful that the clubs are there for me.

Definitely an introvert, but I'm slowly coming out of my shell.

My mood and attitude have greatly improved since my divorce back in 2003. :)

I'm really just a quiet guy in real life. I can type fast and think of a gazillion ideas in a short amount of time which is probably the only reason I appear like I might talk a lot. That might be true if I drink beer too. I'm not drinking tonight.

I don't think I'm any different. I try to be the same person. I don't have a problem talking to women, I just can't find a civilian one who's not damaged. That's why I can enjoy the club, it's all about business.

I agree with the OP.

When I was visiting SC's on a weekly basis, I found myself to be much more outgoing and confident. I found myself talking to women in the outside world more like I'd talk to the girls in the clubs. I even had a waitress at a restaurant one time wrote her phone number on the back of the check and tell me to call her sometime.

Going clubbing can sometimes be a good thing for your personality (but I found it to be hard on my wallet).

a275ironman -- nice!

I've always considered myself an introvert, meaning not that I'm shy -- I can speak in front of groups and converse with anyone -- but rather that I don't at all feed off the energy of others. Unless I'm at a strip club, I'm happiest in a movie theater or at home reading a book. However, I feel so much at home in strip clubs, especially at my regular hangouts, that they bring out the latent extrovert in me. Strippers tend to think that I'm wittier and more outgoing than I actually am. I also find that the increased confidence that I get in the club carries over into real life.

interaction with strippers has definitely helped me in the land of the brave. now i need to learn spanish to continue.the wonderful time in mexico.

I've always been an extrovert and a player. In my youth, my personality and good looks created lots of opportunities for "in a new woman's bed every night" (much less fuss if you get them to take you back to their place).

However, age and medical issues have made maintaining good looks difficult, so I have to work off personality and $$$ these days. The $$$ gets me in the door, but the personality (mood and attitude) usually gets me much more value for my $$$.

I do find that going through every day Life is much better in a good mood and with a good attitude. Most women are happy to take a compliment and are flattered by a little tasteful flirting. I strike up conversations with others at the bars of the sports bars I hang out in, and have made some good friends that way.

Thanks for the good discussion fellas. Happy clubbing !

I am not gregarious at a club or in real life but I think I am easy going. I think I'm pretty much exactly the same at a club as in real life. Extremely introverted and shy. I don't like conversation except with the girl I am going to get dances with.

I hate being approached by dancers because I don't like people trying to sell me something and I don't like talking. If wanted a dance from her I would have asked her first. That's the difference between club me and IRL me is that I have no problem approaching the girls I want in the club. But that is totally different because in a club you are just buying a product and there is almost no chance of rejection for the customer.

I rely on online dating services to meet women but interacting with strippers has helped my interacting with women on a personal level. Like talking and hugging.

Hard to say whether, or how, it's affected "real" life. I've been going to clubs since I was 17, so I don't really remember.

As others here, I'm firmly in the "introvert" category, but many people don't notice that, so maybe it has had an effect. I suspect the Marine Corps had more to do with that than clubbing, though.