Yes, Sometimes A Dancer Likes You
rockstar666
Illinois
Fri early evening, and I'm looking forward to quality time with my new regular, the tall thin blonde. It was crowded and I didn't see her at first, so I'm hanging at the bar getting settled when a VERY pretty Asian who I've seen but not indulged in came over. I was on the fence about her as even though I'm an Asian kind of guy and she was a solid 8-9, I just wasn't feeling a vibe in the past. She didn't strike me as high mileage for some reason although she has a million regulars.
We chat a little but she's very distracted. I was like a port in a storm I suppose; I would have taken her to VIP but she never asked. After an extended stay - 10 min. at least, she says she'll be back later and takes off. Obviously she has looking for a regular or two or maybe one in particular...but in such a crowded room I was flattered she hung with me anyway. She's seen me in the club before I'm sure and knows I spend money but she never even tried to close the deal. I could have just asked HER...but I didn't want to miss my new girl and I really thought at some point she'd ask if I wanted to take her to VIP. Okay...she got me warmed up at least...she said she'd be back but I knew she wasn't that interested in me.
Then the TSB (Tall Skinny Blond) shows up. This dancer is unlike any I've ever met in that she's the kind of girl I date, not buy dances from. She's very chatty and fun, loves my silly jokes (AND understands them!) is reasonably pretty, but I like the ethnic spinners as a rule for dancers which is why it took a year. I suppose I go for the kind of girl I could never get in high school when it comes to dancers. While TSB looks pleasant, she's no raving beauty.
As I mentioned, she was after me for a year until I tried her out. This was the 3rd time that she was my go-to for the evening so we've established a nice rapport by now. I take her to VIP and she gets the job done as usual, plus some, which has been the norm. And I thought this was a no extras club! LOL She knows where the camera is and how to shield it with her body. When we were done, the surprise was she quickly kissed me on the mouth, and that's a huge rules violation in this club! Dancers get suspended for it; in fact my retired ATF is the only dancer I've ever kissed ITC on the mouth and even SHE didn't want to make a habit of it.
TSB seemed shy about the kiss at first...like maybe I wouldn't like it, but that certainly was not the case. We did more VIP later on in the night, and she kissed me again, this time with real passion. While she doesn't kiss customers often (she says) she's not hustling me either. I just pay her the dance fee, and that's it. It sounds like SS that she said a few times how much fun I was, but we really were having a great time together. By now I know a real connection from an acting job. I like that I get lots of free time at the bar with her too.
I didn't ask about OTC but that can't be too far away...like I said she's the personality I date. She stayed with me right up to the end of her shift too which was great. We'll see what develops.
We chat a little but she's very distracted. I was like a port in a storm I suppose; I would have taken her to VIP but she never asked. After an extended stay - 10 min. at least, she says she'll be back later and takes off. Obviously she has looking for a regular or two or maybe one in particular...but in such a crowded room I was flattered she hung with me anyway. She's seen me in the club before I'm sure and knows I spend money but she never even tried to close the deal. I could have just asked HER...but I didn't want to miss my new girl and I really thought at some point she'd ask if I wanted to take her to VIP. Okay...she got me warmed up at least...she said she'd be back but I knew she wasn't that interested in me.
Then the TSB (Tall Skinny Blond) shows up. This dancer is unlike any I've ever met in that she's the kind of girl I date, not buy dances from. She's very chatty and fun, loves my silly jokes (AND understands them!) is reasonably pretty, but I like the ethnic spinners as a rule for dancers which is why it took a year. I suppose I go for the kind of girl I could never get in high school when it comes to dancers. While TSB looks pleasant, she's no raving beauty.
As I mentioned, she was after me for a year until I tried her out. This was the 3rd time that she was my go-to for the evening so we've established a nice rapport by now. I take her to VIP and she gets the job done as usual, plus some, which has been the norm. And I thought this was a no extras club! LOL She knows where the camera is and how to shield it with her body. When we were done, the surprise was she quickly kissed me on the mouth, and that's a huge rules violation in this club! Dancers get suspended for it; in fact my retired ATF is the only dancer I've ever kissed ITC on the mouth and even SHE didn't want to make a habit of it.
TSB seemed shy about the kiss at first...like maybe I wouldn't like it, but that certainly was not the case. We did more VIP later on in the night, and she kissed me again, this time with real passion. While she doesn't kiss customers often (she says) she's not hustling me either. I just pay her the dance fee, and that's it. It sounds like SS that she said a few times how much fun I was, but we really were having a great time together. By now I know a real connection from an acting job. I like that I get lots of free time at the bar with her too.
I didn't ask about OTC but that can't be too far away...like I said she's the personality I date. She stayed with me right up to the end of her shift too which was great. We'll see what develops.
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That said:
-->" By now I know a real connection from an acting job."
I definitely don't ... and I believe if you really do, you're the only one on tuscl. Even after all these years, the only sure sign to me that there's real connection, is that we're having sex for free, and everything else I interpret as -- at most -- going a little further for a favorite customer she wants to keep. Nothing in your story above stands out to me as not being explainable by the "favorite customer" explanation, but I have the benefit of not having been there and so no emotional involvement.
I'm so glad I club in Detroit, where a dancer would probably not get in trouble if she hung upside down on the pole and blew me on stage.
Should I just leave my pants at the house lol
My worldview is in upheaval.
Meaning, ultimately it's still about payment for services rendered.
I think all but 2 people on tuscl would agree strongly with that -- for me, the only proven exceptions are girls who sex you for free. But there is a contingent of posters here who seem to believe that every customer is just a customer, strippers dislike all of them the exact same amount, strippers do the exact same thing for every guy for the same price for the same amount of time -- in other words, strippers are autonomic, perfect economic actors. To me, that stance is the tuscl equivalent of the type of posing done on SW, but you definitely see it here. I do think it is very easy to overestimate how much "fondness" a stripper develops, or why, though.
Succinct yet eloquent! Lolol
I've known guys who got free sex from strippers. One way or another, it turns out to be incredibly not free. I concede to the possibility that exceptions may exist, but then again I hold the same attitude towards the Loch Ness Monster.
On the free sex thing, I've gotten to FWB with a very small number of strippers... sex is never FREE free, but it wasn't much different than having a needy unreliable civilian FWB who makes poor decisions, only hotter and crazier.
That's been my experience too!
Subraman has the right of it. You're usually going to be safe assuming there's nothing more than a customer/salesperson dynamic going on, but I will never again discount the possibility that more could be there than meets the cynical eye. Not with two counter examples in just the last few years.
This is TUSCL, what else is new?
SJG
I guess you want to see girls in the club only.
Well then you will end up in those situations, deciding whether to wait for your favorite, or to accept a substitute.
And as guys get older, they seem to get to where they have more money than jizm.
I meant just quit the club only for so long as you are seeing this girl, and she still dances at that club. But you want to keep things the way they are.
Okay.
SJG
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SJG
But if you don't want responses to something, then don't post it, or you will likely be disappointed.
I think you're a middle aged man who missed his chance, jr high school, chance to be Joe Cool.
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To be posting about girl vs girl dynamics, as they occur confined to a strip club, is pretty lame. If I'd of known that you actually wanted it that way, then I would not have responded because that is not even worthy of a response.
SJG
Don't worry though, I know you want to be seen as Joe Cool. I won't get in your way.
SJG
However, my CF does enjoy kissing.....a lot!
She spends a great deal of time chatting with me at the bar, just like a girlfriend.
I wish I could say she is not hustling me, but pretty sure she is.
We both have a good time, that's all that matters.
IMHO...
I would say yes she is hustling you, at least in her mind which is what really matters. That's all SS is; a means to hustle.
OTOH...
Did you get hustled? I don't think so because you see through her SS for what it is. You get good value for your $ in your mind, which is what really matters on this front.
The club is all Fantasy Island. The dancers try to hustle and help us believe what we want to believe.
I only feel hustled if I get an air dance, or if she promises me something and then doesn't deliver. I don't think this current fave is the OTC type despite her attraction to me, but I hope I'm wrong because I'm absolutely going to ask if it's available. Even my 15+ year regular who recently retired never did OTC (with anyone), and she was the closest dancer friend I ever had as far as sharing our lives went and being honest. Hell, I would have married that girl if she were interested! LOL So did she hustle me? I don't feel like it...she never lied, never cheated me. She just didn't want to have me fuck her! LOL But some would say she got 15+ years of money from me while I hoped she'd change her mind so it was a hustle.
SJG
SJG
But she wasn't hustling me intentionally because she never even hinted that OTC would be available, and I did ask several times over the years. I saw her through a divorce and 2 B/F's so there was no implied promise she'd ever be available either. That's why I don't feel hustled...she was an ATF as far as ITC...but I still hold my ex-ATF as the standard since she did OTC and dates with me.