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I went to a SC and it turned out to be 21 and over (I'm 20), so I went across the parking lot to another clib and it was terrible. Well anyway, U took an uber to a street that is known for a message parlor. I scoped out the area for LE and then I went in. I rang the door bell and this old asian woman came up and said hello, I said umm are yall open. She said oh yes and opened the door. I walked in and there were about 4 girls sitting on the couch watching tv. The old woman took me to a room and I paid the room fee. A few minutes later a cute Japanese chick walked in. Long story short, she jerked me off, blew me, and had sex with me. I couldn't perform. I just couldn't get hard. I was (am?) a virgin up until that point. I used a condom but to be honest with you, I couldn't feel a thing. This is the second time I got a message and I failed to get hard.. What the hell is the matter with me? I watch porn a lot and beat off 3 to 4 times a day, everyday. Would that be a reason why I couldn't get hard? I got a lil stiffy but not a full on hard on.

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  • jackslash
    8 years ago
    Was it a written message? Those will seldom get you hard, but they may be hard to understand.
  • warhawks
    8 years ago

    Was it a message in a bottle?

    Those can be the hardest sometimes to get out.
  • gammanu95
    8 years ago
    The message is that you are clearly queer. PM SJGay to help you find a good MAMP.
  • DallasCowboys
    8 years ago
    Massage... Can't believe I kept mispelling it lol.. I pwamous I'm not a retard.
  • Tiredtraveler
    8 years ago
    It is call performance anxiety. I know a guy that cannot piss into a urinal standing next to someone. He simple can't go even if there is a divider.
    Although most 20 yo have trouble holding back not the other way around.
    It is the same reason guys had trouble at Bogarts before booths.
  • Subraman
    8 years ago
    -->"This is the second time I got a message and I failed to get hard.."

    That's so fucking weird. SJG messaged me on Tuesday and I've had a stiffie ever since
  • Corvus
    8 years ago
    If I was you I would start paying more attention in school and learn how to spell and make complete sentences. And seriously dude, stop jerking off so damn much. You are addicted to porn and have no idea what to do with a real living woman.

    From the sounds of it at least the people of the world don't have to worry about you breeding and burdening the rest of us with more idiots.
  • Dominic77
    8 years ago
    To answer you question "what's wrong with me" I agree with TiredTraveler that it is performance anxiety. You and your partner, when faced with ED, should just "laugh it off" and "start again." Performance anxiety can happen to young guys, too.

    There are healthy ways to control sexual energy. Just as there are healthy strategies for fulfilling sexual needs.

    You see, it's not about how often you masturbate but about how you're living the rest of your life. As long as masturbation is a part of your life and INSTEAD of your life, you're fine. When masturbation becomes an escape from problems in your relationship, it begins to affect your health, or it turns into a substitute for real life experiences, then you should consider slowing down on your stroking and dealing with who's and what's around.

    As San_Jose_Guy (SJG) would say: strip clubs, AMPs, (and MAMPs) aren't as solution to anything. It's just (edgy) adult entertainment. :)


    source: http://centerforhealthysex.com/faq/mastu…
    source: https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-much-ma…
  • Dominic77
    8 years ago
    Lol @ desertscrub. ;)
  • Subraman
    8 years ago
    I understand why you guys sometimes treat the trolls as if they are real -- because if they ask an on-topic question, there may be real lurkers out there who can use the advice, and sometimes it leads to interesting discussion. But is there a point where it's so transparent that it's not worth replying? I have actual thoughts on the less ridiculous parts of the original post, but damn...
  • Dominic77
    8 years ago
    ^ True.
  • Dominic77
    8 years ago
    It's the liberal in me. I want to help people. But sometimes you can't help stupid. Point taken. . .

    Go fuck you, you shitty-review-poster, take that lotion bottle of yours, and shove it up your ass you lame-review, Law-Enforcement, fucking troll.
  • Subraman
    8 years ago
    Phew! You've restored my faith in tuscl

    :) :)
  • Papi_Chulo
    8 years ago
    What makes you guys think he's a troll? To me he's an inexperienced 20 y/o guy and is not gonna express himself like us.
  • shailynn
    8 years ago
    1st off your masturbating way too much. There is a problem brewing where young men all over the world have such easy access to porn they beat off so much they can't perform when they actually come into a real sexual encounter. Also it's been said they have unreal expectations from their partners from what they see in porn.

    My best advice to you is refrain from masturbating at least 3 days before you go to the massage parlor again. You still may have some anxiety issues but you're more likely to succeed.

    If I have a "hot date" with a stripper or my wife planned in advance I will skip masturbating for at least 4 days before the date. That way I am fully loaded and horny as hell and I'm so hard I think I could use my schlong as a baseball bat. I know it may sound hard to skip masturbating for several days but you're going to have to do it to be successful in a sexual encounter.
  • RandomMember
    8 years ago
    Yeah, this all falls under the category of "pre-sex rituals."

    I have weekly meetings with my sweetheart on Wednesday (for obvious reasons) and prepare several days in advance by not jerking off, not watching porn, not reading any of @Smiths sex stories, and avoiding any television or print renditions of KellyAnne Conway. Then, the day of our meetings, I go cycling, swimming, and do some light weight lifting. I don't eat anything beforehand so that all the blood rushes to my dick instead of my stomach. It all pays off in the end. This can be reduced to an exact science if you have the necessary willpower.
  • Dominic77
    8 years ago
    Good point Shailynn.

    OP: you need to give up porn -- especially "hard core" porn for at least 5 weeks. Others on here say 2 weeks is fine. This is separate from the masturbation but you might not have the will power for weeks of abstention from that. But quit the porn. Hard core porn re-programs your brain in not-so-subtle and damaging ways. It hurts your ability to perform (well) with a real flesh and blood woman.

    I say you need 5 weeks from porn (minimum) to re-program (un-fuck-up) your mind so that you can get properly and healthily aroused with real flesh & blood women in real, normal environments.

    That's your problem, IMO.
  • warhawks
    8 years ago
    There as so many multi IDs on this forum that I just automatically assume that anyone who just created a username in the past month is a fishing.
  • warhawks
    8 years ago
    ^ are and no a.

    WTF..... we need a fucking edit button!
  • sinclair
    8 years ago
    shailynn nailed this one on the head. DallasCowboys, I think you have a condition called "porno creep". It is becoming prevalent among young guys. From urban dictionary:

    A condition that results from the constant or excessive watching of pornographic material.It is characterised by an inability to get an erection under circumstances that do not involve the watching of pornographic material, due to the lack of psychologial connection between other human contact and sex. One treatment involves watchin porn until the erection is achieved then having sex, this re-establishes the connection between other people and sex. This condition is more frequent in virgins as the initial connection has not been made.
  • twentyfive
    8 years ago
    Besides the fact that masturbating will make you go blind. Ha
  • san_jose_guy
    8 years ago
    Need to be relaxed, and feel you have some rapport with the girl, not just that she is performing a mechanical service.

    SJG
  • MrDeuce
    8 years ago
    I'm gonna say: orthographically challenged troll
  • DallasCowboys
    8 years ago
    Thanks for the advice guys. I'll lay off the porn. To all those other guys, fuck yall. We need an edit button I agree.
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