I got played by the DS
larryfisherman
California
Recap: In my previous thread I told you guys about wanting to hang out with my DS OTC. A couple of other times I tried, but for whatever reason our schedules didn't match up. This time I invited her to a sporting event, she was out of town, but she said she would probably be back in town on the day of the game, and she said she would love to go. Fast forward to yesterday, I texted her if she was still down to go. NO RESPONSE. She always texts me back right away, so this time I knew there wasn't gonna be a response.
I prepared myself for the worst, but it didn't take away any of the pain. She was my dream girl, I really wanted her to be my girl. I think we both found each other attractive, I'm only five years older than her etc, not a huge age difference etc. I thought we had a connection. I didn't spend crazy amounts of money on her. Damn it hurts right now. Maybe I should have taken Gawker's advice and told her I wanted to fuck, I've sucked her tits, kissed her ass during lapdances.
How do I get over this?
I prepared myself for the worst, but it didn't take away any of the pain. She was my dream girl, I really wanted her to be my girl. I think we both found each other attractive, I'm only five years older than her etc, not a huge age difference etc. I thought we had a connection. I didn't spend crazy amounts of money on her. Damn it hurts right now. Maybe I should have taken Gawker's advice and told her I wanted to fuck, I've sucked her tits, kissed her ass during lapdances.
How do I get over this?
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Ask someone else to the junior prom.
Start there.
And tissues. Lots of tissues...
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That's her job @Larry old buddy. It's her job to make you feel like there's a connection.
Other than that, nothing gets you over the last one like the next one.
RockStar666 is, in my opinion, the closest to the right way to get over this. Although, in my opinion, the real right way to get over this is to stop going to the strip club.
Larry, we're both in our mid-20s. What is the point of going to a strip club? To spend $1000s to get lapdances in the pursuit of OTC sex or possibly a stripper girlfriend? Even if you did manage to seal the deal, get some OTC sex... you still probably paid way more and got a much bigger headache than if you had just hired a real sex worker. And if you do OTC enough and make her your girlfriend, congratulations, you spent $1000s to get a girl to go steady with you and her job is to take off her clothes for hundreds of other guys. And if she did OTC with you, and she's hot, she's probably also doing OTC with bunch of other old rich guys.
The real right way to get over this is for you to be with the girl who has greater interest in you than you do in her.
Fact: If your interest in her is greater than her interest in you, she will eventually leave your sad sorry ass (or just ignore you as this DS did).
^^^ The best advice in the thread.
@johnsmith-I'm not necessarily looking for a girlfriend, but she is my dream girl, I definitely wouldn't have minded her being my girl. You're right though, the strip club is the last place to look for that.
@futuretrackstar- I love the stripclub because there are tons of beautiful women topless and/or naked all in one building. On top of that you can fuck a lot of them. I guess I try to convince myself that some of them are good girls and are only stripping to get through school. In the civilian world the 9's and 10's aren't interested in me, I can get 7's and maybe the occasional 8. I want the best of the best, and that's what the strip club offers (especially here in LA). You're right though, sometimes I ask myself why am I even in the strip club.
These girls are hard to figure out. Just last week she gave me her new number. She told me she is in school, she told me she is single, maybe it was all a lie. Maybe she found a sugar daddy in Miami that's gonna take care of her financially.
I rarely give out 10's, but she is a perfect 10 to me.
Her best stripper friend works at the same club as her in LA. Her stripper friend is ALL about the money, she has had regulars just give her 500 bucks for nothing. I think her friend had some influence on her, telling her to treat me like a ATM and nothing else. That's what I think anyway.
@govikings-maybe she realized she doesn't need my money anymore?
In my opinion, there is only one other type of guy she might go for in the club... but I'm also quite sure you're not a 6'5" 220 lb ripped black dude who is hung like a horse and who makes her pussy soaking wet just by talking to her.
As 20 somethings, we should be working our way up the Status ladder so the 9s and 10s will start doing double takes.
Do you really want to be the sucker that is cuckolded regularly, fuck em and forget em, Find a nice civvie girl there plenty of gorgeous civvie girls out there your own age that would be thrilled to have a guy spend one tenth of the money, that you drop on these whores, on them and they would show real gratitude not this fake bullshit that makes a fool out of you.
A stripper giving you her number is meaningless. They do this so they can text you and tell you to come in to the club if it's a slow night.
Strippers will sometimes meet you for some non-sex fun like going to a game or the zoo, but it's not usually as much fun as it sounds.
And she is not making $1000 a night, at least not every night.
After that I have to repeat: Don't fall in love with a stripper. Don't go to a strip club looking for a girl friend. Accept the fact that 95% of strippers are damaged - psychological problems, drug problems, self image problems , daddy issues, social problems, ex-BF problems, current BF problems, and on and on and on. The other 5% are using the system to achieve an objective - earn tuition, avoid a 9 to 5 job or whatever and 99% of that 5% won't meet otc.
If you are looking for the company and perhaps more of beautiful women, there's no better place, but listen to what experience has told all of us who have commented. Get real.
As I mentioned b/f, IDK why she would be telling you how much she's making, maybe a subliminal message of how much you would have to pony-up for you to be worth her time , who knows - again talk is cheap (w.r.t. her saying she'd love to meet you but something keeps coming up).
I would think many of these girls, especially the young and hot ones, live fast lives and probably party a good deal - not the ideal girl to date unless one lives that lifestyle also.
But hey look on the bright-side, now you can take Juice to the game.
@JohnSmith or Maryjane :) -I'm not gonna do that, I'm not gonna treat this one like a prostitute. Like trackstar said I'm too young to be paying women for sex, hell I really shouldn't be even be going to strip clubs right now.
Larry, that's what I've been telling myself for 10 years.
Now, you are saying you don't want to pay for sex and shouldn't be going to strip clubs now.
You are all over the place. Keep your story straight. Sounds like you were full of shit all along about making it rain $30k and spending $20k in a few months on your old favorite.
It seems to me, based on this thread, that you are only spending $100 every couple of weeks and you shouldn't really be spending that much.
Bullshit much?
I DID NOT MAKE IT RAIN 30K, IT WAS A JOKE. Most sensible people can see that.
Yes I spent big time on a fav when I first started and had no experience. I've since severely cut down on my spending.
Futuretrackstar made some good points about me being too young to being a strip club addict and paying for sex, and I agreed with him. Plus she is my DS and I'm not going to treat her like a prostitute.
Anything else Sherlock Holmes??
While you're at it, write some reviews.
Just be open and assertive, and also safe for her if she has to sometimes decline.
It only becomes a big head trip when you are being way to slow in asking her out.
Good Luck,
SJG
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