Does she really like me or is gaming me?
Snakeyes11
Well -- I went Thursday as in the 5th. It was particular slow that night and my friend and I were doing are usual talk to any dancer that approached us. My buddy would mostly just talk to them and never get a dance. Kinda like my wingman. Well the first girl that sat down and talk to me hustled me for 5 dances and I agreed (like a idiot.) I then went back to my seat and continued enjoying my night. A few of the dancers knew us by our faces and would ask us how we were doing and would just talk with us, never ask for a dance or try to hustle us.
Well on Thursday there was this one really cute dancer that grabbed a chair and would sit next to me. Her and I were talking about anything, places we want to travel to, favorite foods, music etc, If she offered and only if she did I would accept dances from her. After we did two or three dances, she would walk me back to my table and continue to sit with me. Typically most dancers give you a dance and then go on there way to other guys. She would sit with me all night and occasionally make her rounds around the dance floor. She would check in with me from time to time. We were talking and she asked me if I had Snapchat. I did not. So I take out my phone and she whispers to me. "Do me a favor, turn down your brightness on your phone a little bit, the manager is watching us, I don't mean he's over your shoulder, but they are watching." So I downloaded the app and set it up. She tells me her username and says "Send me a message with an emoji or something so I know it's you." So I add her and send her a message. She continues to sit with me and I would never ask for a dance unless she asked me first. She asked and I would agree and we did five dances. We talked about the VIP room and she told me she would show me the VIP room for free and I said "Are you sure you will show me for free?" I asked again and she said yes both times. We then went back the table and she sat next to me.
I would tip her instead of just forking over fifty dollars. She would sit with me again and we would talk and she would tell me about other dances on the stage and what I think of that dancer. She came back to me with and she was drinking champagne from a party that recently ended, but this time instead of sitting in a chair next to me, she sat on my lap and continued to talk to me about everything. Well we stayed pretty late, past 5AM. Around 4:40AM she asks if I will wait about ten minutes or so she can say goodbye to me. I agreed, well ten minutes or so passed and she came back and we hugged. Then my buddy and I said goodbye to the the GM and waited for the vallet to grab our car.
The whole way home my buddy and I were talking about the night and my phone was in my pocket and when I dropped him at his apartment I see she added me on Snapchat and she sent me a message saying "Goodnight" with a kissing face emoji. I replied back and told her I had a great time and would like to come back soon. She did not reply back to me until the next day. It was around 10PM on Friday when she sent me a message and we were talking briefly. She was going to work so we had a few minutes to talk. She sent me a picture of herself and what she was wearing that night. I replied back to her, I have not heard back from yet since then. I am not worried about it. Should I maybe send a message to her on SC with my Google Voice phone number attached or, go back on Thursday or Friday and see what happens?
She only works at that club two days a week and works her other job on other days. She told me where her other job was and It's pretty close to me. I don't want to seem champagne and show up there, I don't even know her real name yet so It'd be weird. Should I assume she's playing me or does she actually want something more then me being a customer of hers.
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Some people are better at their job than others, some dancers put more effort into their hustle.
Do you get approached on a regular basis by hot chicks you don't know that do what this chick did? If yes then decent chance she's into you, o/w you should get my point and if not then you are less far along than I thought :)
Your story is actually common for those of us that have been in the game long-enough, you're not the first PL to be "confused" w.r.t. to a dancer's motives, that is how good dancers bank, the more honey they put out the more flies they attract.
Most custies are unfamiliar w/ the SC environment and they may SC once in a while, many of these dancers do this day in day out many for years so the avg PL is at a disadvantage and on her turf. She most likely is experiencef saw you as an easy mark and most likely the main reason she wanted your # is so she can keep getting you in the club eo she can continue to work on you to get everything out of you she can, that's why she probably didn't answer your text till the next day b/f she was going in to work (so she could try to get you to come in again).
Strippers strip to get $$$, that is their *job*,nl not to hook up w/ guys in the club, most of them already have a BF - when it comes to dealing w/ strippers it's best to always assume you're being played unless proven o/w and proven o/w means she fucks you for free
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There's this dancer who gave me her number the first or second time we met. Then we became friends on Facebook. She'll always chill with me in the club and doesn't hustle me for dances. We've ate out together twice, once a day she was off and she brought her son; another after her shift. The most that came of all of the above is hugs after dinner or breakfast and ass in my lap, tits in my face when chillin at the club.
The above cool with me? Yeah, it is what it is. But as you can see it's not the "like" I think you're mentioning.
It's YOUR MONEY - NO ONE fucking tells you how to spend it especially some lazy hustler stripper bitch by telling you she wants X and all you do is say yes, if you don't learn how to stand your ground in SCs you will constantly get pennies for your dollars and get taken - your $$$ your rules - you pay her to do what you want/like, it is arsenide to pay her to do what she wants/says.
I'm gonna be blunt again for your own good, you are in a no way shape or form ready to be dealing w/ strippers OTC at this time, you'll get eaten alive - just stick to lap-dances until you learn how strip-clubs and strippers really work.
Whichever dancer asked you for 5 danced and you just agreed just b/c and she only gave you 3 and you still paid for 5 is the problem, and my point - it doesn't matter which dancer it was just that you allowed yourself to be treated that way is the problem and my point - i.e. the fact that one dancer hustled you so easily means the snapshat chick saw she can easily hustle you too - I don't have a crystal-ball to say that 100% chance snapshat girl is hustling you, just 99% chance she is - so just like in "Dumd and Dumber", "technically" there's a chance she's genuinely into you even if it's just 1%
2. She's not interested in your money.
3. You should start shopping for a ring - you're going to need it soon.
4. The Abominable Snowman is a lock to be your best man.
5. Take the above-mentioned ring and insert it in your nose. This will enable the girl to more easily lead you along since you are definitely BEING PLAYED BIG TIME!
The dancers work for tips. The only way to know is to take the money away and see if she'll still see you.
Stop thinking "she's trying to game me." For fucks sake. The dancers don't get dolled up, put on skimpy outfits and heels just to hang out for free and try to find a boyfriend. She's working and trying to make money. 99.9% of the time its about the money, and we'll be right.
Stop worrying about hustles and mind games and just try to have some fun and stay within your budget. You are over thinking this and over analyzing this too much. Try not to go too often, either. If you're a guy in your teens, 20s, or 30s there are better ways to spend you time and better ways to meet people. Healthier, too. My $0.02. I've clubbed on an off since 1995 when I turned 18. In that time, I've been to cubs about 31 times. For me. That's enough.
It strikes me that "gaming" implies some attempt to pry more money out of a PL's wallet than the PL wants to give the stripper. Basically, some sort of con.
It sounds like this girl gave the OP a way to contact her (snapchat) that she felt comfortable with. It also sounds like she revealed what her other job was, though it did not seem as though the stripper wanted any contact via her other work.
This strikes me as advertising, not at game. Come back and see me. If she strings you along implying (or straight out saying) that she'll do more (BJ or sex) if you pay her and the "more" never materializes then she's gaming you.
Approach this the brilliant way Snakeeyes11. As long as she gives you what you agree to and you're having fun don't stress. If she starts asking for money but not delivering, she's gaming you. Stop!
It'll be ace! ;)
She only "likes" you like a real g/f if you're fucking her for free.
Did you ever go back to the club and spend little to no money on her? If so, how was it?
She had mentioned about OTC and I told her I agreed on hanging out outside the club.
I thought she was full of it and gave me a fake number, so I dropped off my friend and I told him I had to get back to the club. She told me "pretend your my uber driver and come get me." Seeing as I do Uber on the side it was a flawless plan. I thought well I was just here like an hour maybe hour and a half ago they are going to know my plate number. Well she told me "When you get here pull to the left side of the building." Now I usually always let the vallet people park my car so I never noticed the alley on the side of the building. So I get there and I see the alley, I didn't know where to park since they were pretty much closed up and getting all the employees and dancers out of there. I left the parking lot and made a u turn. She then called me and said "Go back to the alley just go farther in by the exit on the side, just keep your head down so they don't know it's you." She told the vallet people she was waiting for a black car for her Uber. She gets in the back of my car and waits until we get out of site from the club and to the intersection, to hop up front. I get on the interstate and she navigates me to her place. Which turned out to only be about 20-25 minutes from my place. We talked the whole way home. I told her about how I told some of my friends about her and how they all think she is playing me. She told me "Well they've never met me I am not a typical stripper who wants to screw every guy I meet, it's not all about sex with me."
Now to see if she'll follow through on OTC. We were suppose to do something on Friday but she woke up late. I will keep pressing it and see what happens.
It doesn't matter whether you have a connection or not, whether she's playing you or genuine. It's going to be fucked up no matter what.
Take it from experience. Run.